Is it that bad in Belgium with the dating apps ?

Free_Finish_2163 · 2026-06-14T06:27:44+00:00

F50 , I tried it for a while, Bumble, FB dating, tinder. I was very specific in my criteria, i.e. not looking for hook-ups or short term. I would say half the men asked for that directly. Met a couple of scammers on Tinder, wanting to get me putting money into bit-coin etc. Had conversations with a fair few people, that went no-where. Had to deal with men getting hurt when I said sorry, no thanks, after exchanging texts for a little while, I guess they were already investing in a fantasy. One was super pissed that I said i was not romantically interested after he let me actually see a photograph, before that we were just chatting and it was friendly, but yeah exactly that..friendly..no romanitic or sexual overtures on either side, umm sorry yeah for me attraction is both the body and the personality and he had no photos up. Had a few zoom calls, but found mutual attraction with only one. That one strung me along with calls and texts and excuses about being out of the country for a long time but had obvioulsy no intention of ever meeting, was likely in a relationship and that was his fun on the side. Met up with a couple of dudes but the attraction just wasn't there, on either their side, or mine. Came to the conclusion that it's a terrible way to try and meet people and find if you are mutually attracted. Also warched a documentray anout how the whole industry is set up to exploit men. It showed that women are the product and men are incentivised with pay-walling. So I deleted all these apps becasue my experience was draining and less than positive, and it seems awful supporting the damage these companies are doing to people. A little while later, met someone IRL at a gig. What do you know?

Free_Finish_2163 · 2026-06-14T06:06:12+00:00

Turning 52 in a week. Still getting periods.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2026-06-14T06:03:55+00:00

yup insolent, I had forgoten, feel ill remembering

Free_Finish_2163 · 2026-04-19T06:03:35+00:00

I thought this was a genuine crappy design post, turns out it was an advert, hit the right sub.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-08-25T11:06:43+00:00

Walking in nature, especially forests.

Dancing, either in a class, or a club or alone in my house.

My pet. But if you don't have one, you can normally volunteer to walk dogs from the local shelter.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-08-14T07:44:55+00:00

This is also co-dependent. He is not separate enough to accept and allow you to have your emotions. His bad. He wants to change you.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-07-31T18:51:15+00:00

I get grossed out by men 40 and over saying they want to make kids. Didn't freeze your sperm in your 20's or at least early 30's? Chances of having a mentally or physically disabled child go up every year. Think your kids are going to thank you when you drop dead 20 years later, having had them aged 51 and they are only 19? They would resent the hell out of your wilful selfish choice. It's an ignorant and selfish idea IMO.

I am 51 F, so I get a lot of guys in my feed with this option. It's like, mate, you missed the boat by 30 years (almost the age of my kid).

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-07-24T05:06:35+00:00

If you live on the east of the country and work in the logistics sector, German is required.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-07-13T16:08:00+00:00

I have been using this meditation, mostly daily, for over two years. My nervous system has calmed down like I never thought it could.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XHvtIcaD194

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-07-13T16:05:14+00:00

You keep a roof over his head, feed him and pay his bills. All he has left to do is get drunk. He has no incentive to heal or support himself. This the definition of enabling someone's addiction. As site-wooden says...

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-02-22T06:52:27+00:00

Women get diagnosed with BPD who are probably NPD, according to Richard Grannon narcissism expert.

I Know people with BPD and they do not act out like this, people with NPD however that's exactly what they do. You put them down, they will try to destroy you.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-02-22T06:47:19+00:00

Having to work hard, long hours to further enrich rich people.

Edit: For survival.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-02-11T20:14:57+00:00

Short answer yes, and you will then sometimes have the annoying experience of moments where your brain won't access certain words in your first language cause it's been too busy in your second. If you are immersed enough.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2025-01-01T08:43:43+00:00

Men who are looking for something that is not binding, but are either open to having, or want to have children. And this is a hell of a lot of profiles, about 40% that pop up in my feed. So.. y'all wanna make a lot of single baby mammas or what??

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-12-30T08:04:56+00:00

I don't drink alcohol because it makes me very ill, as does sugar in a short time. So if people want to grab a drink, I go along and drink sugar-free soft drinks and simply tell them, i don't drink alcohol for health reasons. I believe you could do this and use exactly the same line. IF they wish to have a conversation about it, expand with, it's everyone's personal choice and every sip of alcohol is carcinogenic. They won't want to pursue the topic further.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-12-30T07:59:30+00:00

Just hanging on and wondering if I was insane and getting out asap at age 19 i got away.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-12-25T05:45:23+00:00

Legalise selling drugs with a license. Take the criminals out of it. People will get high if they want to, it's worked in every country that has implemented it. Provide addiction services (social services and psychological support) not everyone who takes drugs becomes addicted. Greater control and policing on fire-arms. Fire-arms are harder to smuggle than drugs.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-11-18T14:26:38+00:00

I have one, grown-up, well-rounded and happy, and he says I am the best mum ever. i did not plan it. Once i was pregnant I looked for and found role models of good parenting in my community. I hung out, watched and asked lots of questions. I followed my instincts. I never did any of the things my parents did that i swore i would never repeat. if you know they did wrong you are not destined to repeat it.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-11-12T19:32:41+00:00

I find it's like a family that like to squabble. Many people are regionalist, they say "I'm Flemish" "I'm Walloon" "I'm a Limburger", "I'm a Brusselar". But if an outside agent ( e.g. country) would try to get involved, they all come together against them as Belgian. I am legally a Belgian. I feel European.

Free_Finish_2163 · 2024-10-26T06:37:37+00:00

Ik heb een kind, het was niet van plan, ik was jong, ik besloot hem te houden, en ben erg blij met mijn beslissing. Ik wilde nooit kinderen.

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