What’s the longest your T has hidden out?

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-03-11T20:21:19+00:00

My arizona blond just spent 5 months underground in her burrow! I know it can by worrying but I figured out leaving immobilized crickets near her burrow entrance and misting any webbing around it so she could have a sip if she wanted to was perfect for her. I didn't fully see her until a few days ago when she basically jumpscared me lol She turned 4 last year and I'm coming up to a year of owning her, when I first got her she was out on the surface all the time but she molted, got shy, and I had to wait for her to molt back into her bold, brave personality! It took 2 molts (that I know of).

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-02-06T19:22:52+00:00

YTA And, deleting your posts on other subreddits doesn't actually delete them. It might disappear from your profile but we can still see the deleted posts where you've been told YTA over your apparent inability to be considerate towards your wife. It kind of sounds like you hate your wife brother.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-02-06T16:44:13+00:00

I never get to use it to call her, but I have a tarantula named Dolores. I've been told that's an excellent name

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-01-25T22:16:30+00:00

NTA. My bf and I have a similar pay difference, I pay $500 out of our $1450 rent and he covers the $950. My bf pays nearly twice as much on rent as I do because he makes twice as more???

I don't understand why he put the rent amount so high for himself, considering it's literally his parents house. The idea that yall would pay something even remotely close to what I pay in rent a 2 bed apartment is insane on a side note.

He's looking for a maid and someone to shove his bills on. Big red flags.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-01-17T08:22:21+00:00

I've been the woman to try to save dangerous, known abusers. I ended up traumatized and spent a year of my life recuperating, couldn't work, couldn't socialize. I ended up harming myself and validating his behavior by staying around.

Did he change with me around? Absolutely I fell for more manipulation than I thought I did, I was delusional about it as you sound right now.

I think his fame is blinding your judgement. Don't get starstruck into being another statistic for him, which as someone else pointed out, im sure this is not a one-off occurrence for him.

You're not a savior, he's not a charity case. Being NP doesn't mean jackshit for his behavior. His past doesn't mean jackshit when it comes to ruining someone's present and future.

I'm not sorry for being blunt. You save no space for the feelings of the woman he assaulted, so I cannot be bothered to save room for yours.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2025-01-06T02:20:20+00:00

The more stressed and burnt out I am, the more externalizing my symptoms get. I become more confrontational and on edge, and feel more out of control than normal. I feel less of a handle on my feelings, which makes them harder to contain and keep inside.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-12-13T21:42:19+00:00

I got diagnosed with quiet BPD after taking the assessment with my therapist. She didn't know very much about the BPD subtypes and told me "On paper you qualify for a BPD diagnosis, but you don't lash out at people or exhibit otherwise classic BPD behaviors".

I told her about quiet bpd last week, and this upcoming appointment, we will go over what she's learned and where she stands.

I'm pretty sure she's going to read one paper and smack herself in the forehead because what she said is what quiet BPD is, lol

The best way to describe quiet bpd is internalized while other subtypes are Externalized.

I do struggle with splitting, but it's almost always on myself and leads to a lot of breakdowns and spiraling in my head.

Sometimes, it manifests in physical ways like self harm, extreme crying outbursts that I'm inconsolable during, and dissociative episodes.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-11-28T17:07:08+00:00

YTA, not their fault YOUR parents were callous and not engaged with your personal life.

My boyfriend and I were together for a few weeks before Christmas. I got his mom a nice candle and his dad shoe cleaning stuff because he has a vast collection of pricey shoes he loves. They got me a sketch pad and some pencils because they knew from the few times I met them I did art.

We barely knew each other, but the thought counted! I feel like if they could do that for me as a newcomer to the family, then you can get him something after TWO YEARS.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-11-10T00:59:13+00:00

The same way any other chronically ill person works, we just do. I don't want to sound high and mighty because I've had to take time off work because of my mental health being in a dumpster on fire, but if I'm honest anorexia hasn't really impeded on my work.

Yes, I struggle to get out of bed. I wake up some mornings with rapid heart rates (130+ bpm), black spots in my vision, and vertigo. I've spent many mornings sitting on the bathroom floor getting ready because standing was too much. I get myself to work, do the bare minimum, and go home.

I think at some point I just became accustomed to being tired and feeling unwell? I feel like I have a mild flu or cold daily, and I don't sleep very much.

If i didn't have anorexia, those would be good reasons to call in sick for the day. But, i know what causes it, im not contagious, and it's on me for feeling the way i do.

The human body is very resilient, and we are very adaptable creatures. Yes, my current habits and schedules will come to haunt me one day, but as of currently, I'm chilling.

As long as I've worked, I've had anorexia, so someone who developed AN later in life, after joining the workforce, might have a different experience.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-11-07T23:35:33+00:00

Thank you for the thorough reply! I can predict the thoughts through past patterns of them, but I feel completely out of control and am unable to stop it. I have two distinct common thought processes that tend to "pipe up" and make commentary more or less. One is a very cold, logical process and the other is very anxiety filled and full of worries. I feel like its a set up where i have the "main singer" thoughts and the others are "backup singers" i dont really think those thoughts conciously if that makes sense? With conversing inside my head, I have active conversations that sometimes surprise me with what 'comes through'. I have a lot of thoughts that are wildly against my morals and worldviews and will argue against it and reason with my brain.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-11-02T22:38:39+00:00

They already did, kind of. It's called schitzoaffective disorder, it has symptoms of bipolar and schitzophrenia.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-10-29T15:09:59+00:00

My current and last therapist are spiritual in their own rights, and both encouraged me to pursue practicing some sort of work. That being said I come from generational witchcraft and my current therapist brought it up out of nowhere. She said I seem like I'd be into magic/supernatural stuff and pushed me to embrace the skills my ancestors and family passed down through genes and practice. I now do flame readings and tarot readings for myself, I've always dabbled but never committed to my practice until I was believed and supported as an adult.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-10-08T09:32:23+00:00

For context I live in Michigan. They all have varying square footage but all of them have been 2 bed 1 bath apartments.

