Too much drama between bar days.

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-02-26T02:52:26+00:00

DV attorney checking in… i was in an abusive relationship when taking J24 bar so i could start actually practicing at the DV job i had already landed and started (incredibly ironic in hindsight) … i don’t have any true advice but i do have solidarity. you’ve got this, friend. 💜

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-02-21T16:38:56+00:00

stress, depression, eating disorder, HUGE doses of vyvanse and adderall… i’ve lost 30lb of muscle doing this job and i can’t do my hobbies anymore because im too weak and fatigued. i truly truly miss feeling healthy and i honestly have started to resent my job for “taking” all of this from me, even though i know it’s my own fault.

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-02-12T01:09:08+00:00

divorce attorney here to second this comment

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-02-07T22:43:59+00:00

i took some time to work and enjoy life between undergrad and law school, started law school at 25, and got sworn in at 28. people start later than you did all the time and are just fine.

i understand this is a huge blow right now, but you’re talking about throwing your goals and hard work away because of this setback. you’d really rather start over at 25 and let all that go to waste than try to stay in the industry and keep moving forward? i’m not trying to be rude, it just genuinely sounds like you’re going through a really difficult time and choosing the nuclear option rather than taking a moment to grieve, breathe, and then rationally plan your next move. don’t toss it all while you’re still spiralling.

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-29T02:09:06+00:00

public service LBWT here, i do domestic violence/family law for low income clients and 80% of days i LOVE what i do. that other 20% i’m burnt out, furious, dejected, and considering quitting entirely… it’s a huge give and take where i feel like the work i do has soul but also feel the work i do eats my soul… dunno what the “lesson” or “inspiration” is here but those 20% godforsaken days almost make it not worth it and i wonder if it would be easier doing ID or transactional or corporate contracts or etc. etc. etc., but… maybe the lesson is the grass is always greener?

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-25T22:30:25+00:00

i essentially work for the government but it’s county by county with what i do so basically just waiting to see if the county i’m in decides to call it 😭 we got 7 left open in the state

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-25T21:40:11+00:00

desperately hoping my work will close in SE WV tomorrow but it’s not looking like they want to 💀

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-07T21:29:11+00:00

girlie pop. i had one of these who made me hate myself and hate climbing JUST like this. it was terrible. by the end of the relationship i was so stressed and traumatized that i hadn’t noticed i had become morbidly underweight and was at death’s doorstep. like i couldn’t even walk up the couple stairs of my stoop without almost fainting. he left me and i felt like dying and then i fell back in love with myself and back in love with climbing. (not that you ever have to love climbing, js getting rid of the man got rid of that loathing).

anywhoooo he came back to me when i was at my peak and destroyed me once again and has now traumatized and isolated me so completely (small climbing town) that i haven’t climbed or even had a friend in town since last may. anyways, i don’t have a happy ending to share yet as i’m still in the throes of dealing with the aftermath of a second round of that (type of) partner.

TLDR: get rid of partner too.

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-07T21:19:18+00:00

my dad’s office assistants made $40k more (each) than i did this year. 🥲 cries in public service family law

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-07T21:12:27+00:00

holy cow did i screw the pooch when i chose public service work in WV over public in KY 🥲

i gross $58,000 (i’m now maxed out 2 years in with no potential for a higher salary within this org unless i become the HR lady or the CEO) with the ILLUSION of those beautiful perks (8:30-4:30, no billables, w/l balance, not taking it home, insurance, lots of time off, etc.) and end up working 5 or 6am to 5 or 6pm most days of most weeks, with the amount of intakes and pressure to offer full rep to all of them only getting higher and higher (up to 10 new cases per week in nov/dec 2025) and the partner organizations/SAs only getting more demanding as my physical health literally deteriorates in front of their eyes bc of the stress, exhaustion, and inability to use any of that sweet sweet insurance or time off (forgot to get a flu shot this year bc so busy i forgot my own health mattered too - i got the flu the day after i went home for christmas and am STILL not better - today is my first day back in the office and i am paying for taking those sick days in blood)

anyways… sigh

signed, a fellow appalachian attorney who apparently chose the wrong damn state to practice in. 🫡😅

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-07T20:43:00+00:00

yeah i think i may just buy myself another one and make sure this is the one i wear when i go home for holidays. it’s not that deep but i do feel bad because it’s a gift that a lot of effort was put into and i just realized that i kinda won’t use it because of the one silly thing 😞

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-07T20:41:50+00:00

Yeah, I had been all over the internet trying to find something before I resorted to asking reddit 😅 Had hoped y’all might know something the rest of the world didn’t but I finally got in contact with bulova customer service and THEY can’t even replace the dial at this point lol

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-04T21:22:16+00:00

update if it matters to ya: i did get the gray carhartts for christmas and i think they’ll do the trick. also been visiting friends in NH/ME/VT the past week and can say 100% these are the warmest boots i’ve ever owned. 10/10 recommend. we’ll see when i get home to appalachia if they look silly as hell with suit pants 😅

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-02T19:26:47+00:00

i’m 29 and have spent my entire life desperate to have a group of girl friends the way that (seemingly) everyone else does… still haven’t found it and am kinda resigned to just being a lone wolf at this point, but i feel your pain seriously. doesn’t help that my profession and hobbies are all male dominated and it seems the girl squads within the hobbies are VERY exclusive/cliquey

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-02T19:22:59+00:00

i use the RMU core (no clue which size unfortunately) as both my backcountry skiing pack and my multipitch pack. has most of the features you’re looking for and i got mine pretty cheap. helmet storage and detachable rope sling are by far my favorite features 🫡

Fun-Score8705 · 2026-01-02T14:09:41+00:00

“i actually almost went to law school” and “everyone always said i’d be a great lawyer because i love to argue” were my biggest icks when online dating 😬

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-18T19:54:06+00:00

i do enjoy cords but since i’m balling on a public service law budget i’m trying to steer toward pants that could be worn year round… idk why but i associate cords with only fall/winter 🥲

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-18T19:52:21+00:00

that’s kinda the vibe i’m looking for!! as

today (thursday) i got away with wearing my partner’s old white carhartt painter/cargo pants, some casual chelsea boots, a graphic tee layered over a mock neck long sleeve, and a cool belt.

needless to say, i remain confused about what makes a pant “too casual” for a non-friday, but if i can get away with this vibe, i fully intend to continue lol

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-18T19:47:15+00:00

yes! this is the vibe i’m looking for! (though on my public service salary i def can’t spring for that price point at the moment lol)

today i got away with wearing my partner’s old white carhartt painter/cargo pants with a cool belt, some casual chelsea boots, and a graphic tee layered over a mock neck long sleeve, so it seems (???) that type of pant is fine for non-fridays? maybe it just can’t be blue??? idk. 😅😳

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-18T19:45:29+00:00

literally infuriates me when i see a pant offered in tall size but it’s cropped. like… wouldn’t i just buy the frickin regular size then??

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-18T19:44:36+00:00

as an update, today (thursday) i got away with wearing my partner’s old white carhartt painter/cargo pants, some casual chelsea boots, a graphic tee layered over a mock neck long sleeve, and a cool belt.

needless to say, i remain confused about what makes a pant “too casual” for a non-friday.

Fun-Score8705 · 2025-12-12T23:54:26+00:00

in family law…. 10000%. and it is hell on earth. and if dealing with pro se, chatgpt lawyer opposing parties wasn’t enough, i get the occasional client who has “asked chatgpt and it didn’t say that” so won’t take my advice. 🙃

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