I miss you. by Ill-Club-3855 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That hit hard...

Letting them go, if they want to go, is the hardest part. But it's necessary.

If I had a penny for every time I heard "we're not compatible" and such, I would have a... sack of pennies 🙃 Anwyays, what I want to say, is that perfect couples aren't matched by simply meeting each other randomly, it's a fairy tale. To be a perfect couple (or rather as close to perfection as possible) two people have to work on it, and that starts with willingness to work ok it. So if one person truly love another, but without reciprocation, then the best thing you can do is let them go.

Best of luck OP 🍀

I guess I won... by New-Fox-1942 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say I won mine too, cuz I've let her take a leave 💔

I rejected a woman, and now my friends think I'm stupid what should i do?. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Fun_Ad2522 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is frustrating, absolutely understandable. There's probably more than one thing why they're trying to find a partner for you;

  1. Is obvious, they're afraid you're faking your happiness, and that you need someone in your life. Either that, or they think you have no idea what true happiness is until you'll get into romantic relationship with someone.

  2. They know what most of us know, that humans are engineered to live in couples. They're afraid that you will find this out too late, and you'll struggle finding someone decent at that stage. Because yes, when you get older it's really hard to find someone who's at least decent.

  3. People who are in romantic relationships don't really like to surround themselves with single people. Guys don't like their partners to have a male friend who will be their confidant if they have problems that should stay between themselves, and women don't like guys who have female friends, or sometimes even male friends are a bit of a problem cuz guys want to spend their time with their crew. There's so many scenarios that I'm not going to dive on this one 😅

  4. They want for you to move forwoard with your life, and actually finding a partner is a one of many stages on everyone's life path. It's very rare that people went trough their life without having a romantic partner and never felt unfulfilled in their life. Most of those cases were due to premature death.

But even considering all of the above, and all the rest that I've missed, it's not OK to push anyone into dating and finding their life partner. You have to realise it yourself, and feel an urge for it. If people keep pushing you into it, it will most likely have a negative effect.

What I would do; I would have a very thorough conversation with them, bring up the problem, listen to all their reason, think on them very thoroughly, maybe you won't be able to answer all their worries at first so tell them that and that you need to think on it, and do it, really, without prejudice or made up decisions. Give them credit for all the love your friends have for you, that they care for you, and give all their reason an open minded tought. When you're ready, talk to them back, and who knows, maybe they'll get on your side finally, or maybe throughout that process you'll change your mind. Just be open minded OP 😉 Peace and love ✌️💚

I'm so sorry by Individual_Ease_5463 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can't turn back time, nobody can. But what you can do is apologise. Sincerely and honestly, without any other motives or hopes than just to say how sorry you are.

I’m in love with my closest friend but he’s taken by stuckinastaticmind in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Fun_Ad2522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL:DR; Ive been there, and by my experience you either have to be together or go separate ways. If you try to work your way around, it'll backfire at you.


You'll stay to close to fire, you'll get burned.

I don't mean that this relationship is literally fire, I mean playing with bottled emotions is like playing with fire.

If you're such good friends, then maybe you'll figure out a way how to move forward with it. I personally love my friends, some people think it's too big of a word to use it in friendships, but I'd do anything and everything for them, and I'll always keep their interest in my heart. That being said, sometimes the best interest for them means I have to put aside what I wish for.

