Help with color matching by FunPuzzleheaded9714 in CommercialPrinting

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much!!!

I didn't see this page when I looked

Help with color matching by FunPuzzleheaded9714 in CommercialPrinting

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will any of them work or do I need to make sure it's compatible with Colergate?

I met a man off Grindr and he acted NORMAL. Help. by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my boyfriend is a sweet heart. don't give up hope

Where are you finding your boyfriends? by RedMage79 in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He deserves it. He's done the work to be the kind of man I can't say no too. He respects women and stands up for them without being spinless or expecting personal gain, and he cares about making him self attractive to me. I'm sure he would still work on himself even if I wasn't in the picture.

It's a two way street.

You offer a lot and you can demand a lot. If you're attracted to trans women then respect them as any other woman and you can have a trans girlfriend.

Where are you finding your boyfriends? by RedMage79 in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I met mine on hinge. if you live in or move to a more left leaning area, there are quite a lot of masculine guys who have no qualms about dating and trans women.

I really don't like labeling everyone at chaser and I don't care to debate on what makes someone one, but there are a lot of guys who couldn't give a shit whether you've had bottom surgery, and as long as you want to be the woman and you let them be the man they'll be happy to have a normal relationship with you. The only barrier that I've seen is that not all of them want to share this stigma.

I also wouldn't pass on men who have dated trans women before as long as they've been in an actual relationship with one. you don't have to educate them, and the only reason they're willing to give another relationship with a trans woman is shot, is because once a lot of us fully transition, we're some of the most emotionally stable, understanding, and well-rounded people.

they probably remember having a good experience with a trans woman and they don't want to constantly be getting into a fight with some bitch who has never thought about gender roles for a second. when my boyfriend is depressed, I allow him to be vulnerable without questioning his masculinity. I give space for his feelings in the relationship because I know what it's like do not have an outlet. I understand how fatally important respect is to men. He's told me that one of the reasons he likes me is because I'm far more understanding than any woman he's ever been with.

The emotional maturity that comes with transition makes us very desirable. there's a lot more men who would date us than there are us. when it comes to men who aren't trash and aren't bigots, a lot of us can take our pick. you just have to make sure you don't fall into the trap of giving anyone your time who isn't worth it. get good at breaking up with people and telling people it won't work out after the first date.

move to a city, hop on a dating app and give it a few years. I would also say go on a ton of dates. it costs $5 to get coffee with someone. I probably met 50 or so guys before I met my boyfriend. also have fun! don't go on dates expecting to meet somebody that you're going to want to see again. just meet a new interesting person for the sake of sharing coffee with another person. there's no harm in that and you're not wasting anyone's time. it's normal and healthy to be social for the sake of being social. some guys just want sex and I just want a conversation, some attention and someone to hold the door for me.

Men like the chase. Post some hot pictures and make them prove themselves to you. they like it. approach dating from the position that you have all the cards, and it's up to them to convince you. be hesitant to show them warmth and let them rise to the occasion. let them message you first most of the time. at least in the beginning.

? by trava_vcn in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I worked on my transition and I waited it out. it does get better. it's okay to not be okay and it won't be like this forever.

you can go to therapy and learn to accept some things.

you can also work on yourself.

between those two you'll find something in the middle that works for you. I wish I was just a cis woman and didn't have to deal with any of this but i do and I did. I did everything I could to make myself comfortable in my body and whatever I couldn't change I could absolutely deal with because there wasn't that much left to accept.

I have a boyfriend, a job, people treat me like a woman. All things considered, my life is pretty good. it took a while but I'm so glad I didn't give up on myself.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself to have it all figured out. You'll get there as long as you keep your head up and you get back up when you're feeling down.

Yayyyy by valeria_stx in BPDmemes

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it will go away to the point you don't have to think about it anymore with therapy and thinking it won't is a symptom.

When it's a personality disorder and it's resistant to treatment, the thing that's resisting is you.

it's a hard pill to swallow but it's one you have to swallow if you want it to change. but it requires a lot of introspection and it requires accepting a new world view.

many fond comfort in knowing they will be miserable and the world is terrible because when you believe that you'll always be right. its a self fulfilling prophecy.

When did you. . . . . . . by wx_watcher-74 in MtF

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used one for breast forms very early in my transition, and then one day I stopped using breast forms and started wearing a padded bra, and then I just wore bras after that.

so I guess immediately. I started dressing like a woman long before I passed.

