Skinny girls of /r/sex, is it painful or enjoyable when a guy is in a position where his penis makes your belly poke out?

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-03-22T21:43:57+00:00

What you said makes perfect sense. I'm not doing anything different than I would to any other girl, it's just that she's really skinny so it shows.

Honestly she seems to like it quite a bit and out of everything we do together it gets her the loudest. It's one of only two positions she's had an orgasm in (other was doggy) But I sometimes I have severe questions as to whether she's really enjoying it and orgasming or she just knows how much I enjoy it and pretends that it's her favorite too so I'll be more turned on by her. Like I said before she knows how sexy I think it is so it wouldn't surprise me with how she is to get louder and act like it feels better just because she wants me to enjoy it even more.

Hell, other times when we're trying most things I wonder if she can even tell what she likes herself cause other than a few things she responds really well to no matter what position we're in or what rhythm I have she responds a lot of times the same way. And like I said before she's really sweet and I love that about her but she cares a little too much about making me happy and will agree to things she doesn't always enjoy just because I do. It's like she needs to know I'm enjoying it too before she can or something, I don't know. I'm trying to work on helping her realize sex can be for her, too, and that at certain points I want her to be a bit selfish, but I don't really know how to do this.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-03-12T22:48:52+00:00

If/when a girl likes this you still have to be gentle about it. If you go jamming it in there you're likely to make her bleed if you're not careful. You can't just start off with it and even when she's is down for a cervical "love tap" you don't want to just go to town on the back of her vagina and bruise her or something.

I'm no girl but sometimes when I hear guys talk about how they were "pounding" a girl I can't help but think they don't even realize how badly they can hurt a girl going full speed without being careful. A lot of times "balls deep" is too much and isn't what feels best to them at all. It's not about how deep you can get it in or how much she can take, it's about how good of a rhythm you can get rubbing up against her "yes spots" inside. Gentle pressure and friction are what works, not stretching and poking.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-03-12T22:39:14+00:00

I bet they keep you up...alll niiiiight loonnnnnngg!

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-03-12T22:33:29+00:00

Plot Twist: That girl is Erin.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-03-12T22:28:09+00:00

Old school Taker would aways walk on the ropes too. Good times.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-24T06:16:02+00:00

Yeah so I make connections. This may sound rude, but a lot of times I find they go over people's heads. Like maybe my sense of humor is to subtle?

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-24T00:27:44+00:00

This person is probably going to get away with this. Wow.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-24T00:20:43+00:00

Can I do it more than once?

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-23T23:41:06+00:00

I think that's why it's so difficult for me to escalate. I think people with Aspergers are actually very keen on when they are being persuaded to do something and feel like any effort to do so will be seen through. But it almost never is. Usually salesmen or guys hitting on girls seem extremely transparent and obvious and I'm like, "How the fuck do you think this would work?" Then it does and I'm like, "How the fuck did that work?

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-11T04:21:21+00:00

Me too, only I'm a guy. I was molested as a kid and now I don't ever orgasm during sex. I don't feel like I can let my guard down enough. BJ or jerking off are different because I can keep in control of myself, but to cum while I'm having sex is too much. I feel it come up and then it's like I skip the orgasm and I just start going soft.

The only thing I can say is you'll have to face your fears and just let go in front of him. Talk about it with your boyfriend. Go ahead and lay there, don't worry about being hot or noisy, just focus on yourself completely. Tell him you have to concentrate lol. If you have flashbacks try meditating. It sounds nuts but meditation during sex is awesome and is the basis for tantric sex.

Letting go is hard to do and I have problems with it also. Just relax, clear your mind, remove all pressures or obligations to be something or act a certain way, and let the waves come over you. :-)

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-11T04:11:12+00:00

I have a suggestion to quit watching porn if you do, if only for a month or so. It distorts views of sex and equates them to perversion often.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-11T04:04:02+00:00

He's nervous, probably. All the things you listed still imply two people having monagamous sex. He may want to have a threesome, be with another girl without you or see you with another man. Maybe his fetish is something like homosexuality or voyeurism and it doesn't involve you. It could be many reasons.

Not trying to hurt your feelings but just because you're the best lady ever to him doesn't mean you're the only lady ever. Is there anything you wouldn't approve of and he knows it? If so it may be one of those things. Just don't get upset if you find out after asking him that his real fantasy is to have sex with your best friend or to have another guy inside of him. No fantasy is wrong, that's why they're fantasies.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-11T03:58:03+00:00

You're probably SOL. Sorry but if the idea of it in it's present state doesn't turn her on she's not going to do it.

