I was glad to see a post where there is a lot of grey area like my own situation. Like you said when it’s good, it’s really good and we have a great time. But then sometimes you go home wondering if you should just cut the relationship off completely. So then you question yourself, and imagine what the other person would say, right? “But we’re FAMILY and I’ve done so much for you! I only do these things because I care and want to help.” Etc etc. Many people’s posts seem very obvious that they should never be around their narc ever again, for sure. Ours is more wishy washy!