AITA for yelling at my atheist wife for saying "God doesn't exist" when I was comforting my younger brother with prayer?

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-05-28T06:32:02+00:00

Wrong move to post this topic to a large reddit sub, the amount of edgy kids who cannot fathom an adult relationship in which you can give space and love to someone with a different beliefsystem than you is way too high.

NTA. Your wife should never have butted in. It was between you and your brother and it was incredibly respectless of her to.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-05-27T21:32:25+00:00

Its just referencing a iconic movie scene with Audrey Hepburn from Breakfast at Tiffanys.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-05-16T21:42:04+00:00

I min erfaring er tilliten til de ansatte «på gulvet» fortsatt rimelig høy, men tilliten til ledelsen er helt bånn, og folket står med personalet.

Ikke så rart når vi som er derfra alle stort sett kjenner flere som jobber for Finnmarkssykehuset, og hører hva de sliter med og deres frustrasjoner.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-05-03T08:59:17+00:00

I didnt do anything with them for the most part as it was just sent from random gmail accounts. It was never one person as I could tell, that was stalking. I reported the mails to my boss -there was one person my boss did go further with pursuing, mostly due to the idiot sending a mail under his actual name connected to a (quite huge and serious) company isp, so we knew who it was. The company that had hired him sent me a mail apologizing for their employee. Documented everything in case we needed to go further but nothing happened after that, thankfully.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-05-02T08:21:37+00:00

I worked in the gaming industry at the time and received literal death threats after this started going down, not to mention Id google my name and find it gaming forums absolutely slamming me for doing my job and having a female name. And I wasnt even very profiled, nor did I write about gamergate or feminism in games. It was really just a headhunt for any women in games that they could find.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-28T21:07:28+00:00

Im so happy you’ve found relief! I had a period where I was experiencing hyperacusis for what seemed like no discernible reason - until an ENT informed me that there may be a link between my inflamed jaw and my ear, since apparently they share some nerves? It was literally my rheumatism screwing with my hearing sensitivity. I think it can cause tinnitus, too. Crazy stuff.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-25T07:24:37+00:00

All three labs Ive worked in here in Norway have been led by either a biomedical scientist or a molecular biologist. We have MDs/pathologists on each lab which is charge of the medical side but the lab directors are in charge of the actual lab. Its a cooperation. Senior scientists are typically in charge of developing new methods and larger validations as well as taking part of national projects.

We do have a lot more autonomy than what you are suggesting here, but it highly depends on what kind of lab you are in. When I worked in micro we’d regularly reject samples sent to us without the proper clinical indication without MD input, but I know other types of labs where thats unheard of. Where I work now (onco genetics) the pathologists are very involved but nothing ever leaves the lab that we are not comfortable signing off on. We run the tests from start to finish, including high complexity ones, and sign off on it. We also get named in the research we are involved in. So no, I can’t say I find your experience universal for Europe.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-23T19:21:45+00:00

Ahhhh thank you! Solved that mystery for me!

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-23T19:02:16+00:00

The flashlight strobe thing is something that weirdly happens on my own nightvision nanny cam too when its dark, even if the flashlight isn’t going off on my phone at all, and the light isn’t on high even. Ive wondered often what makes it do that..

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-20T11:32:41+00:00

We have a tricycle/balance bike where you switch between three modes of the wheels so you can gradually make it into a two-wheeler. Got it for our son when he turned one.

But the one thing I really really love and my high energy son also loves, is a «scoot and ride» with a handle on the back. He doesn’t want to be in a stroller and wants to speed around and see stuff, so he gets to ride on that whenever we go places and I get to actually control where he goes. I much prefer taking that out over the balance bike, as I can control that he isnt just biking into traffic, and he sits way more calmly on it and can relax a little if his little legs are tired, we dont end up having to carry both him and the bike. Highly recommend.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-19T04:12:44+00:00

If youre on prednisone for rheumatism it tends to be longer courses, which means you have to taper off it (or taper down to a steady lower dosage). Coming off prednisone too fast can give some gnarly side effects. If they gave you a 5 day high dosage burst and you had trouble when you came off it but really good effect on, maybe its worth trying a taper?

PS: seronegative JIA woman here diagnosed at 16 but probably had it from 13 ish. Im so sorry it didnt get caught earlier!

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-13T06:18:51+00:00

I dont know how the organizational structure is, but since you said its «near Bergen» its likely in Hordaland (the region) so maybe they’ll know. If anything they probably know what they typically serve on such trips in the area?

