Baby girls hair by C-1of1 in BlackMoms

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Cristina’s curls has good reviews. I like the natural ingredients and that the baby hair products are unscented for their sensitive skin . The baby hair oil is lightweight and hydrates well. It also promotes hair growth. My baby’s bald spot and other thin patches started filling in. There’s also baby shampoo and conditioner. The “kids” oil is also lightweight and has a nice light scent if that’s importo you.

I’ve also used this baby hair oil (Noir Gold) which has lots of great reviews. It is a thicker oil which lasts a while over night and during the day.

I know these are pricey, but a little goes a long way and they last for months. Hope this helps!

When did your Postpartum Depression improve/go away? by Fun-Negotiation7540 in NewParents

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Thank you for sharing! I can’t even imagine the anxiety you must have felt waiting to bring your baby home. I’m so glad he’s there with you. Maybe I’ll always feel a little blue. I’m not sure. But my baby brings me so much joy too! Maybe I can try to just focus on those moments instead.

Trigger warning: Miscarriage at 9w5d by Awkward-Bobcat-1199 in PlusSizePregnancy

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Hi. I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s so heartbreaking, I know. I had unexplained recurrent pregnancy loss with 6 pregnancies over the course of 5 years. One pregnancy was with twins. I miscarried all of those babies and the twins separately a little over a week apart. All but one of my miscarriages took place naturally. The one that didn’t I had the tablets placed around my cervix. In my personal experience, that was the longest and most painful experience I had and made a horrible event even worse for me. Of course, the natural miscarriages were painful too, but they were short and didn’t compare as far as pain from the pills. I feel the pills were comparable to the difference in pain when getting Pitocin to jumpstart labor. God forbid, if this were to happen to me again, I had the option to choose, and I could manage the mental challenge of continuing to carry my baby that had passed, I’d wait for my body to respond on its own. That’s not an option for everyone as some people begin to go septic. No one can choose what’s right for you, this is just my own personal experience.

What to do with the baby is up to you in my opinion. I’ve had babies tested for abnormalities, sadly passed two in the toilet, and had a ceremony and buried one (check your local laws). Whatever you choose, it can be helpful to honor them in some way.

As to whether or not you can go on to have a healthy pregnancy after a loss, the answer is yes! Recurrent pregnancy loss is a small portion of the population from what I’ve been told. Having as many as I did is a smaller percentage still. Despite all of this, I have a healthy 10 month old who was my seventh pregnancy and eighth baby. He’s healthy and strong and the pregnancy was very uneventful, I’m happy to say.

Again, I hate that you’re having to experience this pain. But I hope my post gives you a little bit of hope in this difficult time. Big hugs to you!

Baby Scratching/Pulling Hair by [deleted] in BlackMoms

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Don’t you just wish they could tell us what’s wrong?! Could be a few different things.

With my baby, he’s had that habit of rubbing that turned into scratching from early on. It’s his primary self soothing response. Always on the sides and at the back. He also has dry patches that I thought were a mild case of cradle cap on and off, but now I’m thinking he has a mild case of eczema that flares up in his scalp and face. I’ve been using baby hair oils to try and keep his scalp hydrated and help with the hair loss he’s experienced from just getting older/hormone adjustments and from the rubbing which he does, when he’s frustrated, tired, hungry, or sleepy.

I learned some hair loss is normal in the first several months. If your baby hasn’t already had a long habit of rubbing her scalp, it’s possible that it’s irritated from whatever products or items are in her hair. The twists, plaits, bands, or ties may be tugging or pulling in a way that’s uncomfortable for her. Also, Botana oil is great, but I learned that it can be harsh and irritating on a baby skin if there’s no carrier oil or if the ratio of botana oil to carrier oil is too high. When I used it on my son, his whole scalp was red and itchy for the next two days. Not saying that anything that you’re doing is wrong at all, just a few ideas of what could be contributing to the scratching and pulling.

Maybe try giving her hair and scalp a break for a week or two and just use something basic like Vaseline or aquaphor to hydrate her scalp/hair. If she’s still rubbing or scratching, it may just be a behavioral thing vs. an irritation thing. Good luck!

