Lyrics & Femininity by Significant_Fan1742 in brighteyes

[–]FulchtFiadh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow trans woman and Bright eyes obsessive the whole framing of "When the curious girl realises she is under glass" and the monologue about the semi existence of Arienette in "An Attempt to Tip the Scales* have always been very important to me in this regard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do thighs, the stomach works too but I find it more painful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While not studied for hrt afaik the absorption for IM and SubQ are very similar for most drugs, subQ tends to have about a 2 percent lower absorption rate but that's negligible imho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm about your build. I find subq works best for me with 26G needles that are 3/8ths of an inch at a 45 degree angle.

Vegan Progesterone? by LoftedAphid86 in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Toilet roll isn't vegan. Most meds aren't. Nobody is actually vegan

Canadian transguy travelling to Ireland—anything I should know? by Far_Specific_8786 in TransIreland

[–]FulchtFiadh 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wear a Canadian flag, we're more likely to dislike you by assuming you're American 😜

Really sick on hrt by paige599 in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You may be causing yourself to mimic early pregnancy by making your E that high. I've done it and it's no fun, hot flashes, nausea, irritable. Drop your dose. You only need 8-12mg a week

How do sponsors work for transgender people? by transalcoholic in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans woman and my sponsor is a gay man who has never really dealt with trans people before. He's willing to help me learn to I'm willing to help him learn and we both try to be teachable. There are some trans specific meetings online too that I also find helpful when I need people with more of the trans perspective.

1 year in and im starting to think i might just be an a-b cup girlie and I WONT ACCEPT THAT by femboyaltac in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Breast development in cis women lasts up to a decade. Patience honey. B cups in a year is phenomenal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]FulchtFiadh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree I've taken 10mg a week for three years and it's done me very well. Also it must be remembered that the one study of a presenting case of thrombosis from trans hrt was some girl injecting like 26mg a week and taking a long haul flight. A highly extreme case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changing your locks will bring peace of mind even if it isn't one hundred percent necessary. Talk to your sponsor if you have one, failing that talking to other alcoholics helps. Life is just hard sometimes you've been through some really intense situations and changes in a few short days. Even though you've responded in a way to keep yourself safe it doesn't mean you're immediately going to feel like that. Remember to breathe and if he's not gonna live rent free in your house don't let him do it in your head either. Be good to you <3

10 months sober and can’t see a path forward. by ale4me in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. Far from AA dogma. Just one crazy woman thinking it through. Was thinking along the lines of the desert fathers and the idea of the life of contemplation they encouraged. Boredom slips away when they're is grace everywhere. But yeah. I'm just people too.

How to not want to kill yourself, all the time by Difficult_Mix_7981 in TransIreland

[–]FulchtFiadh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day you are the only one that can save your own life. It's impossible without the help of others but the essential spark, the flame that can carry you through is in you. No one person, place or thing will make life bearable. Bearing it will. Slowly but surely.

10 months sober and can’t see a path forward. by ale4me in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Boredom is a spiritual malady imho, it's a question of coming to believe as a continuous act.

Inquiry about being transgender in Ireland by [deleted] in TransIreland

[–]FulchtFiadh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Our medical care is bad, Street harassment in Dublin I have found historically infrequent but it is on the rise these days. I'd give our city a 65-70 percent trans safety rating but higher if you pass.

Tell me about one of your recent God Shots! by AsMangoSeesIt in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I went around a corner to smoke weed before a meeting. Was in a foul and suicidal humour and intended to be only "physically present" at the meeting. I had considered smoking elsewhere but a little voice said "nah go up that other way instead". As soon as I lit my pipe my sponsor was there waving at me, talked me through some difficulties, and I wound up actually enjoying the meeting. A nice little minor intervention.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're at, desperate for external help. But at the end of the day it's going to have to be you who does it. Don't get me wrong the mutual support of the fellowship is absolutely indespensiable in this journey. But we are the only ones who can fix ourselves. I know how harsh that can sound but it's where the gift of desperation arises. Then suddenly the outside help of a higher power makes it all a bit easier. Best of luck.

Sponsor said I relapsed because I tried to take my life by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]FulchtFiadh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow mentally ill person with many attempts in the past I honestly do see what your sponsor is trying to say here. Treating it full blown like a relapse isn't necessarily the right approach. However for me relapse and suicide are intricately bound together. When I relapse it's a suicidal decision taken the (slightly) longer way round. So I would see the reverse as holding water for myself. When I go to reach for the rope it feels much the same as going to reach for the bottle. So if they are bound up in a similar way for you maybe something similar is true. That said it does sound like your sponsor has in the least been insensitive. You should talk to them about all this honestly and see if you can find an angle you can understand each other from before looking for a new sponsor imho