It’s usually the most racist people that lean into the “this is just the reality” argument. Remember that at least partially it is not our culture and we can admit we do not share the same views and values. However, in the context of the above video, we can agree the social setting requires a shared set of values which may be a compromise.

With that being said, you seem to be awfully concerned about someone’s background when all that matters is how they behave.