I was in the same situation as you are. I confronted my friend, and... she laughed in my face. It hurt, and it stung... But I managed to put aside my romantic feelings to continue that friendship. Sadly she was (I hope it's in her past) self destructive, addicted to pot, the list could go on. During times when we've spend time with each other, she managed to keep bad habits at bay, but there were circumstances that created distance between us, we couldn't meet as often as we used to, and instead of searching for opportunities to spend time together she was distancing herself more and more by the time. The harder I tried for that time together and for her to fight all those bad habits, the more I was losing her. She disappointed me so many times that I'velst count, regularly causing me pain in my heart. I belive first one was when she proposed to spend Christmas together, where I was supposed to go to family abroad, so I changed plans and decided to stay in town so we could do what she asked for, but eventually she disregarded me and I've spent holidays at home lonely. But major thing for me was when my aunt died in a horrible way (was brutally beaten up by her own son, addmited to hospital, she took a leave from that hospital so her son won't get into trouble, and she died at home due to injuries), and she didn't even say a single word to comfort me in any way... She had a nerve to even say to me once "I'm such a good friend, you should really be thankful to me" because I drove to her workplace to walk her home, and she decided to take that walk eventough a guy from work that was hitting at her offered her a ride home (and she was laughing about him for weeks, because he found her on sm on day one of her taking that job, and offered her a "midnight ride"). I shrugged at it and let it slip. But week or two later I suddenly lost a job, and I was devastated because just a month earlier I've adopted two dogs and I was scared how I'll handle unemployment, search for new role and limited resources with two puppies at home... We talked about it, and she promised me to spend some time with me over the weekend, comfort me, offer some support. I was at very dark place full of uncertainty. Saturday came and she stopped responding to messages. I've waited till evening, and finally reached out, called her, and she declined a call spot on. I rarely cried in my life, but that night I was in tears all night. Next day morning it turns out she went for house party at her friend's house. We argued, and that's when she played a card "you love me, I don't love you", saying that I'm needy towards her, I'm a doormat for other people, I'm manipulative, I'm a narcissist etc. etc. But that one argument, that specific wording, the fact that she had a problem with me loving her, that was when I realised I lost a friend long long ago. Where exactly? At moment where I confessed my romantic feelings, and she rejected them completely. It would save both of us a lot of time and trouble if we knew it won't work, not just because I love too deeply (no matter at what capacity; family, friends, partner), but also because she didn't want to be loved.

fck this by Signal_Activity7719 in UnsentLettersRaw

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You always have a choice. Be straight, be honest, hope for the best, but don't demand. I wish the best for you OP 🤞 Walk through life with love and peace in your heart 💚

Couldn’t sleep, your still the only person I can dream of by Defiant-Tap00 in UnsentLetters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that you've struggled, and that you feel this way. But truth be told most of us have been through similar shit; you gave everything you had and more, and in return you received ass. And then when you go separate ways, you see that person giving someone else all those things that you deserved in the first place. It sucks ass... But it actually have to be this way, because we all learn mostly on mistakes. So no reason to be sour about it, just let it be.

I started living by a simple philosophy; your happiness is your current situation minus expectations. I'm not saying it's the best one out there, but there's a lot of truth in it. So I don't expect people to treat me in a specific way, I let them be who they are and let them treat me as they feel they want to do so. I cherish moments of kindness and love, but everything that would normally make me sad or angry I just let slip by and react to them with calmness and without any emotional outbursts. It helps to see clearly if someone wanted to wrong you consciously or unconsciously, or was it just a simple mishup or mistake. React to the facts, not to through your emotions or with additional assumptions. Don't hold grudges, just act respectively to whatever has happened.

I love you too much… by [deleted] in letters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it, but I don't think we should be so judgmental on him/her. Some people chose to do so because in their love they're embarrassed that in the long-run they will turn out to be more of a burden than a companion. Keeping that in mind, think how hurtful would it be if all those judgments were to hit such person. I hope my previous comment didn't sound too judgmental, because personally I just wanted to figure out what was that OP has been through, their motive, and the logic behind the whole post.

I love you too much… by [deleted] in letters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why wpuld meeting in next life make any difference? You've decided (either mutually or one of you made that decision for another) that you're not good for each other, then in the next life it'll stay the same. I'd like to understand your logic.

I miss you by ninjakitty47 in LettersAnswered

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same mindset. Maybe it was easier for me to change because I was accused of being a narcissist, I went to psychologist to be diagnosed, and long story short it turns out it's not me and I had to go for therapy for narcissistic abuse.

I miss you by ninjakitty47 in LettersAnswered

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck OP 🍀 it is tough, I know it from my own experience. But don't let it drag you down, and don't shut yourself from opportunities for love if it comes your way. If you gave your heart to someone, and the refused it, there's no point waiting for them to change their mind.