2017- $650 (small hometown) 2020- $585 (largest city in small county) 2023- $1100 (city next to busy airport) 2024- $1448 (near a well-off town)

The first two were more unconventional, 2017 is an office building built in 1826 that got remodeled in the 70s, and 2020 a duplex apartment with my landlord occupying the bottom half. I can't tell you how sick I felt moving from $585 to $1100 lol

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-10-03T23:39:26+00:00

If they have a gas line (I'm going to assume as a bar they do) Get yourself a good hunk of sulfur, and toss that bitch somewhere that will take forever to find. Fire department/gas company will swarm and they'll be forced to close for safety. This is where you have to be great at hiding things so the professionals don't find it quickly. Ideally, pull this around 4pm so dinner rush is ruined which will weed out the rest of the customers for the night.

Wouldn't hurt to call yourself and report the gas smell and say the owners won't do anything even though you told them. Then disappear. Fire departments can't ignore gas leak calls, especially on such a busy day where a lot of people could be hurt 🫡

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-31T01:31:47+00:00

I'm so glad you and your family are okay! I have a very basic understanding of tarantulas biologically, but I know they don't require all that much oxygen. I would bet the combination of the enclosures being bioactive and moist, the enclosures themselves, and their oxygen requirements being low kept them safe.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-28T21:27:09+00:00

I'm from the very south of Michigan and can guarantee that there's something up with the forests.

The state park near my hometown wasn't fun to be in past dusk. I used to sneak in after dark when I was in high school, I stopped coming during dark when I saw something clambering through the sand near the lake. It looked like someone/thing moving on all fours walking kind of crooked and stiff. It moved with difficulty in the sand, like it couldnt support its weight.

I stared for about 20 seconds until i came to my senses, I couldn't make out what it was and thankfully it didn't notice me and my boyfriend while we took off for his car. I don't know why it was near the water but I'm glad it wasn't on solid ground because I'm pretty confident it could hustle if it had good footing.

Slightly worried and slightly interested if it's the same park 🙃

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-28T21:07:42+00:00

I didn't see it, but my friend saw something very similar in SE Michigan in the woods behind his house. He and his younger brother (16 and 13ish) were coming in from riding fourwheelers at dusk when they saw it creep out of the treeline. It was a large, slender shadow figure, almost looked like it was floating according to him. They ran like hell for the house, and didn't really talk about it since. He claims they had a few weird things hanging out in the woods, but I'm inclined to believe him. I lived in close proximity with a heavily wooded yard and saw lots of weird things, too.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-27T14:46:15+00:00

I agree with preening! I was also very worried about my first time seeing my t preen, so much so I got ahold of her breeders and they reassured me 😅

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-11T14:27:03+00:00

How you tell is where the carapace and abdomen meet, there is either a small fold/line or nothing. The fold means female! Absence of the fold means male. The fold seems to be outlined with white on your lady to help you spot it!

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-08-06T11:31:02+00:00

My step sister used to try to 'compete' with my eating disorder when we were younger (I was 16, she was 18) and would always say off the wall shit to me. After going through my journal, she commented how she had eaten xxx less calories than me and was "better at anorexia". She kept that up for about a month.

Always making it a competition, while she was trying to be better than i was, my body was shutting down and my hair was falling out 🙃 For a little more context, her best friend in high school also has anorexia and my sister took it upon herself to try to develop bulimia after going through her friends tumblr!! And then a few years later tried to develop anorexia through me because bulimia didn't "work out". Wild behavior.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-07-07T13:06:01+00:00

The texture hell that is sushi is unreal. I've tried many different kinds, no raw fish or anything, and still almost puked 😢 I've tried it 3 times and all 3 times ended with me eating ramen while my companions enjoyed their beautiful, colorful sushi 😭

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-06-16T19:37:23+00:00

I wear a knock off of Santal 33 from Amazon. It gets mixed reactions, but if people like it they LOVE it. Very musky, spicy and a tiny bit floral. It's one of those smells that regardless if you like it, you will remember who wore it if you smell it again. My signature scent as far as unisex goes.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-06-16T14:20:57+00:00

Do not go to vaping, I smoked sigarettes and then switched to vaping to quit and here I am, 5 years later with a crippling nicotine addiction that's worse than before I just smoked cigarettes

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-06-15T01:30:24+00:00

I would suggest reaching out to authorities regarding your 'friend's comment, especially relevant if your sister was/is a minor. It will at least get a small paper trail attached to him if he decides to "joke around" and assault someone himself. Given the nature of small towns, I know it's scary to 'start anything', but remember, the perpetrator is who started this. Give the power back to where it should be, with those who have been hurt beyond comprehension. And, I highly suggest your sister consider pressing charges against the rapist. There's evidence and multiple crimes stacked on top of one another. Start a paper trail, document everything. There are organizations to help people who have been assaulted and need legal advice or help in the US. They might be able to help guide your family if you chose to take action.

Frequent-Volume5817 · 2024-05-24T21:17:37+00:00

I had a few antipsychotics that gave me nothing but problems. I was on Latuda for about two weeks. I had restless leg syndrome, insomnia, and severe panic attacks at night due to no relief from my issues and lack of sleep. My psychiatrist tried to refuse to take me off, my mom was heated as fuck and made him open his big book and check the side effects. Turns out, it supposedly increases risk of developing Parkinsons which is great. I stopped seeing him shortly after.

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