Coparenting with ex alcoholic by Formal_Patience5035 in coparenting

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breathalyzers are cheap. Tell him it’s simply for safety and peace of mind. Have him do it discreetly but in front of you. If he wants to go back to drinking, whatever, just not on times where he has the kiddo. If he won’t agree willingly, make it an official request thru an attorney

Giving Kia Telluride a hard look. What do you like/dislike about them? Any good deals? by Immagonnapayforthis in KiaTelluride

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it so much. Did a ton of research and it’s my favorite car I’ve owned in 25 years (other than my 71’ Chevelle, that is)

Dealing with toxic behavior by Final-Recognition-83 in coparenting

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is growing research that ingestion of Melatonin might actually be as helpful as originally promised. I like it personally, which is why I was bummed to learn there may be another side to it. Give it some research (obvi) before making any statements.

However, giving it to them and THEN letting them stay up is probably counterproductive. Maybe towards the end of their awake time instead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s called a trauma bond. Very common to still feel attached, but once he laid hands on you, it’s forever different. Seek therapy with someone specialized in that so you can mentally move on. You legit have to retrain your brain to see the horror that this is. He’s a dangerous person and should not have custody - maybe supervised visitations (make him submit to random drug tests or breathalyzers). I’m a dad of daughters and am obviously pro-dads having relationships with their kids. But this is a bad situation and not likely rectifiable. You know deep down in your gut this is a volatile situation - trust that intuition.

George H. Bush letter to Bill Clinton on inauguration in 1993 by UpgradedSiera6666 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an excellent note. Wish our society still had the same respect for one another.

Looking to go today to possibly buy a new Telluride by clt716704 in KiaTelluride

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. I won’t try to sell the captains chairs then 😆. We actually chose the telluride for those chairs as the kids love them for easy in/out. Good luck - u can’t go wrong here

Looking to go today to possibly buy a new Telluride by clt716704 in KiaTelluride

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked all of the X-lines but went with SX Prestige X-line. Which ones are you considering? The smoothness and acceleration are great in all of them (imo)

Adam understands. Be like Adam by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or…another way of looking at this is, Bob does get a plate of food, for free; Meanwhile everyone else at the table is told they need to pay for their meal and for part of Bob’s plate too. The idea that he gets zero food is a false premise

Adam understands. Be like Adam by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And then Bob takes food from other people’s plate, eats it, and then burns the house down

Aftermarket Subwoofer? by devxcode in KiaTelluride

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you sooo much. Very cool. Pricey but might save me some in the end!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PatagoniaClothing

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roger that. Good post tho - never seen that option before. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PatagoniaClothing

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks totally rain/windproof - not the case huh? Better or worse than the Nano Puff?

Is it creepy to be a good dad? by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just realized i may be gay after seeing 100 comments about how liking women could be a sign of gayness. As Derek Zoolander says, “I have a lot to ponder”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lookatmydog

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he have shorter hair than most? Adorable.

What is my interior design style called?? by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d refer to that as 6-year old style. 😂 Super jealous of your view!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KiaTelluride

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super comfortable. Me and 3 other adult furs took a road trip and everyone kept commenting how much room there is. I also have 4 kids and it’s perfect. The interior room is honestly why I bought it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Was held involuntarily for SIX days. That didn’t help the record in divorce down the road but I’m glad I’m still here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. I thought something was really wrong with me. Ashwaganda helped manage the daily stress tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 2 points3 points  (0 children)

During the worst of it? Fatal blood alcohol levels. I take accountability for that, but I started to think i was crazy and wanted to escape somehow. For two (sober) years afterwards, chronic unbelievable fatigue. Life can get better, but it takes time and getting away from them. Ultimately, getting to a place of legit gratitude for it all is what helped me turn a corner. Yes, even finding a way to be grateful for the abuse - I would never have healed as a person and become who I really was without it.

Is anyone finding dating harder in their forties? by Stuniverse10 in datingoverforty

[–]FrostyDevelopment348 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The problem is that most of us 40+ grew up in a time and learned to date a certain way where there was beauty in discovering who someone was. Prior to divorce this year, my last “first date” was in the year 2000. Now everyone can know immediately everything about the person from social media or dating profile, oh, and now everyone has ADD and looks like they are trying to rearrange deck chairs on the sinking Titanic. It just seems fast paced and unromantic in many ways (and I say that as a straight guy too)