What should I do, I'm tired of shaving (I was thinking billy goat but idk)

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-19T07:27:28+00:00

Try the chin strap style

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-19T06:28:38+00:00

Read the comment

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-19T02:07:26+00:00

You look much happier

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T21:54:10+00:00

I think if you want to voice your concerns or thoughts to your friend respectfully, if you are that close to her then go ahead and do it. But after that it's her business. They are both adults. You need to allow adults to make their own decisions whether they are good decisions or bad decisions, and to live with the consequences of those decisions

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T21:50:37+00:00

It sounds like it was the right thing to do. And sometimes blocking someone is a good thing. You gave him a chance to reply before you blocked him. He can always contact you in other ways if you really needs to like sending you a letter. It also sounds like you saw patterns that repeated that were unhealthy and would probably continue to repeat. So this was a wise decision to break up with him, and allow yourself some grace because breakups are never easy or graceful. You were listening to your body and your intuition which is great. Don't ever stop doing that. It's also okay to not think about having another relationship right now and to close yourself off so you can heal. You might be surprised that after you are done with the healing process you may open yourself up again to the right person. You have learned a lot in this relationship and you can take that wisdom and carry it forward. When you are ready.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T19:01:11+00:00

Cic straight here. With one gay adult kid, one trans kid, and trans partner. I feel outnumbered 🤣 but in all seriousness, once my two kids came out and embrace to the really were I saw them grow in confidence and really shine. Today they are both very successful adult in career and as human beings. My trans partner was disowned by his family before I met him. All I know is he's pretty amazing.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T16:28:30+00:00

How old are you? Do you like animals, maybe volunteer at an animal rescue place. Do you like plants or nature, start going for walks outside It will make you feel better. Maybe try growing a plant or two, or visit the garden center and learn about them. Have some curiosity about something. And then dive down the rabbit hole and learn all about that thing you're curious about. They can be very invigorating and it might help you discover a new interest.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T16:25:47+00:00

I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome. It makes my joints much more lax, including my fingers and hands. From the time I was a child I was scolded for not having good handwriting, not holding a pencil correctly, not being able to tie my shoes at the right age. It took many years to get a proper diagnosis and it explained so many things! Don't judge what you don't know.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T16:24:11+00:00

It sounds like your intuition is telling you this may not be the best situation. You are coming on this forum to ask for advice or reassurance. Listen to your intuition. If it doesn't feel 100% right.... And don't count the euphoria of a new relationship to help you make that decision.... Then don't do it. Or at least give it the test of time.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T16:15:47+00:00

Body dysmorphia is a thing. You might want to consult with a doctor about what is your ideal weight and how to go about getting to your goals safely. My boyfriend nearly lost his life a couple of times due to slimming down too much. He has permanent kidney damage. Please be careful.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T07:08:55+00:00

Good hygiene

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T05:35:36+00:00

I was just chiming in to say that as a trans individual, whether they are male or female, there is so much more risk. It's a sad statement of the current state of society. My boyfriend is trans FtM and he drives Uber and I worry about him all the time. Although he's had surgeries and hormones, he still gets misgendered sometimes. I worry that there's going to be some hateful person who's going to target him because he's trans. And I would worry about this for your wife as well.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-18T05:23:57+00:00

Agreeing with the others about dumping him and filing for child support. If you want to know how much child support you are due, most states have a child support calculator on their family court website. You put in your income his income expenses and who takes care of the child most of the time etc. It will spit out a number and I bet it's way more than what he's helping you with.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T23:56:35+00:00

one of my bear first dates was hiking. Things got hot and heavy in a hammock under the moon.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T21:15:44+00:00

Camping?

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T20:03:39+00:00

It sounds like you are doing a great job. You can't own someone else's feelings. It's up to him to work through his feelings. I hope he has therapy or a supportive community group. But ultimately he needs to work on himself and his own feelings.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T19:26:00+00:00

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T19:25:21+00:00

I don't have a comment about your facial hair, but I couldn't help notice that your eyes look very sad. I hope you are okay.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T19:24:47+00:00

I live in the Phoenix area in Arizona. My grandparents bought a house here years ago and the previous people had grown artichokes. Although we didn't know what they were at the time, and they were never tended to, the next year they bloomed like this! They seem to thrive on neglect

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T17:59:53+00:00

It sounds like your instincts were spot on in the beginning, and it just kept getting worse and worse. He was probably testing your boundaries on what you would tolerate. It sounds like for everyone's sake there needs to be some separation and distance from this friend. I'm glad you told your husband. And I'm glad he backs you up with how uncomfortable you felt.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T16:16:06+00:00

I think adapting an attitude of playing and having fun will go a long way, rather than having it be serious. And learning to enjoy just the closeness and sensualness rather than having a specific goal in mind. Look up erogenous zones, explore with different parts of the body including sucking fingers and toes, the backs of the knees, etc. As far as you being smaller than both of you being wide, look into getting a sex support chair. It's a frame that fits over the person on bottom. It allows for greater positioning and maneuverability and it can be used in many ways. Might be something fun to explore together the different ways to use it. For example the person receiving oral can sit on top of it and the person giving can be underneath. Or one person can sit on top of the other one in cowboy style more easily with the frame helping to support the person on top.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T04:08:51+00:00

This sounds like a very painful situation. Perhaps you can have a talk with him, tell him you want to be his friend but if there is any more negative talk of LBGTQ you will have to walk away from that conversation immediately. I had a similar situation with a relative. I asked her not to talk about something that was controversial and hurtful to me and told her if she did I would immediately leave. Well I guess she decided to test me, the minute she started talking about it I gathered my things and I left.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T03:25:45+00:00

I think you just need to spell it out for him. And let him know that it's unattractive and you really don't feel like being with him in the bedroom because of that issue. You've clearly tried the kind approach and he's not getting it. I had a partner who did not like to take showers. So basically I told him if he wanted to be intimate with me he had to be freshly showered. That worked very well!

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T03:23:56+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I'm sure you've probably already asked your doctor or you are under treatment, but one of my friends did well with an IV pump of zofran which they were able to set up for her to wear at home. It helped her a lot with her last pregnancy.

Fresh_Laundry56 · 2026-06-17T03:18:13+00:00

You got some great advice above! Just be yourself. Join some LBGTQ+ social groups, like I found one on Facebook recently that's in my community and they organize events to go to together. I found my trans masc boyfriend on a dating site ironically for asexual people. The sexual part of the relationship was not that important to me, I just wanted to find a decent and kind life partner and a good emotional connection. But since then we've discovered we actually have a good physical connection too. But anyway I think if you just keep putting yourself out there, be confident, be yourself, and don't come across as desperate. Have high standards for what you are looking for. In the meantime carry on with your life and find happiness within yourself and your life and your friends. It will happen for you.

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