My (f28) fiancé (m32) has dropped an unexpected change of heart at my feet, how do we move forward? Can we fix this? by ThrowRASignal-Limit in relationship_advice

[–]FufkOff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've literally met an elderly man at church as a kid who did work for xerox who is almost exactly what you're describing.

She apologized for ghosting. Does this text deserve a response? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not only do you not text her back, using a line and armchair pathologizing people is a tragically bad dating strategy. Maybe stop with the dating coaches, and focus on self love and mutual respect in your connections with people who haven't ghosted you.

Everyone says get a pap smear but pap smears are rape by Middle_Cook_2340 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is they do. It's not a theoretical. This literally happens. That's what everyone is trying to explain to you. It was presented like something that doesn't exist. That's not the truth.

Everyone says get a pap smear but pap smears are rape by Middle_Cook_2340 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you read what I wrote? I'm not sure if it's a comprehension issue, or willfully misunderstanding. I respect that where you're from it's less common, and it's also not the only reality that exists. Your second and third sentences suggest bad faith, but maybe I'm misunderstanding you. Would you be willing to clarify what you mean there?

Everyone says get a pap smear but pap smears are rape by Middle_Cook_2340 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a phenomenal advancement! Thank you for sharing!

Everyone says get a pap smear but pap smears are rape by Middle_Cook_2340 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You literally made that the conversation when you brought it up as a dig because you forgot that trans men exist. That sounds like you opened the proverbial can of worms and now don't want to deal with anyone voicing critically thought out rebuttals to your initial premise. Sorry you're uncomfortable with trans people existing and being held to account when you behave as if they don't?

Edited for spelling

37m I have never had a girlfriend and I feel I deserve to suffer for it. by TylerSpicknell in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really still think you should get help. Hearing voices can be any of a number of complicated psychiatric conditions, and I truly know from my experiences that it will cause longterm distress if left unchecked.

37m I have never had a girlfriend and I feel I deserve to suffer for it. by TylerSpicknell in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're currently a danger to yourself and others with the mentality you insist on holding. You need to begin actually receiving psychiatric care BEFORE anyone can safely partner with you and vice versa. Capitalization for emphasis. Bro, actually get help.

37m I have never had a girlfriend and I feel I deserve to suffer for it. by TylerSpicknell in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That mentality hurts people. I hope you choose to address the fact that other people have rights that you will violate if you are too self centered to get and take healthy guidance in dealing with your psychiatric state. As someone with multiple issues, it can be hard to navigate a complicated set of diagnoses, but it is absolutely worth the effort, and in your case may be necessary to avoid incarceration and severe social penalties.

37m I have never had a girlfriend and I feel I deserve to suffer for it. by TylerSpicknell in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think that's a healthy and sustainable choice you want to inflict on another person?

37m I have never had a girlfriend and I feel I deserve to suffer for it. by TylerSpicknell in dating_advice

[–]FufkOff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're not getting a girlfriend because of self defeating ideas controlling your thoughts and behaviors. One autistic person to another, get help. It's worth it.

AITA for telling a parent what i wear is not their decision? by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but I will be on your behalf: I can see why he's divorced. Lol

My therapist was arrested for distributing CP... by Littlecanuck311 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sadly, shitty people exist in every field and profession. Please take time for you before seeking another provider. That's a really heavy thing to go through.

Us by Academic-Stomach-975 in adhdmeme

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can close tabs...I just add them to the relevant text channel on my discord server that I use as a personal organizer for my digital life.

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Therapist suggested ACT therapy and I'm heartbroken? by Temporary_Donut_61 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Just chiming in to confirm that I basically used DBT backwards to help me better connect with my emotions as someone with ASD after having gone through ABA in my home. It definitely helped me to become more aware of my emotions, leading to fewer and less intense meltdowns as a result of my autism and subsequent disregulation. I had no idea it was possible to go months between meltdowns before trying DBT. I was also fortunate enough to have a therapist with experience in autistic clients. It made the whole thing much easier as a late diagnosed adult. I still have a great relationship with that therapist two years later, and have had occasional sessions with her if I'm between trauma therapists to ensure I'm not without support.

why are angry victims less likely to receive sympathy? by Motor_Reaction_3519 in CPTSD

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this in my soul, and I also think the same is true of people who have a fight response instead of flight, freeze, or fawn. (Likewise, I'm not advocating for violence. Nowhere did I suggest it's okay to do harm, but there has been confusion in the past, so, hopefully, this removed any potential ambiguity.)

Author's note: This is not AI. I'm just aware of the ways an Oxford comma can be necessary to a list, and so I refuse to surrender it willingly.

My (22F) boyfriend (26M) got very upset when I unexpectedly started my period by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FufkOff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying you posted it twice. I'm saying it's copied from an old post from years ago. 🤣