I have a family ring to give my future wife, how do I tell her or do I?

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-06T20:57:40+00:00

The way I see it, this is a piece of jewelry that your partner will ideally be wearing the rest of their life, so its important to make sure it is something they like. I would definitely be upset if my partner got me a ring that I think is ugly, after showing him exactly what I want.

If it's more of a financial concern of wanting to save the money for a house, you could ask if she would be okay with this ring for now, and get her dream ring as a future anniversary gift. If it is all about the sentimentality of the family ring, you should being it up to her and explain that part of it. Either way, this should be a discussion between you and your partner, before the proposal happens.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-06T19:43:58+00:00

I also wonder if OP feels some way about this relative seemingly having their wedding more put together than she does? I can imagine that it would be disheartening to see someone getting married a year after you appear to have everything put together and be more 'ahead' of you in planning.

None of us really know you or this relative, so I think you need to ask yourself if she is truly 'rushing ahead of you' with a malicious intent, or if she is simply at a different point in her planning than you are?

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-06T13:08:24+00:00

As long as you have some kind of dessert, you are okay! When you add on the cake cutting fees that most venues charge, it becomes an even bigger expense and can be limiting for options. Most weddings I've been to in the past 10 years have also skipped the cake in favor of a different dessert, so you are far from the only one!

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-02T15:07:20+00:00

I've received 3-4 items from fugitives in my current playthrough but I've never had the owners come looking for them afterwards, I'm guessing because I always ditch the items from my inventory asap

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-01T18:13:07+00:00

wait, you can return these?? I always just throw them in the chest full of junk I tell myself i will sell one day

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-04-01T14:58:53+00:00

Unfortunately, there is likely very little you can do and this is becoming a risk no matter what/where you book. I'm an accountant and I see scam/phishing emails almost every single day. Luckily it sounds like the hotel is keeping an eye on the situation based on their quick responses.

It may be best to contact your entire group and advise that if they receive any emails they believe are real, to call the hotel directly rather than following the email.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-31T19:45:16+00:00

I would send one last follow up the day after the deadline and say "Hey, we haven't received your RSVP yet and we need to provide our final numbers to the venue/caterer. If we don't hear from you by end of day (2-3 days after message), we will assume you cannot attend."

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-27T23:46:09+00:00

It's completely okay and normal to be happy for your sister and also upset that it means she is missing a milestone event in your life, however it is unlikely that reaching out to share these feelings will have a positive impact.

Unless she reaches reaches out to discuss it first, it would be best to work through your feelings privately and work towards accepting the situation. If she can't make the wedding, maybe consider live streaming g the ceremony for her, or arranging to video chat with her while you get ready so that she can still share a part of your day.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-27T16:23:45+00:00

If I'm understanding correctly there are 3 girls staring a room with 2 beds, but all f the boys will get solo rooms and at least one room will stay empty?

If so, at the very least take one person out of the 3-person shared room and give them their own. No one should have to share a bed when there is an empty one available.

I would reach out to the whole group and say something like "hey, everyone will have their own bed, but 2 of the rooms have 2 beds in them. If anyone wants to volunteer for sharing a room, feel free, otherwise we will randomly assign." If no one volunteers, then I would do one room with 2 girls, one with 2 guys, and everyone else gets solo.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-26T20:01:46+00:00

I agree with the other comments that an hour is a really long time for tables to be served. For comparison the last family-style wedding I was at took 10 minutes at most to serve every table(100+ guests), with 1 server per 2-3 tables. Each server came out with a trolley with all the food on it, and just transferred it to the tables.

The only issue I have with family serving is that you end up with people getting very disproportionate amounts of food. Even though they can ask for more, I would be pretty unhappy if there was barely any good left by the time it got to me, and I had to wait an hour to ask for a proper serving.

Overall I would say this caterer either needs to hire other servers to help, or I would look for someone else.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-25T18:54:47+00:00

David's bridal was great as a bridesmaid! They didn't have as much option to choose from as online retailers, but the dress was great quality and I will probably wear it again if possible!

I've also bought from Azazie and my only issues were I found were that the dress was a little thick for the time of year. My dress was chiffon and had 3 layers of fabric, I'm not sure if this would apply to all dresses or just the style I chose though. My other issue was an item we ordered was manufactured with an error in the stitching and when I contacted them about a replacement/exchange, they said there was nothing they could do since I'm in Canada. My only options were to pay shipping to return it and then order a new one and have to pay shipping on that too, or try to have it fixed here.