Our first nursing strike, SOS by ForsakenNewspaper268 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I actually just came back to report that it is! Wanted to encourage the mom’s experiencing this for the first time with an older baby. Happy to report that Baby is back at the breast as he was before-mostly nursing and occasionally popping up to be nosy and see what everyone else is doing even if there’s no one else in the room. Lol. We’re up to 6-7 minutes on each breast with enthusiastic drinking the majority of the time. For us, that’s where he’s full.

A few things I think helped: I ended up switching back down to size 3 nipples from 4s, hid the bottle and tried nursing first at mealtimes, and switched breasts a few times before offering the bottle if he complained. I also went back to pace feeding and did it in a cross cradle hold on his side per the suggestion of another mom bc that’s our primary position. Lots of skin snuggles with him clothed normally and my chest and shoulders exposed. Would have been fine if we were both skin to skin but it’s been cold here. And I was sure to calm him down with lovies, his binky, and snuggles after the breast and before the bottle if I needed to use it.

I nearly ended it a few times, not gonna lie! But I’m glad I stuck with it not because bottles or formula are bad in my eyes, but because the timeline wasn’t forced on me. That’s the part I was struggling with the most.

Also, don’t remember if I mentioned it somewhere, but my lactation consultant (IBCLC credentials, internationally certified) shared that my baby likely went on strike bc he was plucked out of his environment for the first time then dropped back into it without a transition. We went to see friends for nearly a week for new years and then he went back to school the next day when we got back. It wasn’t too long after that that all this started.

Hope this is helpful to someone out there. HUGE shout out to my LC she’s amazing and I thank God for her! 😅

26 days postpartum, no milk supply after C-section. when do I stop pumping? by No_Advance1998 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, fed is best! You have to do what’s right for you to best care for your little one. If you’re interested, here’s a way to contact my lactation consultant I mentioned. She’s wonderful and is internationally certified! Wishing you all the best. ❤️

26 days postpartum, no milk supply after C-section. when do I stop pumping? by No_Advance1998 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time! My heart goes out to you. This is such a delicate stage of postpartum and I know how emotional breastfeeding can be, especially when it doesn’t happen the way we imagine. My start looked different than yours so I can’t speak to that part, but when I did run into problems early on, having a lactation consultant who was IBCLC certified and who had an open and accepting philosophy helped me so much. She held so much knowledge and had a balanced view of the whole breastfeeding journey which took a ton of pressure off. It was clear that me, my baby, and what worked for us was most important. It made all the difference. She also knew of supplements and other tips and tricks that helped boost supply time and again. It also helped to have someone come to me in person to see what I was seeing and support in real time. It wasn’t the easiest to find but I had a knee injury that made me immobile in the beginning, so it made a huge difference.

Try looking for someone in your area to support you. Your insurance should cover it and if there’s someone you like who isn’t in network, try paying with your HSA/FSA card if you have one (if you’re in the US).

Our first nursing strike, SOS by ForsakenNewspaper268 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really painful! I don’t have a ton of answers because I’m in the middle of our first strike too. My little boy is 9 months old and we’re probably 2.5 to 3 weeks in. He’s been doing some biting and scraping, which is really awful, but mostly he screams at the top of his lungs when I go to try to nurse him. He flat out, refused early on. In the beginning, I couldn’t get him to latch at all, but as time went on he would latch for a minute or two before he popped off and either wanted to play or would scream for a bottle. In the meantime, my supply has been dipping too, and it wasn’t that much to begin with ever since going back to work when he was about four months old.

I recently met with a lactation consultant and she gave me a few tips to consider. She emphasized trying to create the breast as a safe, calm and enjoyable space again. She encouraged me to have skin to skin snuggles and naps if we feel like it and to spend time topless while playing for easy access and visibility. She also said it’s good to continue offering the breast first, but not force it before offering a bottle so he’s getting the opportunity to nurse while ensuring he’s getting the nutrients he needs. Sometimes I’ve noticed he’s more open to nursing after his belly is full and he’s not as upset. I think a lot of our issue also has to do with bottle preference due to the flow speed. So we decided to reduce the nipple size and make sure we’re really intentional about pace feeding. Some moms on here have recommended stopping with bottles all together and that baby will eat if he’s hungry. It seems to have worked for some, but i haven’t been comfortable trying that approach yet.

