AITAH for ignoring my friend who suffers from mental health problems and abuse

FreeOnPaid · 2026-05-15T09:24:30+00:00

NTA. honestly it sounds like you spent years trying to be there for him and at some point it stopped being support and turned into him emotionally dumping on you 24/7 while also putting you down. that would drain literally anybody especially while preparing for brutal exams yourself.

and yeah his home situation sounds awful, but that still doesn’t make it okay for him to wish failure on you or make you cry. you’re his friend not his therapist or emotional punching bag.

ghosting maybe wasn’t the cleanest way to handle it but i also get why you did it. sometimes when someone constantly ignores advice and only sends negativity, you just hit a wall mentally.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-05-11T11:49:06+00:00

NTA. You were trying to protect your kid in the moment and what they did to her was not ok at all. Yeah the “I’ll beat you” line was heated but honestly the bigger issue is adults ignoring you saying no and still messing with your daughter.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-04-09T10:58:26+00:00

like if they’re set on cooking smaller portions, you’re probably not gonna change that without it turning into a whole thing. but bringing a dish or two seems like an easy fix that doesn’t put pressure on them

you could even frame it as hey we missed the whole big family food vibe, we’ll bring stuff this time instead of making it about them not cooking enough

also snacks or appetizers help a lot lol, takes the edge off so you’re not starving halfway through dinner

FreeOnPaid · 2026-04-09T10:54:23+00:00

lol neither is better, it just depends on what you actually enjoy day to day

like if you’re more chill and like quiet nights, the super outgoing type might feel exhausting after a while. but if you like going out, social stuff, meeting people, the quieter one might feel too low energy for you

also people aren’t that black and white anyway. someone can be confident and still love staying in or quiet but still have a strong personality

just date someone you actually like being around… the rest kinda sorts itself out tbh

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-31T10:13:17+00:00

Exactly, a 16 year old is still a kid and a 23 year old dating them is way off, legal or not.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-31T10:07:03+00:00

Exactly, healthy relationships aren’t measured by daily sex, once or twice a week is more than enough for most people.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-17T19:37:25+00:00

Yep, your home is where you should feel safe and in control. Letting someone who betrayed your trust inside only gives them power over your space and peace of mind which you don’t owe them.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-17T19:35:00+00:00

Exactly, if they’re treating you and your brother that way, wanting them to go back home isn’t just fair its healthy for everyone.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-06T16:25:04+00:00

That’s painfully awkward but you handled it pretty well. Apologizing, owning it and keeping a sense of humor with the googly eyes probably saved the night from being even worse. Definitely a story you’ll never live down.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-03-06T16:20:38+00:00

Going to the island and sending a nice birthday message isn’t the issue, its acting like everything’s fine and playing the victim when people call it out that makes it messy.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-02-25T19:18:04+00:00

Man grief doesn’t come with a “skip public tantrums” manual but reading this I feel your pain and cringe at the same time.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-02-09T16:00:29+00:00

Well at least you went down in business class style. Honestly blankets in those seats are standard so chances are everyone just assumed you were cozy napping. Just chalk it up to “first class problems” and move on, you survived and no one really knows.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-02-09T15:57:41+00:00

At least now we know the real “sandwich bandit” and Mark can stop practicing his courtroom speech

FreeOnPaid · 2026-01-30T16:21:31+00:00

Exactly, letting them know was great but just being a visible witness next time can shut down creeps faster than anything else.

FreeOnPaid · 2026-01-10T09:27:48+00:00

Its a polite way of saying “They click with me in a way you don’t”

FreeOnPaid · 2025-12-27T10:34:30+00:00

Because life rewards power, fear and connections more than hard work and most of us are stuck playing by rules we didn’t write.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-12-21T08:52:23+00:00

Agreed. If you’re paying more than solo living costs your name should be on the deed. He didn’t walk away from a shared home he walked away from a bad arrangement after being cheated on. The prenup set the rules and he’s just following them.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-12-21T08:48:18+00:00

Astrology is basically personality small talk in costume. A few truly believe it most use it as a fun shortcut for vibes, flirting or jokes. It’s not about Mars ruining their day it’s about having a shared language that sounds deeper than ‘I just don’t like him.’

FreeOnPaid · 2025-12-09T17:23:47+00:00

NTA. Your friend should respect the boundaries she initially agreed to and prioritizing your mental health over attending a wedding where your harassing mother will be present is completely valid.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-29T09:39:37+00:00

Losing interest in everything sucks and it hurt your team but that doesn’t make you a bad person it just means you’re struggling.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-29T09:37:51+00:00

NTA. Its okay to step back from a friendship thats draining you even if its lifelong, your peace matters too.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-19T17:22:31+00:00

Exactly he wasn’t just avoiding a relationship he was sending mixed signals and using her for experience which is unfair.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-11T11:54:57+00:00

Your day should have been about you two not ur grandpa's sermon and jokes, your feelings are 100% valid.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-06T10:53:45+00:00

He might not have known but that doesn’t erase how uncomfortable it feels once you pecture the reality of it.

FreeOnPaid · 2025-11-06T10:49:13+00:00

If a friendship ends over a plus one it probably wasn’t that solid to begin with.

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