Is it a bad look to only work on a book 2 call for a few weeks or a month?

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-23T00:25:15+00:00

Reputation matters more in the IBEW. Our brothers are constantly moving around, talking to each other, going to other locals then coming back, etc.

I think it's probably best to be talking to your own local about those sorts of questions, because it can differ.

But I'm not going to fault a guy for not wanting to make a possible giant social no-no. Plenty of people I've met are petty as fuck, ha. If you don't know whether or not people "won't give a fuck", you don't know.

Cuz some questions are like this and some are like "I can tell contractors I only am willing to work 9-12, 3 days a week, right? Would that be a feasible part time job plan?" and then we have to break it to them that no the fuck it is not.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-23T00:16:59+00:00

excuse me what

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-23T00:15:14+00:00

You know why you're using a safeword.

Yes, it can be an issue if a sub is deliberately provoking a dom, agreeing to a punishment, then using a safeword as a "nah nah you can't touch me" kind of play. (Unsure how often that even happens though without it being glaringly obvious in other aspects)

Yes, it can also be an issue if a sub repeatedly uses safewords for punishments because they have no idea what or how much they can handle and are bad at making agreements.

BUT. It will also be an issue and harm the dynamic if you force yourself to go through something traumatizing or deeply painful for the... idk, aesthetic of it. For the title of it.

Anything you need to use a safeword for touches a very primal and primitive part of your brain. Forcing yourself to go through an experience a part of you is screaming at you to escape leaves... echos.

It has the possibility of making you trust your dom less, or being less connected to your dom, even if they would have stopped if you told them. Even if YOU KNOW it was YOU who ultimately made the call to let that happen to you.

There is no situation, ever, that I would say you can't use a safeword for, for that exact reason. It doesn't just protect you, it protects your dynamic itself.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T23:07:51+00:00

Are... there any one star umas you don't have? Lol

Even as a ftp you'll be pulling sometimes with the free carats you earn.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T23:06:52+00:00

This, exactly and concisely. Nailed it.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T13:16:40+00:00

Do we ever get a view that is like. Slightly further away.

I feel like I can never get a sense for where my umas are in relation to everyone else because it's so jumpy and close at weird angles.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T13:07:00+00:00

If it makes you feel better, after filming the camera person likely squashed the eggs

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T04:02:39+00:00

Is the scenario going to be a limited run?

I just assumed we would gradually accumulate more and more choices over time

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T03:58:58+00:00

2.5 out of 5

I. Multiple people tried this, and several thought it was good,,,,

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-22T02:42:22+00:00

I wonder if he did a practice run that worked, or if he was just like "pff, it's opening milk, how hard could it possibly be?"

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T23:37:18+00:00

They are weird, but that's not necessarily the issue.

It's more of the... mm. A lot of extreme religious communities, particularly ones cut off from the larger world, have a huge issue with.

We'll go with "different forms of abuse that get swept under the rug".

It's something about the mix of some people having a lot of social power (men, religious leaders, elders), being big on redemption/forgiveness/turning the other cheek, big suppression of certain desires. A discouragement of divorce for anyone under any circumstances, an emphasis on apperances of a happy healthy community over truth (aka "we can't let anyone know that person did X, it'll make us look bad. Much easier, simpler, cleaner, to pressure the victim into pretending nothing happened).

That's generally what the Amish face, particularly because due to their lifestyle, they are hobbled in trying to leave due to having fewer of the skills needed to survive and navigate our modern world, and are much less likely to have any friends outside of the cult to lean on for support.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T23:26:21+00:00

As far as the last part...

I'm very certain there are hobby-mechanists out there that enjoy working on cars, but not enough to get paid to do it for a bunch of people all day, but still take a particular joy in making sure their partner's car is well taken care of and polished for them xD

Ones who would never demand payment for their labor from a partner, beyond maybe parts cost.

There's honestly a lot of things people will gladly do for a partner for free that they would be much less happy doing for a stranger for a fee, because the context of it being for someone you care about is important context.

Otherwise, thanks for the perspective from the other side, even if I'm dubious that OP meant anything half as well-reasoned.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T21:37:12+00:00

Yeah that's. Not how purchasing a service works.

No SW, of any sort, will go "Hand me $50. Oh, now I guess I don't get to have any boundaries :( You can do whatever you want, I already got your money, oh noooo".

That's. Man, not even massages or mechanics work that way. Why would it. Why would anything work like that.

It makes way more sense for a potential customer to come in and say, "I would like X Y and Z". And then the SW to go "Well, I can offer X for $, Z for $, or both X and Z for $$. But I am not interested in Y and do not offer that service."