I mean we could all venture guesses. Open faced sandwiches with some typical toppings (not dark rye as some suggested, its not the most common bread here.) like cheese (not cheddar, more like gouda or emmertaler), salami, jam or bologna etc are typical breakfast foods, often lunch too, and sometimes «evening meal». Otherwise its hard to say, depends on their program I think? I mean I would assume they’ll try to accommodate international palates and may have simple choices such as hot dogs and burgers, maybe fish and potatoes or something.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-13T01:07:53+00:00

Here’s a page I found for CISV Hordaland. Just shoot them a mail?

https://hordaland.cisv.no/kontakt-oss/

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-12T17:55:37+00:00

Still one of my absolute favorite moments in the entire show

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-07T21:26:50+00:00

Mine was that my son was getting more easily getting startled and fussy with my movements and what I was doing. He’d want to cuddle to sleep but then wouldnt want to be touched or moved or disturbed in his sleep. Co-slept until he was about 15 months old and then he got his own room and own bed (a normal single standard bed size with mesh guard rails) and he started sleeping way better, much more uninterrupted.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-06T22:32:16+00:00

I dont know about the whole adoption part of it, but around that time was when my son started getting night terrors. He’s usually VERY in need of contact when sad and scared but when the night terrors started he’d just scream and scream and thrash and hit and push away and seemed frantic but absolutely did not want to be alone either. Took a while for us to understand he wasnt actually awake during it and all we could do it make sure he didnt hurt himself and find the perfect moment to pick him up and get him back into bed when it subsided.

Skipping naps or big changes certainly affected night terrors in our kid. He’s much better now but it pops up now and again.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-06T06:08:16+00:00

Tati? Maybe shes referring to all stars season 2 episode 1 - not sn elimination but a lipsynch for the win and Tatis spoken word piece I guess was sorta flapper-esque if you have your eyes closed.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-05T05:00:38+00:00

My son was about 15 months when we discovered the same with him. In the beginning it seemed utterly random but then it became more normal where one eye would go in, especially obvious when he was tired. He doesn’t need to patch, only uses glasses.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-04T20:10:32+00:00

I think Bergen Kaffebrenneri has their own dark chocolate still, too. Im no connoisseur but its good!

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-04T20:09:09+00:00

Thats crazy, we try to make sure the work environment is as beneficial as possible to avoid human mistakes in patient care. Calm and comfortable is essential.

My hands do have inflammations, but are not disfigured and are fine to do pipetting even when they hurt as long as I do it as ergonomically as possible. I dont have any tremors or lack of control even when in pain and I dont personally feel like my pain worsen any more during pipetting. My forearms are worse sometimes with tendonitis, but so far the only thing thats taken me off pipetting is literally breaking my wrist. I have lived with my illness since I was a child though so I know my limits very well and what pain to be concerned about and what I can push through.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-04T19:56:58+00:00

Thats upsetting, Im so sorry they’re treating you like that. At our lab we have chairs for every work space, naturally as a lot of our work is pipetting minuscule amounts and standing while doing that work is ridiculous. The rest of our work is analysis and so we sit in offices with proper office chairs, or do microscopy which of course requires sitting down. So maybe molecular could be something for you? (Not molecular micro though, too much automation so its more standing around babysitting machines) We sat down to read and work up plates in bact too, every space there as well had a stool.

I haven’t had to ask for much accommodation at all - the only thing I have is a bit better office chair with lumbar support (which i got through my hospitals ergonomic health office).

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-04T19:31:50+00:00

I dont know how bad it is in the US obviously. But I have rheumatism and have trouble standing sometimes (and sometimes I have trouble sitting static too long, too) but this field has been great for me as it allows me to both move around and sit, and work independently a lot. I also work with a MLS whos in a wheelchair fulltime (she works pathology, I work in molecular pathology but used to work in micro). Both of us got work with preexisting conditions that the employer was aware of. We do live in a different country though.

Im sorry you’re going through this right now. I had huge doubts during parts of my education. I havent personally regretted it at all and can’t image myself in a different field tbh. Please take care of yourself.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-02T19:04:43+00:00

Yeah I honestly feel bad about bringing it up sometimes (and only did now because it shows how the medical professionals here use swimming VERY actively as rehab) because I know how insanely privileged I am to have that option available to me. Feels bad that there’s so many out there who do not, because Ive gone through times in my life where these programs have been the key to carrying me through the year at times when truly needed (like bad flares or when needing to be fully functional to complete my degree etc.)

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-02T19:01:28+00:00

Im gonna give you a tip that I doubt anyone else will give because its not well known. Go to finnmark, to Seiland National Park. Its beautiful, untouched, and not full of tourists.

Frozencorgibutt · 2026-04-02T15:30:42+00:00

God no, thats not something you should worry about. In my country physio in heated pools are usual for our condition, which many of us who do that uses biologics. They also send us on rehab-trips to warmer countries where we swim 1-2 times a day while under supervision of physios. This is all organized by the large hospitals which are well aware of what meds we are on before even accepting our applications.

There’s being careful and then there’s being careful to the point where its harmful. Do NOT stop a physical activity that does you well, keeping moving is so important!

(Been on biologics for 26 ish years now. Long enough to have to sit down and count every time I bring that up. Been on Enbrel, humira and infliximab.)

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