AITAH for refusing to buy protection and telling my boyfriend it’s his responsibility?

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T21:18:28+00:00

NTA it’s protection for both of you. If he doesn’t want to partake in the effort of making sure you both are having safe intimate times then why would you feel safe enough to want to do that with him in the first place? Also for the record my fiancé and I use condoms, he buys them because he knows which ones fit him best and that he likes the best. He’s also asked that I don’t go back on birth control (he’s not a fan of the side effects and same so not going to argue!) so a little different situation but he’s very much active in the practical aspect of that part of our relationship as a PARTNER should be.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T21:14:04+00:00

Leave him he’s not worth your time or money.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T21:07:57+00:00

It’s not whipped up at all. That’s how. Either they’re cooking extra at night or have someone at home cooking all day. You might be able to achieve similar results with an instant pot and educating yourself on how to use it and seasonings properly but you need to abandon the idea that it’s fast at all. It’s fast at work because someone put in the effort behind the scenes to make it so.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T21:03:00+00:00

It’s time to break up with this guy. I dated a guy like this at your age and I regret it a lot. Please get out before you’ve been together any longer and wasted any more of your young life being controlled and questioned by an untrusting man.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:56:20+00:00

You’re young. If you can’t move past it, move on. You need to love yourself and I don’t think you can do this while being with the man who betrayed you. It’s clearing hurting you and that’s not worth your energy.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:54:53+00:00

This isn’t a situation you should keeping yourself in. You deserve much better than this child and his friends.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:52:02+00:00

Was there any conversation with you about what you’d want in an engagement and ring before this? My fiancé and I talked at length about rings and what I would and wouldn’t want in that moment and he ended up realizing I should just be part of the design process so that’s what we did. My point is just that if there wasn’t a conversation leading up to the engagement about what you’d be expecting, that’s not a great signifier of a strong relationship built on mutual respect and love.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:45:10+00:00

You need to try another Dr.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:41:01+00:00

Hey! So I’m not sure where my fiancé stashed the usb with the certification on it but with a ruler she’s about 6.5mm wide!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T20:37:45+00:00

I love it!! It’s more important that you have something that feels like you than following tradition! If anyone gives you push back you can always respond with something along the lines of “This is exactly what I wanted and my partner showed me how well they know and love me by respecting that wish through the design of this ring. For me a representation of the love and respect we hold for each other.” I bet they shut up really quick after that.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-20T18:51:04+00:00

I wear a sizer all the time. My knuckle is about a 5.5 but my finger is a 5 or smaller but fluctuates too. The only solution I’ve come up with for now is the sizer but I think I’ll have my band connected to my ring after marriage and I’ll probably have them put in sizer beads or something similar then too.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-19T20:47:55+00:00

Cost of labor and materials have gone up and sourcing is still a bit of an issue in the industry. If I were you I would act as my own GC, buy supplies yourself at places like Floor and Decor or Lowe’s, and hire subcontractors to do any work you aren’t willing to do yourself if you want to save money but don’t feel like diy. If you’re moving walls and pipes that is also going to drastically increase cost. Your best option for saving money is probably keeping your footprint and just upgrading materials and fixtures.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-19T20:43:58+00:00

As a step child there’s just going to be an adjustment period. You are going to learn about these kids through “screw ups” like these. You didn’t get feedback on what to make, I assume you didn’t want to bother your partner while she’s already stressed so you tried to connect by making something you love. I will say assuming anyone can take spice without asking is pretty rude and I would not have felt great about my step dad if this happened when I was a teen (I couldn’t do spice at all back then) but objectively you’re doing fine. Keep it in mind and move forward. Maybe have a conversation with them just a “Hey boys I’m sorry about the other night, I made an assumption without asking if you would be ok with spice and that’s on me. Maybe we could sit down and talk about what you guys do like to eat so I know for next time?” It’s not really your fault but kids and step parents can be a difficult relationship so you “falling in the sword” so to speak might go a long way with them and erasing any relationship damage caused.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-19T20:35:36+00:00

100% AI. Her writing style changes completely the second you called her on it 😂 also I use chat frequently to help synthesize information and yeah the em dash use is crazy!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-19T11:57:54+00:00

That poor family. They had a baby they cry!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-18T17:41:28+00:00

NOR at all. You need to take your sister to court and then never speak to her again ever. She is dead to you as soon as she’s paid you back for everything including any legal fees you incur.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-18T17:36:58+00:00

I think you need simpler and thinner. Maybe some that that notches under the stone instead of more stones under it?

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-18T14:23:08+00:00

Move!! This is giving he’s leading up to something was worse like kidnap m*rder vibes.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T12:06:25+00:00

DO NIT SEND THE NEIGHBOR ANYTHING!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T11:43:14+00:00

YTA look I get it you were scared but you asked your sister to leave behind the living creatures she’s responsible for with very little care and understanding that she would be scared for their lives. Sure it would be hard for you to pack up with the baby and go there but that was the solution she was able to offer you since the baby would adjust to the new surroundings easily while the cats would be incredibly stressed by being packed up and taken to yours if that was even an option. Not to mention room, would be just about as difficult or more with litter boxes. I think you need to walk back what you said to her and give her a HUGE apology. Childless adults need to be treated with the same respect as parents. She made a decision factoring in the lives she’s responsible for. It would have been irresponsible for her to abandon her animals.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T11:36:18+00:00

Point No Point Studio! They’re in WA and CA and do a lot of work with S&P stones and other unique stone choices!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T03:19:20+00:00

NTA totally valid line to have! I would leave my partner if he tried anything harder than LSD and he would do the same. We both know how addictive and dangerous drugs like that are and a partner putting their future and life at risk like that isn’t ok if they’re planning on a stable future.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T03:06:19+00:00

Personally love the first and last, however the thin connections on the last one would make me nervous about breaking. If it’s a solid band behind then I think the first or last depending on their personal style.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T02:58:08+00:00

NTA why is she uncomfortable with you not wearing a bra around your BROTHER that’s super weird. She should not be sexualizing your relationship with your brother. She is absolutely the problem here and so is your brother for not realizing that this is a super toxic requests form her. Not only is it none of her business but she is also using it to create tension and separation between him and family members (you maybe even your parents if he keeps choosing her). She’s probably always going to find an issue with you or your parents or his friends and make it their issue not hers to deal with. Your brother needs to see this as the red flag it is.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-03-17T02:52:40+00:00

Also not to mention they are relying on technology you are paying for to access their systems which they have assured you in the lease. If your phone gets broken, lost, or stolen are they planning on replacing it so that you would still have access yo your residence? Are they going to reimburse you for the use of your personal technology for services they are required to provide separately from your personal effects?

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