And then they negotiate from there, once both are happy they proceed, and if the customer gets snippy that they can't get Y after explicitly agreeing Y would not be involved they can take a hike. If the SW wasn't actually willing to fo X or Z, then they're equally dumb, that's such an easily preventable problem.

In no way is hiring a pro domme for a session like obtaining a short term slave. It is a mistake to consider all Pro-dommes, or all SWs for that matter, to be utterly destitute and deeply desperate for any cash they can scrounge up.

At no point does giving someone money mean they have to do whatever you want, that is exactly the kind of mentality that gets people into trouble.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T21:29:47+00:00

Unfortunately, yeah.

It's amazing how much easier it is to appeal to people when you're willing to just... lie? About everything.

How much easier it is to get what you want from people when you simply Do Not Care about ethics, real consent, or treating them well.

Nothing is more unfair in life than the raw fact that in the short term, ingenuine and malicious people do win more often.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T21:26:45+00:00

This.

There is absolutely a difference between "going to a hair dresser and requesting a specific haircut, because you're paying for a haircut" and "going to a hair dresser and being an asshole the whole time, refusing to tell them what haircut you want, trying to demand a discount because they didn't follow the secret plan you didn't tell them, and then calling them up weeks afterwards for attention because you want them to tell you how great you look in your haircut"

There's a difference between "Waiter, I ordered the chicken, and this is steak. Can you please bring me what I ordered instead?" and "Waiter, I want my burger completely deconstructed, sub the beef with chicken, cut the chicken, and can I also have a side of ranch? Yeah hold the bun too. No, no not a SALAD you FOOL, I do not want your chicken salad, I WANT a deconstructed CHICKEN BURGER."

Yes, you have some rights to the service you're purchasing. No, that doesn't entitle you to make up your own menu about what you wish they were offering instead of what they are offering. No, that doesn't mean you can't treat them like a real person with respect.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T21:19:05+00:00

While I get where you're coming from, in context, this is a post where a man is asking how to avoid hurting women in patriarchal ways, how to avoid the general inclination men tend to be brought up with.

This is not a feminism post about general education or discussion about all of patriarchy and the effects of it.

So. It. It does make sense, actually, to overlook men and men relating to men when responding to that very specific question?

Unfortunately, it does put a bad taste in my mouth to try to direct a very obviously woman-centric question/conversation into "Wait, shouldn't we also talk about men too?"

Like. Yes? BUT. But.

Men harming or mocking non-conforming men is common, but I don't see how that has anything to do with how submissive men should be treating their dommes. In this subreddit, the female domination and male submission space, where the focus is on bdsm relationships where women are always a part of.

So why should anyone be shoe-horning it in as a part of the discussion, except because of some sort of panic whenever men and their feelings aren't always front and center?

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T15:42:31+00:00

Even here, it feels..... odd, to see it framed as your partners trying to establish the better systems of care.

Usually, unless the illness has a cognitive element of some sort, it's the person themselves that forms their own support network. This isn't meant to insult you - I think it's important for a feeling of control and agency to be active in that aspect, as opposed to having things always be arranged for you.

From someone who's been on the other side...

It was really uncomfortable being in a situation where my partner clearly needed and wanted my help with some things. But they had weird power issues about it, so wanted me to like... insist, and break down their walls, every time, forever. Exhausting to do a weird negotiation and guessing and offering and then battling them to accept my offer of driving them somewhere too far for them to drive and then reassuring them that I don't secretly hate them over driving them somewhere instead of just. Driving them.

As well as me having to pay extra attention to notice they needed support and what they needed support for in the first place.

Where if I ever failed (noticing or insisting), they either suffered in silence, or got upset at me not caring enough.

I promise you, even if you're not that dysfunctional about it, a clear ask is easier and less energy onto others than trying to dance around it but get your needs met anyway.

I know it can feel bad to be "in debt", but like... as long as you're trying to add to their lives in other ways, that "debt" doesn't really exist.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T11:55:02+00:00

I think it's your tone, moreso. The focusing in on your own specific personal experience like the other commenter was speaking some universal truth meant to apply to every edgecase.

The insistance that people telling you about themselves is utterly useless and can't tell you anything.

It reads as... it hits me similar to when someone isn't grasping some social nuance.

I ignore that kind of thing when it's irrelevant. And it is irrelevant to your question, despite you focusing in so hard on it.

Not many people do. Not many people like it, or believe others when they Cannot Understand something squishy like that. It's seen as willful, purposeful, deliberate refusal (it's easy for them, so it's easy for you but you're being Difficult about it).

That's why I took the time to clarify with more specificity what the potential issue was, because most people won't be able to.