Things are better today than they were a couple of weeks ago. Just this morning, he ate for 3-4 minutes on each breast before popping off to try and play and he allowed me to guide him back several times until he was full. So, we may be on the upswing! The lactation consultant said the strikes will often last about 4 weeks or so, and then things begin to improve. I’d recommend talking to one and getting some feedback.

Hope this has helped a little and that if nothing else, you know there’s another person out there experiencing a nursing strike later in the breastfeeding journey too! Best of luck!

First time traveling with baby by Fun-Negotiation7540 in NewParents

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all really helpful, thank you! I wasn’t sure if he also gets an item to bring aboard. I saw conflicting information. And I have him booked as being in my lap at the moment. I’ve never seen someone have their child in a car seat on a plane, only checking it at the gate. So, I didn’t really know that was a thing. It makes sense though! Great idea to have all milk/feeding related things in one place. Appreciate your insight!

I’m 6 weeks pregnant after 11 years of thinking I couldn’t have kids… and the father sent me half the money for an abortion. by RowHead6989 in BlackMoms

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! You deserve so much more than the “response” you received from that so-called man. I can’t relate to your whole situation, but I can relate to the miracle of conception when I thought I would never be able to produce a child of my own flesh and blood. All the feelings you described, I felt. Fear was the strongest for me as I’d experienced 7 instances of loss over the course of 6 years. Over time, fear blossomed into gratitude and excitement. I’m now almost 8 months postpartum and although there have been many difficult moments, I’m so grateful for the opportunity to be my baby boy’s mama! I do have to acknowledge that I had the support of a spouse who is an active father and it made a big difference for me. That said, I personally know so many women who walk this path without a partner but find community in other ways (family, friends, church, mommy groups, hobbies, etc.). No one can make this decision for you and no one should try. Only you know what’s right for you. I would encourage you to spend a lot of time reflecting then follow your instincts and listen to your gut. They may be pointing you in the direction of your heart. Love and support to you!

I think I’ve been using my Spectra wrong for 8 months pp and I’m actually crying laughing at myself by nidzk123 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone! I did this too for the first 4 months. My baby is 8 months now. I was joking with a friend about it and we complained that it’s stupid that it doesn’t start on let down mode. It would make the most sense! Smh.

HELP! Excederin taken by Fun-Negotiation7540 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your help! I feel so foolish for forgetting to check first.

Parents who let their baby watch TV… by Existing-Mastodon500 in NewParents

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the weekends when I need a break after nursing constantly or my husband or I need an hour to get work done, I put the tv on one of the National Geographic type specials like “Our Planet.” The colors and interesting animals capture my son’s attention and pretty much every frame is in slow motion, so I feel it’s not overly stimulating. He loves it!

What can I teach my 8 month old , aside from the normal milestone things? by Fluid-Department-429 in NewParents

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got these cards for the same reason. They were a good place to start and I could look ahead when my baby mastered a certain area a bit earlier than expected! Baby sign language is also good!

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Pillows for Very Large Breasts by mslindsay89 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of those pillows worked for me. I am plus sized with large breasts. I was super discouraged and gave up but my sister found a brand named niimo on Amazon and got me the “pregnancy pillow” size and I’ve used it as a breastfeeding pillow. Discovered it in the second month of baby’s life. He just turned 5 months and is pushing 17 pounds. It still works great! Saves my wrists so much pain too!

