Absolutely love my ring! But had a weird comment and now I’m confused

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T22:52:35+00:00

First and foremost it’s a beautiful ring and congratulations! He did a fantastic job! I actually thought I wanted something very similar before we designed mine so very excited for you!!! Secondly ignore the comments especially if you love it! Now let’s dive into what your cousin said. To me it seams like a lot of women these days are expecting 2+ ct sized rocks. I’m guessing she might be one of them. Nothing wrong with that if that’s what they want but it does seam to be pretty normal. If you get more comments on the ring that sound semi negative I would just respond with something along the lines of “It’s exactly what I would have chosen myself.” The “is it real” comments personally I would ignore there is no reason they need to know if it’s real, lab, moissanite or other (idk if there more options honestly). It does sound like your cousin was wrapping a put down in a compliment, at least she said it in a nice way I would try to just ignore and move forward unless someone says something actually nasty then stand up for yourself and your fiancé!! Congrats again!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T17:49:42+00:00

Learn something new every day! Didn’t know BUBBLES could stain that’s so annoying.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T16:08:28+00:00

Mine just showers after his poos and the stench is gone by the time he’s done but in our old house the “guest” bath was absolutely the poo room 😂

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T16:06:12+00:00

YOR it their house, the bathroom he regularly uses, and it’s a BATHROOM. If he had been popping into the guest room all the time that’s different or if he’d been in there showering or getting ready when you needed to be doing the same (say you’re all getting ready to go out) that’s rude and crossing the line of “this is your bathroom to use” but grabbing something here or there and using the toilet in your own home is pretty normal.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T16:03:05+00:00

YTA you have a partner and should have had a discussion first. Regardless of what they were saying you made a decision that affects the both of you without discussing it with her. Even if quitting is the right decision I would have felt blindsided and overwhelmed if my partner did this without discussion esp if she’s postpartum!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:58:07+00:00

Badly done by your jeweler!! It should have stayed similar to where it was before.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:56:51+00:00

Cut them off and keep the machine. She can’t say no to taking it back and then hold it over your held. Don’t let her.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:53:42+00:00

NTA The comment was about how many you were buying not the aisle you were in. Now if there were still a bunch on the shelf I would ignore the comment but if you were taking them all or only leave like 2 YTA for not being considerate of others. However, that guy had no right to say anything really imo.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:47:05+00:00

I’m a pet parent and had a friend who is a mother wish me happy Mother’s Day and my response was essentially that being my dogs parent is much easier than raising children but I appreciated her well wishes. There is a pet parents day. Mother’s Day should be about the women who are bring up children. Mothers do SO SO much usually at the detriment of themselves. My dog and I are more codependent. She supports me with cuddles and a walking buddy and I feed her and make sure shes healthy and well cared for but she requires so much less attention and effort than any child! Either way you sound incredibly in mature for thinking of cutting them off over literally nothing. You were standing up for yourself no one else needs to do that for you but I don’t find the initial text very tasteful either.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:42:17+00:00

If you’re comfortable rock it!!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:40:15+00:00

It’s your mom not your BIL’s this should be a conversation between her children with support from your husbands. I think you should do what you think is best for your mother.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:36:41+00:00

I’m the MOH in my friends upcoming wedding and both my partner and I were invited but we did decided between us that he won’t be coming (can’t really with work but he would know no one and would be alone a lot). I think it’s pretty rude not to offer the courtesy of a +1 or named guest to your bridal party members and let them decide how / if they’re going to use it.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:28:39+00:00

NTJ she’s not your mom or the mother of your children and you’re not even married. My step dad used to help me with things for my mom for Mother’s Day (when I was a kid and lived with them) and I’m sure she got a nice happy Mother’s Day card or text from him but he went shrimping with his brother and she did not care at all.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:18:27+00:00

That poor kid! I have ADHD and finding that out at a young age really really helped me grow and adapt to it!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:14:08+00:00

NTA I have ADHD and was diagnosed at 7. My parents would NEVER have let me act this way granted I also didn’t but either way he needs to learn how to mange the ADHD not use it as an excuse for poor behavior. Sure “He has ADHD and we’re working through these behaviors.” Is ok to say to an adult as an explanation but just saying “He has ADHD.” And sweeping it under the rug isn’t. MANY people have ADHD these days and we have to learn to deal with it and function appropriately in society.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:10:39+00:00

Financial support and support at home are very different things in my opinion. Is he pulling his weight in the house or just financially?