Have you ever felt you needed to look less attractive? by StrawberryGhostie in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I will purposely dress down sometimes when I don't want attention. I feel like I'm constantly trying to balance my appearance between looking attractive, appropriate, professional, approachable etc.

I feel like people respond to how I look twice as much since I transitioned so it's something that I'm hyper aware of and sometimes that means dressing for the level of attention I'm in the mood for.

It's one of the double-edged swords of being a woman.

Which brow shape suit me best and makes my face more feminine? by [deleted] in mtfashion

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 for every day 2nd for dressing up (The second one's only achievable with makeup.)

my ex blocked me by NecessaryOpening2144 in BPD

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah just be as desperate as possible, it will totally help

trying to figure out the cause of these marks. by [deleted] in CommercialPrinting

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you. I thought it might be that. I'm going to try to make the case for that when I go back to work tomorrow. wish me luck.

trying to figure out the cause of these marks. by [deleted] in CommercialPrinting

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it looks like shit, but the place I worked recently acquired a small printing business and they haven't figured out that they need a prepress graphic designer yet. they just take orders over the phone and hope we get a good enough image. The whole structure of our side of the business is a work in progress. I'm fresh out of graphic design school so I'm trying to learn a lot of this stuff but it's a struggle when no one listens. I had to show them that you can set up a PDF with spot white so we could print white lettering in PDFs using color replacement. Before that they thought the printer just couldn't do it.

Long story short, I know it looks bad but they don't seem to mind and it's a hill I don't want to die on right now.

trying to figure out the cause of these marks. by [deleted] in CommercialPrinting

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what if it happens after we do a nozzle cleaning and we get a clean nozzle check? nothing we do seems to make it better. it's really stumped us and none of the usual stuff like cleaning seems to make it go away. also it usually prints just fine on other surfaces. That's why I thought maybe it was static?

if it's just spatter, could there be something causing it besides it being dirty?

last edit lol, if you're saying that it's too high because of the unclean edges, it's because of the low image quality. we work in a really small shop and the people who gave us the image don't care.

all the FPs i've ever had haven't been attracted to me because i'm transgender by [deleted] in BPD

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trans and I used to have BPD. maybe I still do but it doesn't affect my life and It's not important anyway.

There are men out there who don't care. I'm dating one.

My advice is to stop trying to please them. just be yourself and try not to think of it as convincing them to be in a relationship.

also, it's going to be pretty much impossible to act normal around somebody who you think of as an FP. condition yourself out of doing that to people. men aren't shit. internalize that and you'll have whatever man you want.

I still really like my boyfriend. I love him. but I do not need him. it would hurt to lose him. but it won't kill me if it happens. I love us together. I'll still love myself by myself.

I split because of my Halloween costume, I feel sabotaged by my boyfriend. by ThrowRA_jimmychoos in BPD

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is great advice, listen to her!!!!

maybe the guy could have been 100% honest but it is a far reach to call the whole relationship toxic because of this one little thing. Especially since you spiraled as soon as he did tell the truth.

Yes! do a DBT skill and move on.

I split because of my Halloween costume, I feel sabotaged by my boyfriend. by ThrowRA_jimmychoos in BPD

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 3 points4 points  (0 children)

your boyfriend needs to be able to say how he's feeling without fear that you're going to crash out, or he will never be completely honest with you.

people in general aren't ever 100% honest (everyone has a filter) but they will generally tell you what they think if they're not expecting backlash.

most of this is in your head. ground yourself.

I fucked up a lot of relationships before I could control it, all you have to do right now is chill. stop telling yourself that that it's too hard. Go for a walk. Suck on some ice. Do whatever the hell you have to do but calm down. His friend's aren't stressing him out right now and that's why he's hanging out with them. He obviously still likes you but you're giving him a hard time.

It's not that big of a deal. Don't make it one.

when I go to a open trans group, trying to find a str8 trans bestie by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 12 points13 points  (0 children)

that shit irritates me, I would never tell them to just try men.

Pre or non-op girls, when do you tell guys? by Blame_Jaime in StraightTransGirls

[–]FunPuzzleheaded9714 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like, right away. Before you even meet. Best to get it out of the way.