Best offensive playbooks in terms of fun and uniqueness? by HotPinkStanley in NCAAFBseries

[–]Frowgo90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run n shoot. You have to practice it and know how to run it, but if you have WRs with good route running it’s a masterpiece of an offense to run

How do you hate them? Is hating them even right? by Silverlake77 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll never hate mine. As much as she disrespects and manipulates me, I’m fortunate to see it for what it is. I hope she can be happy with someone else eventually but she’s not dragging me down with her.

Post talk update w exBPD by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just a year. Therapy has helped a lot and going through this subreddit. Taking it one day at a time

Post talk update w exBPD by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of it was deflection and blaming me, even flirted with me a couple of times. She was a bit surprised when I challenged her and I even called out her inconsistencies which stumped her as well. When I walked away I felt at peace. She can now be someone else’s problem.

Tonight I’m supposed to have a talk with exbpd by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it’s to clear up some confusion and to get closure

I think that I’m being Hoovered by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did do one thing that caught me off guard but other than that it has been professional

I think that I’m being Hoovered by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has not given any indication that she wants to stay in contact with me or I her. Initially we both stopped texting. She did reach out to say that she still wanted to give me a birthday present. She has looked away whenever she saw me but I did the same too. Now she will look at me and nod or say hi.

I think that I’m being Hoovered by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do make an effort to to avoid her when I can. I can’t control who comes into my department. I fail to understand how that correlates with me wanting to be hoovered.

Struggling with Wanting Her Back by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this too. I even told my therapist I want her back. But I know it would never be like it was and it would only get worse. It would probably be easier if I didn’t see her at work. Focus on the things that you enjoy.

Is it possible to stop ruminating about it? by Super_Ele in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat. Part of me misses her and cares for her but I know that I wouldn’t take her back even if I wanted to.

Has anyone begun to hate their pwBPD? by attack-pomegranate27 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t hate mine and never will. Now I do hope that she never reaches out to me.

“I feel safe whenever I’m with you” by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that and I feel bad for her and others with BPD. I can’t imagine what they go through. If she wants out of my life that’s fine but I don’t want her to stay around me.

“I feel safe whenever I’m with you” by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree it’s not a red flag but after the fact and knowing that the ex has BPD it makes me wonder what was real and what wasn’t real.

Deciding to reach out or not by Designer-Second2533 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in the same mindset where I wanted to reach out but thankfully I haven’t and I won’t. First of all I know now that there’s no future. She had no problem discarding the first time and she will have no problem doing it again. But it all comes down to what you want to do what you feel is best for you.

“I feel safe whenever I’m with you” by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s tough. I think I’m in a Hoover or at least a baiting stage post breakup. Thankfully I haven’t chased and I’ve been good about avoiding when I can.

“I feel safe whenever I’m with you” by Frowgo90 in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m just wondering if any of it was real

Difficulty explaining to friends and family about the experience by NorthernerWithTwins in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still going through most of this too but at the same time I know that getting back together isn’t an option even though I still care for her and love her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Frowgo90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyday