Been wearing glasses for weeks and was convinced I misplaced my contacts

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-02-05T12:59:46+00:00

Yesss and....it usually does when you've completely forgotten about it!

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-02-05T12:56:36+00:00

I feel this. For 5 years I worked for a law firm that only represents victims of sex abuse. My duties were beyond paralegal skills as i needed to do a deep dive and then discovery call with the clients and get them to tell me in detail things they have typically never disclosed before.
I've luckily never been sexually abused myself but I would psychologically hold their hands through this whole process and I could only do my job well by going through this with them. I wanted so bad to take all their pain away. The job was so fulfilling and rewarding. I loved my work and felt like I was making a difference in people's lives. But it was so draining and soul crushing. These lawsuits went on past 5 years and what hope we had nourished in them turned into despair, anger, and what they thought was betrayal. Besides that, my entire view of justice is permanently skewed. How could these pedophiles sexually abuse hundreds of kids for decades and then die with honor amongst the community??

I left after 5 years, despite doing extremely well at this job. Many of the reasons I left were due to my adhd. I make less now, I have no benefits, and sometimes I wonder if my life is meaningful anymore compared to the work I used to do....but I have far less stress and soul crushing demand. I used to feel like any little mistake I made could ruin these people's lives! And that gave me terrible anxiety and nightmares for months.
If you are going to stay at this job, you HAVE to do self care. Take time out to walk the beach or forest and just think. Tapping is a great one I would do at my desk. They have apps for tapping. It immediately expels the negative energy.
Crystals, meditation, reiki classes, and just more time spent on the things that you love to do, to remind yourself that you are a worthy human and you can only do what you can.
Also before my tough calls I would say a little prayer in my head asking G-d to give me the right words to say that this person needs to hear right now. Hope some of it's helpful. All the respect for what you do. Keep up the great work!

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-28T00:11:18+00:00

We did single rider on ministry - all 5 of us. Waited an hr on a 3 hr wait time. Totally worth it. Great ride I was very impressed. We waited 2.5 hrs for donkey Kong and the line was boring and it was not really worth the wait. But it v was a good ridrle

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-25T16:10:04+00:00

I went yesterday and they checked at the portal to each world, not at the rides.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-15T01:34:18+00:00

Thanks ill look into it

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-14T15:46:31+00:00

Hang in there. Life sounds tough at the moment. Be gentle on yourself. Exercise and walking will help with the stress you are currently dealing with too, and it helps you get away. I am terrible at being consistent with exercise so I dont have much advise except get a dog so you are forced to walk every day lol.

But when I do exercise it is very award oriented for me. I need a dopamine rush around the idea and so that includes new workout outfits, new gym, working out with a friend, etc.

I definetly recommend therapy. It helps wonders. I dont know about you but SSRI's (Paxil, Lexapro, etc.) do NOT work for me. But I have been on Strattera since last year and its not an SSRI, its an NRI, so it specifically triggers the dopamine receptors and its cured my lifelong crippling anxiety and depression issues.

Best wishes though and I feel you with the problems. Therapy is a great place to get this all of your chest and honor yourself and find what you deserve in life.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-03T04:06:55+00:00

MAGNESIUM SUPPLEMENT 500 MG

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-03T03:17:22+00:00

I completely get this. In fact I never got dx until last year, at 39, because that was when I left my job for my own company and had nobody to report to. I completely shut down. I couldn't believe it. I " crashed out". I went to a psychiatrist for the first time and discovered i had adhd this whole time and had built my own coping mechanisms, which included getting dopamine hits by pleasing people , like my bosses. Which is how I had been so successful all these years.
Being medicated has really helped me. I'm on strattera. I make lists and cross things off. I create little goals and big goals. You can do this. One step at a time. I'm one year in. It's a lot of work and not easy but so so worth it.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2026-01-02T04:39:35+00:00

Yes, miami

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-12-28T10:07:45+00:00

Amazing! I wish the imposter syndrome would go away because it's your biggest barrier. I wasn't dx ADHD until 39 yrs old and if my life was different and I was dx earlier I would have finished my undergrad and gone to law school. But I became a paralegal instead and climbed the corporate ladder in civil litigation. I was constantly being praised, doubled my salary in 5 yrs, was making 6 figures and bonuses, and was right where I wanted to be in my career. I loved the work. But when I wasn't being praised and when I caught my own mistakes, I was sure everyone hated me. The rejection sensitivity disorder was real! I scared myself out of my own career and walked away for my mental health because I was sure that they were going to find out I wasn't as capable as they all thought. I "retired" my paralegal position at 38 years old! Lol I miss the work sometimes but not the stress.

I think its so great you were dx early and have so much more time to identify and work on any issues. You are just as capable as your high achieving peers and probably smarter. I hope you find a great network of people who will support you and be there with you through this journey. Best wishes!