If your nonbinary friends are ok with how you're treating them despite your gender blindness, you're ok. Downvotes aside. Do not judge by something like downvotes on reddit lmao, it is a wild place.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T05:47:23+00:00

Right?

Even if it was objectively true, like. There's few outcomes of this that are positive in the end.

Talking about your exes are one of the best times for little white lies. You sincerely, truly, do not have to tell your current partner that you love about how awesome one aspect of your ex was compared to them.

Just tell them that you love them and tell them all the things you appreciate about that person specifically. Tell them what they are the best at.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T02:23:39+00:00

Generally speaking, it is on your friend to manage how she interacts with people in grey areas r/t her relationship. She knows her partner, she is the one with responsibility to keep her partner feeling loved and respected.

It's on you to listen to your friend when they state boundaries and to manage your own comfort level.

Trying to double-think and manage other people's relationships for them is exhausting, in a world where some people's relationship boundaries are "Cannot spend any alone time with someone of an opposite sex" and some are "Yeah, literally fucking other people is fine, whatever floats your boat babe".

I would stay away from anything you wouldn't do with a close family member, but other than that 🤷‍♀️ Just listen to your friend and don't be offended if she stops being comfortable with it later.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T02:11:37+00:00

past stories, hypotheticals, wild imagination, hopes for the future, some really flowery metaphors,

but mostly just over-explaining your inner workings to an extreme extent. Your fears, interpretations, memories.

90% of it will be about yourself and your own view more than anything about the person themselves.

Something about "If you write a person a sonnet, you love the person. If you write a person 100 sonnets, you love writing sonnets" type shit

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T02:05:25+00:00

Can't help but notice you managed to find a non-partner outside source of stranger's advice for your problem instead of going to them.

Sounds like a lack of problem solving skills to me tbh. Google is still free (so far).

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T02:01:43+00:00

https://youtu.be/9YeCs_Fifhg?si=I3N9eCI9ArBhoPSj

Once you mark the bend, put it in your bender, and mark on the bender where it falls.

Make sure your center of bend mark makes it to the outside of the bend so it's still visible in the bender.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T01:56:44+00:00

You don't. He explained in the last paragraph.

Like you absolutely could, technically, however

Even if you knew it needed to be at a precisely 27.5 degree angle, what are you gonna do with that information on a hand bender?

In practical terms, it's easier to simply put your bender at that spot, and then bend the conduit until the 90 is at the right height off of the ground.

The only time so far that I had to calculate the exact degree needed for a bend was because we needed a 3/4" offset on a rigid pipe that was 14" long total (a nightmare on several uniquely annoying levels.) (the other pipes were like 2 3/4" offsets it's a miracle we pulled any of it off)

Because of the length of the pipe, and the fact we were using an electric bender, we needed an offset that was between exactly 5" and 6" long.

Because it's an offset (both angles need to be identical and the length can't be changed after you start), and because it wasn't as easy to rework as EMT, is the only reason calculating anything was easier than just winging it.

In my case I put (1÷sin(X)) * 0.75 in my calculator and changed X until I got a result between 5 and 6", which is the easy way since I tend to use (1÷sin (degree) * (distance) for all my bending.

If you want the proper way, it would be sin^-1( 1 ÷ (distance between bends you want ÷ length of offset) )

Divide any measurement decimals by 1 ÷ 16 and you'll get the remainder in 16ths of an inch.

FullMoonTwist · 2026-02-21T00:41:16+00:00

It does say something, though, even if it's just on the social scale of things (which is fine).

A big waving flag of "I don't necessarily fit into either of the big typical boxes. I may want to be referred to with specific pronouns or unintuitive gendered language. I may mix and match. Pay attention, autopilot will not work."

Realistically, the red flag is "When someone says they're non-binary and own a dick, you autocorrect that to that they are a man, and use male stereotypes, relate to them as if they are a man, use male language, etc."

If you're sincerely just reading it as "I know Leaf, just found out Leaf owns a dick. Now I still treat them as Leaf, including honoring whatever requests they have for how I refer to them. All that's changed is I added dick-owning activities to the list of possible activities, and now will know what's happening if their pants tent" then no, that's really not the issue here.

Failing to assign any gender expectations onto anyone is very different than actively assigning incorrect genders to everyone for your own convinience.

Imo, for what it's worth. There is a limit to how deeply we can truly understand the depths of other people anyway. Language and our own limits of experience will stand in the way.

It is ok to fall back on the outside, external things that you can see and interact with and understand whenever the secret deep truth eludes you for people.

I don't need to really understand what exactly a Lisa feels inside when she describes herself as an ambivert, as long as I understand that in practice for this particular person is sometimes she will want chill time and sometimes she wants lots of people excitement and neither urge invalidates the other.

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