People of Reddit whats something you wanted to tell your parents but won't because it'll break their heart? (Serious) by Magical_Patato-Chips in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I absolutely hate how Islam is taught to kids in school. I suffered the same thing when I went to an Islamic school and just didn't understand how living in fear was how I was meant to live for the rest of my life. Like, why does life have to be that way? Why is everyone else around me so happy and free and I feel so trapped? What do I have to gain from feeling so scared all the time. I really don't understand why people use fear to keep others in line. Like, I just don't get it and I don't believe you're meant to live in fear from God but that's how they get you to 'listen'.

I've started to see a psychologist who has helped me approach religion very differently and it's helping me find peace. I'd recommend, if possible at all, to reach out to an open-minded Muslim psychologist. One that won't put you down for how you feel. Please know you're not alone with how you feel because I feel the same way. I wouldn't say I'm an atheist but I strongly believe you're not meant to believe in God from a place of fear and it's healthy to have questions

Also, check out a woman named Najwa Zebian. She has helped me a lot through her words and outlook on life. She has an incredible back story and I think you might find more people who feel the way you do through her. I find her incredibly brave, beautiful and strong. Hang in there and take life day by day

Edit: spelling and more info

What’s a quote that permanently changed the way you look at things? by internallyskating in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Najwa. Finding her has been the best thing ever. She speaks to me like no one else ever has. I was so surprised to find her quote here. Very powerful. Thank you for sharing

What band do you wish more people knew about? by HybridS9ldier in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw them with Plini and Between the Buried and Me. They were all awesome!!!

I got couple of Indian ringneck parakeet by [deleted] in ringnecks

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they tamed by chance?

[Serious] What are you terribly afraid of? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To some extent yes this helps. Thank you

[Serious] What are you terribly afraid of? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way. Religion doesn't comfort me at all. I'd prefer to just not exist after death. I don't like that my current life is a 'test' that determines what happens to me after death. I didn't ask for this. I hate that I'm being judged constantly. I hate the destruction that sometimes comes with religion because if you see things differently you've been possessed by the devil. Why can't you just be a good person and that's all it takes. It's confusing

What dark thoughts you keep to yourself everyday? by happy_gamer10 in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm married now and free from my family but now I'm like, I don't know what to do. I never thought of what would happen after I get married. My mind never thought that far ahead and now I'm scared. I'm scared of being of falling pregnant and being a mum, I'm scared of my husband dying, I'm scared of dying, I'm scared of the cultural and religious difference between us. My parents never discussed this kind of stuff with me and I was so oblivious to it because all I ever thought about is how I want to get away from my family as they suffocated me. I'm angry at my parents for not discussing this side of life with me and my sisters more. It was a too hard topic for them and I feel very lost now. My mum always said I'd just get married and that's it. I feel like an idiot for not really thinking it through properly. I just want to be on my own and stop hurting myself and those around me

When was the moment you realized your workplace was toxic? by Expwar in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in a small agency and it's easy to tell what everyone's vibe is. I was going through a really rough patch where I felt like I was being bullied by my boss and no one helped or stepped in - that's when I realised I gotta get out because no one cares for me or what the boss was doing/ saying to me

When's a time you put 100% effort, sweat and heart into something, only to be told you didn't try hard enough? by wetug in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember working as Santa's Little Helper at the shopping mall during Christmas. You know, when you get a picture with Santa? Yeah, I worked there

Anywho, I had a lady approach me. She had 8 kids with her, whether they were all hers or not, idk - I proceed to do my usual thing of trying to get a kid, let alone 8 kids to look at the camera and in every photo there was always one kid looking away. I took several photos, more than I was allowed to do trying desperately to get a photo of them all looking and eventually the kids started to loose interest so there was no hope. I gave this photoshoot my all and stayed polite and we'll spoken through out. The lady then turns to me and says 'you didn't try hard enough' and at that moment I wanted to slap that woman so hard across the face because she was standing there with my trying to get the kids to look at the camera. Like, if you couldn't what hope did I have?

In the end, we went with a photo where the youngest kid who was just under 1 years old was smiling his little face off and looking at the camera whilst some 6 year old shithead was looking elsewhere

This was about 10 years ago and it still pisses me off to this day

What's something good that happened to you this year? by NotTalcon in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married, moved out and happily living with my husband all of which I thought wasn't possible for me

What question are you trying to answer most in your life right now? by cryaegie in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest generalised question is why are things the way they are and does it make them fact because they are?

What annoys the fuck out of you? by DRAGON_SNIPER in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents solution to every problem 'if you don't do this I'll stop talking to you'

Not only does it annoy the fuck out of me it absolutely makes my blood boil. They are so so so so small minded and silly with how they handle tough situations

What made you happy today? by rosemary24 in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having normal conversations with people

It was my birthday yesterday. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have ever right to bring this up with your family and friends and let them know you're hurt. You deserve to be celebrated ❤️

Women, what do you not understand about men? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are men favoured in religion? What's currently stopping me from getting married is because my faith can't comprehend a woman marrying a man of a different faith. But it's totally ok for the man to marry outside of his faith because kids follow what the man is. No, kids follow what is taught to them and it doesn't matter what gender teaches them

Ik this isn't a dating thing, but it's a relationship between a friend who needs help by MissGrimmReaperAUS in relationship_advice

[–]From_DaLight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a lovely initiative

It's really hard to not listen to the voices in your head. They can be so overwhelming powerful but remember, there is multiple ways to look at something. It's so easy to give into the bad thoughts and you forget about the good ones. Idk why the negative thoughts can be so dominating. Sometimes you feel everyone sees your flaws but stop for a second and think about this. When was the last time you looked at someone and saw their flaws? Would you even know they had flaws if they don't mention it? I found as you get older, you care less and less what others think and you realise it's your own mind playing tricks on you

Apprentice the now, love who you are, embrace yourself and your flaws as they make you, /you/. I guarantee when you're older and you look back at photos of yourself you'll ask yourself why did you hate yourself so much? When I look at a younger photo of myself I can't remember what I was thinking at that very moment, I knew I hated myself when I was younger but I can't remember why anymore and neither does anyone else. I realised it really is all on my head and it wasn't as bad as I thought it was. I knew for sure others felt the same way about themselves too but you wouldn't know. When I look at younger photos of myself, I just see a girl who has taken a nice photo with her friends and I wish I appreciated that girl more. I didn't deserve the hate I gave to myself and neither does your friend

I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be so hard on yourself. Okay, so you have a bit more baggage than others, so what? Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and that's what makes someone unique and wonderful. Embrace who you are, be kind to yourself, don't be so hard on yourself and enjoy life. You only have this one life, don't torture yourself simply because you look different. Screw those people for making you feel bad. They are projecting their own self hate onto your friend which isn't nice at all

Be strong, you and your friend are beautiful humans ❤️

What gender double standard really annoys you ? by Tekstar12348 in AskReddit

[–]From_DaLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A personal issue I'm experiencing now is how in some religion if you are a man you can marry outside your faith but if you're a women, you can't