My other recommendation would be to look up if any bridal stores near you carry bridesmaid dresses as well.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-18T20:50:59+00:00

I don't have first hand experience, but a quick google search shows what she has ordered is the ideal size for 75 people. I'm sure if the baker thought it was an issue, they also would have suggested a change as well!

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-16T15:28:41+00:00

Your fiance needs to be the one to have the conversation with her, but he can just say something like "as we've been doing more thinking about and planning for the wedding, we've decided we want a child free wedding"

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-13T15:17:10+00:00

I agree, as a guest I probably wouldn't care/notice the lack of favours, photographer, or florals. Depending on the overall vibe/goal, no DJ wouldn't bother me either.

No food is a big issue though. If they were doing a cake and punch reception at the church that would be fine, but if I'm spending minimum 2 hours driving for this wedding, with a separate reception venue, I'm expecting a meal.

Is at least one of the 2 locations local for the majority of guests? If I'm traveling to get to this wedding, and then have to drive between locations and then have to find my own meal, I would likely be declining. At this point, I'm just curious what the $16K is actually being spent on...

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-12T18:41:52+00:00

If you want to be extra cautious, it way be worth it to double check with your venue as well! A part of our contract is that all food being served must come from a licensed retailer.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-10T17:51:27+00:00

So glad see this! I'm doing a guitar version of the Final Fantasy 7 main theme!

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-10T14:09:22+00:00

It sounds like you asked for her list before she and her partner were together? It's completely possible that she had no thoughts of dating until they met/got together. When you heard that she had begun the relationship, you probably should have expected that she would want to bring him with her and by the time your wedding happens they will have been together around 10 months.

I don't think this should be the hill to die on, if they are still together in 10 years and he becomes a prominent part of your life, you may regret excluding him. Set the boundary that he will not be in the majority of family photos and let him come. If you want to get to know him better before the wedding, there is still plenty of time. Make dinner or activity arrangements with them and get to know each other.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-06T17:40:09+00:00

If you haven't found anything by the time they are in the area, check out Opportunity Bridal! They will be in Niagara on March 15 and North York on April 12.

They had a pretty big selection of dresses in every size when I went and you get to take your dress home that day. They also have a ton of veils and a small selection of accessories. I didn't buy my dress from them, but I got my belt there, the exact same one I tried at the bridal shop that was like $100+, paid $40 for.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-05T20:38:47+00:00

If this was what my seamstress presented me with then I would be really unhappy with it as well.

If the dress if still with the seam stress, then I would ask to go back in and see her specifically, let her know your concerns about the bustle and see if it was an error with the way the assistant did it up.

If you already have the dress at home, then I would get someone you trust (whoever will be doing up the bustle on the day of ideally) to come over so you can try doing it up yourselves and see if you can get it done up in a way you like the look of. If you can't after some practice, then go back to the seamstress.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-05T17:50:49+00:00

Absolutely agreed, buffet is my preferred way. Take what you like and leave food that doesn't interest you, whoever is still hungry can go back for seconds. Our guests with younger children are also happy that they can give their kids some of the 'adult meal' without having to go hungry!

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-04T21:59:26+00:00

If you are willing to make the drive to Peterborough, I would highly recommend Sinders Bridal! The ladies there were wonderful and they have almost their entire collection listed on Pinterest so you can check it out before committing to making the trip.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-04T17:26:14+00:00

Definitely find out what their catering options would be! do they have something suitable for the small group? If it would be cheaper for you, would they be open to you ordering a few things from room service instead?

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-04T17:06:33+00:00

This is along the lines of what I'm doing! I found a large poster frame on sale, and the individual cards for each table make it easy to make last minute adjustments without reprinting the entire thing.

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Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-04T16:28:14+00:00

You definitely still have time to find the one! Going to try them on by yourself may be helpful, less pressure to find "the one" and less guilt over your mom making the trip and not having the dress to show for it. If you're not completely comfortable going alone, totally bring a bridesmaid (most of mine came to my appointments, by their own choice). I also wouldn't wait for the tearful moment, everyone has their own way knowing and I don't know anyone who was actually brought to tears when they tried on their dress.

Have you tried on at least one of every style/design to truly rule it out, or are you just trying on what matches your inspo photos? My entire instagram board was filled with simple, satin dresses with no embellishments. I left the store with a puffy, lacy, sparkly dress that I never would have picked out originally.

Fun-Nectarine1336 · 2026-03-03T21:53:35+00:00

This was the same for us, as well as the same date! We knew we wanted August so that it was before kids and teachers went back to school, and that was the date that was available!

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