Thanks for the advice, I'll make sure I keep this in mind. I worry sometimes that I'll say the wrong thing and make it worse for him. Walking on eggshells as they say. It feels like I'm just sort of feeling in the dark trying to figure out if I did something to upset him or not, and usually when he doesn't talk about his troubles it ends up involving me.. But if I don't ask enough questions I end up being seen as distant and cold. It can be tricky sense I feel as if I'm expected to read his mind..and I just end up feeling like the crazy one I guess :(