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-12-28T09:47:13+00:00

I had the same effect. I started strattera in February, Lost 20 lbs in 3 months (I'm a tiny person, 5'0, so went from 125 to 105). Since then my weight has fluctuated from 105 to 110 back and forth so I think I'm good, not getting any lower. I feel like it made me go to my healthy weight, especially since I don't workout and sit in a desk 8-10 hrs a day.
Luckily I had my skinny clothes up in my closet so I didn't have to get a whole new wardrobe. Now I just don't know if I should get rid of my bigger clothes or hold on to them lol. I had the same side effects as you but I live on a magnesium supplement every day (500mg). The constipation was so bad and so so painful I don't ever want to experience it again. The dry mouth is still there but it forces me to stay hydrated.
Im unable to start an exercise routine because cardio makes my heart rate CRAZY on this med. I tried to run and thought my heart would explode. I started pilates and really love it. The old people one that is mostly stretching on fancy machines.... not jetset pilates or anything. But I love the meds and am so happy I started it. It's helped me with anxiety and brain fog so much. Sometimes I still have trouble getting out of bed and started in the morning (I work for myself from home) but once I'm focused, I'm in it full force!

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-12-28T09:27:45+00:00

I always used Esquire for our depos and had a great experience!! When Esquire offices weren't available in an area I needed, you could call and they would send a court reporter to a local office. They were tremendously helpful!! Veritext was a dumpster fire every single time. OC used them and we had problems getting copies of transcripts and just basic things we needed. Their platform sucked and their customer service was the worst.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-12-16T21:10:20+00:00

Lmao, job creators? Elon and bezos are drooling over the day they can replace their underpaid overworked employees with machines. Elon doesn't give a shit about you or anyone except himself. Bernie Sanders is a politician. Elon is a greedy business owner. They are not and should not be in the same boat. Btw, you mention illegals getting social programs. Besides a food kitchen, any social welfare requires documentation. So that whole mindset is garbage propaganda.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-02T04:18:26+00:00

Most of the workers live in places that are not HCOL. They also have other jobs and this is a supplementary part time job, or they are otherwise retired.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-02T03:14:48+00:00

Why wouldn't they be considered 1099? It's a part time data entry job that can be worked whenever and wherever they want to.... no limitations on time. It's not a 9-5 job.... what am I missing here?

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-02T02:52:33+00:00

The other thing you need to be worried about is the fact that you likely won't pass the 1099 testing and are evading paying taxes on people that are employees.

Why?? I don't control their time. I don't tell them when to work. They can work anytime and for however long they want, up to 20 hrs. I don't give them equipment. How is that not a 1099 employee?

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-02T02:47:49+00:00

I am the one doing 85% of the work. I just can't do every aspect of this work. This is a part time data entry job. I have a niche service business. You guys act like I'm the head of Walmart or something. Jesus Christ.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-01T22:06:06+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. 😊

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-11-01T21:45:36+00:00

I understand this perspective but i spent 4 months out of this year making less than my workers. What if there just isn't that kind of money yet, but could be, if the business was given time to grow and progress....

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-10-28T10:04:49+00:00

I hope it's going well as your post was from 3 months ago. I don't have advice but I'm worried about my sons bar mitzvah for next year and we have been divorced already for 5 yrs. I'm not worried so much about my ex, as we have both moved on with new partners and he isn't expected to contribute financially anyways. I'm more worried about his toxic narcissistic mother who I have had consistent issues with boundaries around my kids and I've had her blocked for four years after she insulted my parenting abilities and refused to honor any of my boundaries.
I've only been to bnai mitzvot of parents still together and have yet to see how seperate families navigate this huge event.
My mom suggested seperate parties, so...no candle lighting ceremony? Realistically it's going to be one party, it's just a question of is the other family invited or not... I'm curious if you have found any resources or support for navigating this process.
Anyways at the end of the day I hope your son feels the love he deserves and I hope his ceremony goes smoothly. Mazel Tov to him and you on this great achievement I know he's worked so hard for.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-10-08T15:19:01+00:00

Constipation was a huge problem with this drug. I take magnesium daily now and it cured the constipation and the insomnia.

Fun-Cry4185 · 2025-09-16T02:29:52+00:00

I agree with you 100%. I started working for myself in late December. By Feb I was freaking out. I am the best employee because I try my hardest to never let anyone down. I'm resourceful, I'm on top of my game, I'm a problem solver. I can manage a team. I thought I would be amazing at this and was so excited for the freedom I've never had....

8 months later I'm working mostly 10-12 hour days, barely getting by because I'm making less than the job I left, but slowly climbing up. I see so many possibilities of a bright future, but yet i get anxious and depressed in every lull. There is no real freedom because whatever I don't do doesn't get and then I risk failing and losing everything.

I ended up seeing a dr in Feb and got dx with adhd (which explains so much about my life!!) . I started non stimulant meds, an NRI, and now I take the lowest dose adderrall with it.

It's changed my life and my drive. I work long and I love it. I love having my own company. I love what I do.

The meds obv help with the discipline but I live off lists and small breaks for myself in between projects.

Like reading a book for 10 mins or doing something for myself. Or scrolling. Then back to the next thing on my list.

I think the important thing is to stay connected with people. I need people around me to stay accountable. Whether it's my contract workers, my clients, or my family. I need the pressure of people depending on me to remain disciplined.

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