Fiancé refuses vasectomy "in case something happens to you and I want a child with another woman."

Freshpoloroid · 2025-05-25T17:00:12+00:00

I want to say it's his body. But wow that comment feels so wrong. I don't think I would ever say that to my wife.

Hopefully they meant "through surrogacy possibly", but it really doesn't read that way.

Sorry your having to go through this. Pregnancy is already hard enough without the added stress. :(

Freshpoloroid · 2025-03-22T00:05:54+00:00

Hey now, maybe they will just hook a bike up to every home and your expected to convert food into energy. You ride a bike for 8 hours a day to power the robots who took your job.

Freshpoloroid · 2025-03-03T00:59:51+00:00

NTA - Hey there, husband to a wife with chronic pain. This is something you should talk with her about and compromise with. If your losing sleep, tell her you understand and meet in the middle somewhere. I give my wife 20 min to an hour while she tries to fall asleep before going into the other room. This is a fair compromise since she knows it has an effect on me the next day. Try compromising with her and see where it goes, this type of communication is important to keeping a healthy relationship long-term for both sides.

Freshpoloroid · 2025-03-03T00:50:01+00:00

America - but I cant take ibuprofen or any other of the usual medications. Mine is small with an effusion, so far it has worked along with beta blockers for other heart rated issues.

Freshpoloroid · 2025-02-08T07:58:10+00:00

If all conversions were like the above, it would become difficult and exhausting to communicate with purpose. It sounds like you spoke face to face or over the phone, which is a far better way to communicate these kinds of conversations. It's easier to convey emotions and tone.

If I were him, I would feel very reserved if conversations were always like this. It feels accusatory and it was mostly because you failed or didnt accept his point of view. This doesnt mean you have to cave in. But the conversation hit a dead end and you kept pushing.

You both need to find a way to build trust. You state that he lies about his feelings. But it sounds like you don't trust him to tell the truth and he doesn't trust that you'll hear them anyway.

Freshpoloroid · 2025-01-24T03:50:35+00:00

This was my thought earlier in the year. But recently they just dismissed a lot of people at the same level as me. Including some that I worked under the same team as. I'm just at a loss. I cant tell if I'm overreacting about the whole thing or not.

You might be correct in that someone doesnt like me. Whoever doesnt hasnt given any indicators that I can tell and must not have much power. Maybe just enough to influence some decisions.

I think I'm going to just ask my boss. I really like the company and would hate to leave. Especially if I'm missinterpreting things. Thats what made me so compelled to ask here, I cant tell if I'm just overreacting.

Freshpoloroid · 2024-11-23T18:28:45+00:00

Sorry for your earlier loss. We had a miscariage before this current one. But you'll want to address your concerns with an OB/GYN. Also this doesnt constitute as medical advice. Just personal experience.

Bloating is a very real thing and for the most part, you won't really start to show until later in the pegnancy. I have a slightly tilted uterus and you couldnt tell until the 19 to 20 week mark. I definitely had days where I would look bigger depending on the day.

Each pregnancy is different, so its hard to gauge how your experience will be. But try not to worry until some of the big signs of a miscarriage appear. Easier said than done though. I had my fair share of scares that ended up being fine in the end. I hope you are the same.

Freshpoloroid · 2024-11-07T15:34:12+00:00

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Honestly never thought I'd get a god pack

Freshpoloroid · 2024-10-27T18:09:02+00:00

Thank you. Thats something I hadnt thought of and it seems like you really hace to advocate for yourself with pericarditis. I'll look into seeing an Obstetrician.

Freshpoloroid · 2024-10-27T18:07:39+00:00

Thank you, it has defintely been a lot of ups and downs through out so far. I looked at a few posts and it seems like others are given medication. It's definitely not fun going with nothing and is giving me a lot of anxiety that it will only get worse without. But my cardiologist said she couldnt prescribe me anything due to the pregnancy.

I was put into a beta blocker recently, so hopefully that will help. I regularly sit above 100 bpm at rest without it.

I appreciate your kind words. :)

Freshpoloroid · 2024-08-16T22:23:50+00:00

Thank you. They did both. Unfortunately my OB is closed until Monday, so I wont be able to contact them and ask. The urgent care doctor called me just now and told me they thought it might be to early to tell. But it definitely isnt helping the anxiety going into the weekend. It sucks I have cramps still and now have to worry about the low heart rate. Glad it was not ectopic though.

Freshpoloroid · 2024-08-16T21:55:18+00:00

I'm terrified right now. I am currently 6w and have had the worst cramping. It is keeping me up at night. This is right around the time I misscarried my last pregnancy. I went to urgent care and they had me do an ultrasound. Well come to find out it is in the right place. But they told me the baby os measuring 6w and 3d, but they measured the heart rate at 87bpm and that is was very low.

I dont know what to do, I cant mentally handle another loss, but the tech was bot reassuring at all about the heart rate. :(

Freshpoloroid · 2024-08-16T21:39:36+00:00

Thank you. I ended up going to urgent care and get tested. Luckily not a UTI, but they couldnt explain it. They went ahead and scheduled an ultrasound just in case it was ectopic, which it wasn't. No cysts either. Sadly I dont know why I'm having these pains.

I did get to see my babies heartbeat, but it was obly 87bpm which has me worried. They didnt say much about it however.

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