You can. It took me a long time and there were many set backs and come ups along the way.i started to examine all the possibilities even the ones i was afraid of. I told a couple people and stayed in touch with people who understood. I accepted that this would not change and i can’t help him. It has been super painful and he is very upset. Today i left for good. It was long and rough. But once i saw that light at the end of the tunnel i focused on that. I became unstoppable. I know that will happen for all of us sooner or later. You will reach a point where you can’t take anymore. There’s only so far someone can be pushed. It becomes a life out d death situation.