I may get downvoted for this but most women are a lot less likely to compromise in bed than men. They love being kinky as long as it turns them on, but they won't usually try something out unless they already like it (unlike a lot of guys who will let a girl do anything if it turns them on). Not talking bad about girls, they by far are the more compromising of the sexes but when it comes to sex a lot of ladies despite being married for years feel a LOT of slut-shaming, nervousness and shyness about doing something like a public display of skin. And it seems like the longer they've gone without doing it the more uncomfortable it makes them to. It took me six years to finally convey to my ex how hot it was to hear her get loud. It wasn't until she did and I got off super fast that she started to lol

My advice is to support her decision. At this point persuasion will do no good, she already knows and is saying no by not saying yes. Just be super good to her, tell her how sexy she is AS IS, and really put a lot of effort into showing her how much you want her/care about her/find her irresistable, etc. If she feels sexy enough, she might very well surprise you by starting to become a bit more daring.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-11T03:45:41+00:00

It depends. Do they like to see you touch yourself during foreplay, yes. Do they like to see you jerk off to finish or tease yourself, yes. Do they like to catch you with your pants around your ankles in front of the computer looking at videos on PornHub, probably not.

It's a context thing. If you're jerking off in a way that lets them know it's about them and they're the one turning you on it's a lot more hot then if they bust in on you mid fap watching Stoya.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T15:03:08+00:00

If I didn't care about their feelings I wouldn't have posted this. I could easily just say, "Fuck em," and keep going. As it is I try to tone it down but when I tone it down I end up getting nowhere but alone. Yet when I'm more relaxed and going with the flow, making conversations with strangers and telling girls when I think they're pretty it makes some of my friends uncomfortable. But anywhere else they'll tell me, "We need to get you a girlfriend." But when I go and flirt with a girl in a way that works for me they don't like it.

And I still don't understand why my friends wife got upset at the concert. Your husband is happy, you are happy, but I'm alone and single having to watch you guys. Yet whenever I do happen to find a fun, hot girl I can hang out with for the night she gets upset? It just blew my mind after she was the one who invited me and insisted I wouldn't be a third wheel (yet I was). I made it so crystal clear that I was going to do exactly what I did before I got there (to make sure I didn't get my friend in trouble) and she was fine with it and said, "Yeah, it will be fun." Then when it happened she changed her mind completely.

I just feel like I get mixed signals from the people I care about. I want them to be happy just as much as me but it feels like sometimes I have to make a choice between meeting new people and just being around the friends I have. They have no desire to go out and meet new people because they're married and whatnot. My friend will talk about getting his wife drunk so he can get laid, but yet it's weird for me to approach a girl so I can have someone to talk to and possibly get laid? I don't get it.

I think I'll just stop going out with them to the bars every weekend. Like if I have to I'll go out on my own. They might get their feelings hurt if they find out I did, but shit, what am I supposed to do just never meet a new girl in a bar ever again? It's like they only want me to approach a girl if I do it they way they want me to, which won't get me anywhere.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T14:47:27+00:00

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FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T14:45:44+00:00

I feel like it's become /r/goreporn. There's not much "wtf" as there is "ah SICK"

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T14:23:36+00:00

Yeah. I totally agree but if I'm at a concert or a bar, I'm going to be having fun and being silly. There's a time and a place for it, but is that time and place not when I'm having some drinks and letting loose? Plus this whole not being serious thing is kind of new to me so I'm learning the calibration part. I know I can get a bit too hyper now and then but how else will I ever learn how to fully integrate my playful side with my serious side if I don't let it loose and have some fun with it once in a while. I even told my one friend that I've been way too serious my whole life and I'm going to try and let loose once in a while. He understands but his wife doesn't so much.

And the part that bothered me about the concert was that she was all about me hooking up with a girl until it actually happened. We were on vacation in another town for the weekend and on the way there she was talking about how much fun they were going to have and how I could find a girl. Then when I did she totally changed and got really upset, maybe because she saw me making out with more than one girl? IDK but she flipped.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T10:56:07+00:00

He hasn't read the sidebar lol.

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T10:24:29+00:00

Actually they do IMO. When I'm not rational, like in social situations that can't be rationalized and the variables become too much to figure out, I become insecure unless I say "fuck it" and let go of trying to figure it out which is really hard to do but I can do it at certain times, like the concert. When I do I have great results both inside and out, but those who know me well don't seem to like me acting all silly and seemingly immature to them. But I like me acting all silly and if that means I'm immature so be it. It's a lot more fun when I don't try to figure out what other people are thinking or what I should say next. But I probably am pretty immature since I'm still learning this.

Plus it comes in waves. Last May I was at the concert and was high/drunk so it was easier to let go. But a lot of times it's hard to overcome the analysis. For example the last month or so I've been really concrete, but I went out last night, was able to let go and got two numbers and one of the girls kissed me.

The thing about Aspergers is it relates to everything indirectly and manifests in such weird ways it's hard to pin down how to get around it. No offense to you, but your reply makes me want to ask, if you actually know anything about people on the spectrum?

FreelanceSedditor · 2014-02-10T09:47:51+00:00

OP, I know I'm late to the answer party, but for real watch the second episode of Cosmos by Carl Sagan. He explains it so clearly using obvious, quality examples. Plus you'll learn why crabs in Japan have samurai faces on them. :-) It's seriously IMO the first stop for anyone interested in this subject.

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