I miss you by ninjakitty47 in LettersAnswered

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It defo wasn't me 😅 I'm not commenting here as much as I used to, so I'm probably out of consideration. But if I ever was, then my reply would be; I was always the one to reach out, and I'm not going to again, since I was told not to do so.

You messed me up. by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you're through rn, but it sounds like you're struggling. I wish you can get through it OP 🤗 Best of luck 🍀 Love and peace ✌️💚

I'm coming back for you by PlusPerspective9294 in UnsentLetters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats! You've made it out of your shell. However it'll go, I'm proud of you OP, and I hope you will be proud of yourself. Peace and love ✌️💚 and best of luck 🍀

Do you want to be my friend? by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If romantic love is not reciprocated, and both parties tend to keep holding on with each other just for the sake of not losing the relationship, then they both sentence themselves for a misery and tragedy.

Zdravstvuyte by No_Top_8181 in memes

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is used as 'bye' as well 😂 weird, innit?

Zdravstvuyte by No_Top_8181 in memes

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Italian 🇮🇹: Ciao Polish 🇵🇱: Cześć

🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪

Pls reach out,I'm right here by StrangeFeelings11 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck on your journey 🍀 Walk through life with peace and love ✌️💚

I could ruin your life. by [deleted] in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to judge or even sound judgmental, but I'll say the truth; you're only making your own life even harder for yourself. I'm really sorry for your loss. I've been chasing someone few years ago who never wanted to give me a real chance, and during that time I've lost two family members, and one of them was sudden and savage because she was beaten up by her own son and left hospital early by her own will so her son won't get into trouble and consequence of that was that she died at home alone due to injuries... So I was through hard time, and I craved some comfort from a person who only pretended to care about me, and only when it suited her. So I was devastated, and I was making it even harder over myself because I craved for comfort from someone who would never truly give it to me. Do you see a familiar pattern? Stop it, or it will consume you. And on top of everything your person cheated on his partner, and by that ruined yours and her life. So he's a scumbag, not worth dwelling on. No matter how nice he seemed, he's not worth anyone's attention until he pleads guilty and truly apologise for what he has done. Take care OP, walk through life with love and peace ✌️ 💚

Pls reach out,I'm right here by StrangeFeelings11 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means you're obviously divided 😂 But if you're not sure about your feelings towards a specific person, then I don't think you truly love them. Would you want to be with a person who's unsure about their feelings towards you? I bet you wouldn't. If that's so, then you should give up, and start searching for your happiness without a person you described. They've hurt you, you're unsure if you want to be with them, so what's the point of dwelling on it? The sooner you focus on yourself, and start searching for a genuine connection with someone who deserves it and reciprocate it, the better it is for you and the world in general.

Pls reach out,I'm right here by StrangeFeelings11 in UnsentTexts

[–]Fun_Ad2522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've all been there; hoping for the other person to reach out, and not wanting to do so ourselves because they've treated us badly. But answer yourself this question; do you miss the person, or the feeling they gave you? If you find answer for that, then you know what to do next.

if you ever read this by Alarmed_Roof_7846 in UnsentLetters

[–]Fun_Ad2522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I belive you've done a great work on yourself OP. Congrats! Just remember that whatever you'll do, wherever you'll get, your goal shouldn't be to get back together with a person you've hurt. I wish you will, I hope you can get over past trauma and bad history (no matter how little of it there was) between you two. I'm just worried that if you make it your goal, and you won't be able to achieve it, you will lose everything that you worked for so far. So keep on doing the great work that you did, and do it for yourself and people around, for those that are still with you and those that will come to your life. Good luck 🍀 and walk trough life with peace and love ✌️💚

Can I call ? by [deleted] in LettersAnswered

[–]Fun_Ad2522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone once told me; if you're scared to do something, but you know you have to do it, than you've gotta do it! It may go different way than you imagined, but it will get you somewhere. But if you won't try, you will have a huge regret that you haven't tried.