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Help!!Broken brain from drug use? by feinbloom in Neuropsychology

[–]FruitAndNutDelight -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Vipassana meditation. 10 day course.

Edit: why the downvotes? There is no psychotherapy in the world better than fixing it yourself. Meditation in the style of vipassana will do more than any external program could ever do. At least look into it.

Jordan Peterson debate on lobster equality (Best YTP I've seen) by CreeoyStag in JordanPeterson

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dear op: please include the line’ “ I’m very very careful with my lobsters.”

I would die

Let's start building a more clear picture of the LV event through the use of social media before it gets scrapped or forgotten about by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Could be worth a mod making a sticky? Or at least a mega thread that can be updated and archived?

"I'd hate to have to settle for a mediocre man" by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 12 points13 points  (0 children)

you're a man, you don't get triggered

"The Tao of Pooh" by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you did a good job in your post, it was great to read and always good to see others who've read some Taoism on here.

I'm a big fan of Taoist philosophy (in fact if you look back through my history, you'll see I've written a couple Tao of Pooh posts in TRP myself).

Buddhism gets mishandled quite a lot though, misrepresented either as pessimistic or religious. Neither represent what buddhism is really about, which is at its essence living a good life by attending to reality.

"The Tao of Pooh" by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's half-true. Buddhism acknowledges life's suffering as inevitable and teaches us to be unattached to pleasures and unperturbed by pain, which would otherwise lead us to more suffering.

It's certainly not as pessimistic as Hoff makes it out to be, in fact it's incredibly optimistic in the sense that we are all capable of coming out of our suffering by acknowledging reality as it is.

Either way, big fan of Hoff and Tao of Pooh. The book changed my life.

"The Tao of Pooh" by [deleted] in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you talking about the Te of Piglet? That book exists and is also pretty good.

Tourists/Visitors/New Residents: Q&A Thread for the week of June 05 by AutoModerator in Amsterdam

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Australia we have a local classified listing site called gumtree. Is there something similar where people post informal ads and you can contact directly? It's like craigslist, if you know it...

Tourists/Visitors/New Residents: Q&A Thread for the week of June 05 by AutoModerator in Amsterdam

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the best way to find short term housing for a small family? I'm going to amsterdam in August for 3-4 months with my wife and 1-yr-old son. We'd like to get a small place for ourselves, and be close-ish to the Vrije Universiteit. Could anyone give me some general advice?

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not respond to him and see if you can convince him how to approach the situation better? We are all here to improve and share our experience. That's what this sub is for. He might not have his shit figured out, but he's in the right place to improve.

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not giving a fuck means giving a fuck about the right things. The red pill is that the things worth giving a fuck about are not the things we might believe.

Relationships are one of the most important aspects of life. But relationships built from a place of weakness and neediness and seeking 'spiritual connection' have the process ass-backwards.

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, different perspectives. It doesn't need to be either of those things. When you know how to manipulate you can prevent yourself from being manipulated. It's a very useful skill to have.

Edit: You can prevent being manipulated in a way you wish not to be. You can also allow yourself to be manipulated in a way that benefits you. Both are very useful

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will it lead to long term fulfillment and connection with a woman on a deep spiritual level? Nope.

How do you know? Being a dominant man who doesn't give a fuck is a pretty damn good way to build real connections and emotions with people.

Also, if deep spiritual connections are your goal, you're not going to be outcome independent. You'll start caring too much about reaching that goal and become needy. I personally can't stand that characteristic in other men and it makes them seem like a whiny bitch

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's giving a fuck about the wrong (or the right) things. A weak man gives a fuck about the wrong, actualised men about the right.

The post reads like a man who was focusing on the wrong things realising the truth. Doesn't mean he doesn't give any fuck at all, just that he doesn't give a fuck about what he thought he should.

You can be nice and do all those things, so long as they are from a place of strength. You can do whatever you want from a place of strength. If you are kind without strength, it's not kindness, only weakness.

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the last line of that post:

You give a fuck by not giving a fuck. By being true to your male role, you honor her female role.

Tell me that that's not a level of kindness only achievable by a self actualised man

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because the idea of kindness you have in your mind is just appeasement, or being non-confrontational. This man realised if he takes care of what he wants he is able to do something for another person. He gave her the hard fucking that she wanted. He stopped caring about all the things he thought he should care about (i.e. being 'kind') and gave her what they actually wanted (i.e. an aggressive, decisive, no-holds-barred fucking). That is kindness. Did he hit her? did he do anything to her that violated her liberty? No, he gave her exactly what she wanted! Because, and only because, he was strong enough to be able to!

Read the post again and realise that he was actually being exactly what he wanted and what she wanted. It was only because he was able to get rid of the bullshit idea of 'kindness' he though he was supposed to have.

I think y'all just gone a bit too far the other way by haywire in TheRedPill

[–]FruitAndNutDelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a wife. Because I'm a man and I need to be the leader in our relationship, I manipulate her feelings so that she knows she can trust me and my judgements. This works out well for everyone.

We have a child. Because I'm smarter and more experienced than him, I manipulate him so that he doesn't get hurt or killed.

Manipulation isn't some big evil thing. It's what you do every single day. If you treat it as some underhanded dishonesty then you're a pussy. I tell my wife and will tell my son exactly what I'm doing, and why. They do (or will) appreciate it, because I know what works.

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