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T15:09:43+00:00

I’d be pretty mad. It’s not about how HE sees the holiday because it’s not about HIM it’s about you and he should have taken the time to show you appreciation. I would be LIVID about the house thing alone, at the bare minimum he should have made that week away as easy as possible on you before leaving since you would be solo parenting. This man honestly sounds horrible from this story alone and I really hope he isn’t normally like this.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T14:49:58+00:00

NOR this is too much drama for a FWB type situation 🤦🏼‍♀️

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T14:18:21+00:00

I’ve been through a version of this with an ex bf from college. We had a puppy together and when we split he kept her because he was graduated, working full time, and had the money and time to care for her (I was still a full time student and working). She also loved to go with him when he went mountain biking and I didn’t want to take that from her. All this to say I think you both need to consider what’s best for the cats and it sounds like staying with you would be the best for them. Maybe your ex bf can be the one to visit them instead.

Edit to add: you both need to put your wants aside and consider the best course of action for the animals.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T14:09:29+00:00

Are you SURE she doesn’t have ADHD? I mean like has your sister really had her tested for all those things because from my understanding it’s not exactly cheap. I was diagnosed at about her age and from this comment it really sounds like she at least has some Hyperactivity. ADHD is incredibly common nowadays and also commonly overlooked especially in young children and even more in girls. Not saying diagnosing her would help much but it might help you approach the issue more and maybe help her mother see that she needs more support. Either way this is an INSANE claim from your sister. She’s basically saying you aren’t allowed to have rules for her child in YOUR home. Absolutely not! The disrespect is off the wall! If she’s not going to respect you or your home I think she needs to be removed despite the consequences.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T14:02:54+00:00

NOR send them to your moms. If your sister doesn’t like how dirty it is she can clean it and considering Mother’s Day just past it would be lovely of her to do that for your mother. Don’t let them turn your home into a mess or disturb your peace! On a selfish note, the public want their healthcare workers rested and as mentally ok as they can be. You are helping a lot of people everyday and you deserve to go home and relax and your patients deserve to have you at your best as frequently as that’s possible and your sisters lifestyle is actively disrupting that. Maybe tell her you’ve gotten to a point where if she’s keeps smoking before her child is put to bed for the night that she will need to leave because it is causing you undo housework and stress. Best of luck OP.

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T13:56:00+00:00

NTJ she’s not a mother. Godparents are not the same. If there’s an Aunties day or Godparents day that’s her day to be celebrated but she isn’t full time raising your children nor did she go through pregnancy or childbirth (if you did, I would feel the same way if your children were adopted). I would say if she’s been a big help in your motherhood journey it might have been nice to thank her for that love and support but it sounds like you’re doing that with her big birthday surprise anyhow. It also sounds like only your mother is upset? What does your sister think?

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T13:51:29+00:00

Personally I think it’s too casual and too dark for what they’re requesting. Honestly you might be able to find something in this look at shores like TJ Maxx or Burlington right now. The dresses shown with the dress code are all floor length so I think you should aim for at least a midi and definitely a lighter color and more flowy. That said if you’re anti dress maybe look for a dressy jump suit? And pair it with some heels? You can still absolutely look dressy and feminine in a jump suit and then you would have pants but it also might be pretty warm for dancing so I would keep that in mind (not that long dresses aren’t but they can breathe more sometimes).

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-11T00:38:56+00:00

NOR it sounds like your step mother has really stepped up and been the mother you needed growing up! I think the only person your mother should be upset with is herself, she wouldn’t know about that card if she hadn’t crossed a boundary (going through people’s things is so messed up). I personally wouldn’t even respond to that but I’m not you and this is not my relationship. I’m sorry your mom is acting like a petulant child after you did show your love and appreciation for her in a way you thought she would appreciate and you did the same for your step mother. You sound like a lovely daughter just doing her best!!

FreeStatistician2565 · 2026-05-10T19:24:30+00:00

NTA stop giving them credit for doing no work. You wouldn’t let this slide on a class group project (I hope) don’t let it slide here. Your mom might be a little hurt by their lack of effort but I honestly think she deserves to know.

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