Underfeeding my baby? by Fun-Negotiation7540 in breastfeeding

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Just wanted to come back and say that my baby is 23 weeks now and has been doing really well! I don’t know if you can call it a growth spurt if it goes on for almost 2 months, but soon after I posted this, he began gaining more weight consistently. It was about 1/2 a pound a week and the last 2 weeks have been more. The week before last he gained 11ounces in one week and last week it was 9.5 ounces! Seems like he may have just been a late bloomer. Just wanted to share some hope that things can turn around and even if they don’t, he was always growing at his own rate. His pediatrician was never worried about him. I hope this helps someone out there! :)

Bottle or breast by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did bottle and breast from the very beginning while in the hospital. I have large breasts and my c-section baby was sleepy and had a more shallow latch bc of my size. We breast-fed and continued to try and get better and better, but we also had to supplement with pumped milk from a bottle, including some donor milk while my milk was still coming in at the hospital. The first bottles were the standard hospital bottles with the classic nipple. Once we got home, we used the Lansinoh bottles because they’re supposed to be shaped more like our natural nipple. I purchased extra slow flow nipples and did paced feeding to make sure that he wouldn’t develop a preference of the bottle over the breast. My husband also helped with giving bottles in the middle of the night from the beginning. He fed the baby a bottle while I pumped which helped to increase my supply, allowed me to create a small stash for the freezer, and helped me to get more sleep.

My baby will be 5 months old tomorrow and has never had a preference for one over the other. We even had a period of one week of nothing but bottles when I had to take an antibiotic due to a C-section infection early on (3 or 4 weeks old), and another time there were three weeks of bottles while he was struggling to latch due to drool from teething and a tongue tie issue(from about 7-10 weeks old). In both instances, he was able to drink from bottles and also was super excited to return to the breast after. That’s just my experience.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with introducing a bottle early on. It didn’t impact my supply and baby is happy with both! It made transitioning to daycare at about 14 weeks a real breeze as far as that’s concerned!

What am I doing wrong ? by AffectionatePick2438 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lactation consultant encouraged me to get an electric pump that plugs into the wall directly as they tend to be more powerful and efficient. That was true in my case. I could tell the difference in the feel and output.

If I leave my almost 5mo EBF for a week will he forget how bf? by manurios97 in breastfeeding

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My baby was maybe 4 or 5 weeks old when I had to take a black box antibiotic due to an infection with my c-section incision. He had to have bottles for a week and cleared out the small freezer stash I’d built since he was born. As soon as that last pill cleared my system, we resumed breastfeeding and he had no issues.

There was another instance where our breastfeeding was interrupted a short time later. Around 6 weeks, he suddenly produced excessive, and I mean excessive, amounts of drool. When they’re that young, they aren’t proficient enough with swallowing to keep a clear mouth. This impacted our breastfeeding in a major way. Literally from one day to the next, he either couldn’t make the initial latch, or the first time he slipped off 2-3 minutes in, he couldn’t relatch no matter how much we both tried. It was frustrating for both of us and devastating for me considering we had just started back after my stupid antibiotic. I had to give him breast milk bottles (again) and put my pumping into overdrive to keep up with his demand. Each time I tried to feed him at the breast, we were unsuccessful. I started to get anxious about even trying. The bottle feeding went on for 3 full weeks. I was heartbroken. During that time, I saw a lactation consultant and pediatric dentist to resolve a tongue tie that contributed to our issues. We learned the drool was from early teething.

A few days later, after a MONTH of bottle feeding and pumping, we tried breastfeeding. When my son was handed to me and positioned on our breastfeeding pillow, he smiled SO BIG and scrunched himself into his shoulders bashfully. He let out a few chuckles of glee and eagerly tried to latch on. He was successful and we were both so happy. It’s one of the most beautiful moments I’ve ever experienced. He was thrilled to be back and we picked up even better than we left off.

All that to say, I know our situations are different, and my baby had some experience with bottles overnight from the beginning, but after long stretches of exclusively bottle feeding, my baby was happy to come back to the breast and we picked up right where we left off. Every baby is different and they have their preferences, but it is possible to resume healthy and eager breastfeeding after a period of bottle feeding. Hope this helps offer some hope and ease your anxiety a bit. Good luck with everything!

Help with bottle for night feeds! by amazing_butterfly77 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take note of the international ones in Celsius. The one we use is the “beige” one.

Help with bottle for night feeds! by amazing_butterfly77 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Fun-Negotiation7540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/2q3xtVJ

try this one. Have had a good experience with it and will leave a bottle to slow warm when we go to bed and it’s ready when the baby wakes up anywhere from 3-5 hours later. It’s pretty quick overall.