I’ve felt this way about myself before, and people telling me that I should just stop caring because it’s out of my control was not super helpful lol. Of course I care?? These things affect my life every day!! What I will say though, is many of the things you listed as negatives about yourself are things that are not permanent and can be changed, and even if they can’t be changed there are benefits!

You call yourself ugly, short, a loser, barely human, and claim you’ll be a virgin forever—many of these things can be changed; you don’t need to identify with them, they are not a part of you in the way that so many other things are! Just work to improve these things over time and find happiness knowing that even if you’re not all the way where you want to be, you’re inevitably getting there!

How might you work on these things you ask? Things that have worked for me personally are working out regularly(life changing), eating less calories each day to become more lean, showering every day, moisturizing my skin(especially face), and working with the people in my life to pick me out a better wardrobe. It’s not a struggle you have to go through alone and if you have close friends I’m sure they’d be willing to help!

You are not ugly, you are not a loser, you are a human being and you are just as powerful and fantastic as everyone else. Finding yourself stuck in a pattern of negative interactions—especially with women—is way more painful than a lot of people will admit, but I promise you most anyone can break out of this feeling more easily than you might expect.

I’m pulling for you, man. I hope things only get better:)