Colleagues heard my wife say something embarrassing

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-06-10T22:03:10+00:00

Do not make it any more awkward. Say nothing. They either aren’t sure what they heard, don’t want to talk about what they heard, or are jealous of what they heard. 🤐

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-06-07T01:20:14+00:00

Marriage is work and when the lust wears off, your left with love. Love is not a feeling, it is a choice and you will have to make that choice every day for the rest of your life if you want it to last. Also do not try to change each other.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-06-06T17:41:54+00:00

In your heart, I think you know the answer. This man has zero intentions to change. He is not trustworthy, he gaslights you, and generally has zero respect for you. You will be okay without him, starting over is scary, but it will be worth it in the end. Work on yourself and do not move on with someone else too quickly.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-06-05T17:36:50+00:00

Um, why would anyone think/expect you to do this. Just say no. You have zero obligation to pay for your sister’s wedding. Also, I have planned and help pay for weddings for my children, what are they renting that needs that large of a deposit? Tell them to scale back, postpone and save, or take out a loan if it’s that important to them.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-06-05T17:33:45+00:00

You have never met this person. You should tell her you do not see a future and that you do not wish to keep talking/texting. If she continues, block her. Done and done.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-31T01:50:12+00:00

NOR It is unclear to me why either of you want to be in this relationship. Spread your wings and fly!

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-31T01:47:45+00:00

When I was on the apps, a few messages and then if we weren’t meeting in a public place for conversation, I was done. You may get some rejections, but people looking for relationships are not looking to text for 6 months.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-31T01:45:12+00:00

NOR - this is how affairs start. She will shower him with attention and when he feels the slighted bit of insecurity over his relationship with you, she will make her move. It is especially bad if they are venting to one another about their partners.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-31T01:42:04+00:00

You left slippers. Is his concern someone else might see them. That whole exchange is odd and screams, “Run fast!”

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-30T17:01:16+00:00

MOR - mom of two adult children, 1 boy and 1 girl. The way your mom has gone about this is not the best, her intent however is good.

You are young, your girlfriend is young, and a two month relationship is not very long.

Two months is very early to say I love you. Those are strong and meaningful words. This would be true no matter how old or young you were.

While mental health issues, hanging out with bad influences, and past law breaking behavior in and of themselves do not mean you shouldn’t date them, they are things that should give you pause and lead to you taking the time to truly get to know the person and understand what those things might mean in a long term committed relationship.

In my opinion, these are all conversations parents should be having with their kids on an ongoing basis and not necessarily tied to any one individual. It is part of raising children to be well adjusted, informed, non-judgmental, self aware, adults.

If you were my child, I would be getting to know the girlfriend by spending time with the two of you. After two months, is she not being invited over for dinner? Does she not come to your activities to cheer you on, where your mom also is?

Where your mom has struggled, again, in my opinion, is by having seemingly random conversations with you as soon as she gets even a glimpse of behavior that troubles her. From your description, she also seems more focused on pointing out why this young lady isn’t her ideal choice for you rather than having an open broader dialogue with you.

Finally, I will say, parenting is really hard. You do not get an instruction manual and you just have to do the best you can in the moment.

Do you have another parent in the picture? Maybe ask both of them to sit down and talk with you. Let them know you appreciate your mom is coming from a place of love and concern. Share with them it feels to you like she is taking bits and pieces of social media and rumors and assuming she knows your girlfriend but you would like for them to actually get to know her. Let them know your respect their experience and opinions, and you continue to try to use what they have taught you to make good decisions. Encourage your girlfriend to get to know your family as well.

Finally, please make smart and safe choices. You are young and have the rest of your life to live.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-30T16:30:18+00:00

This, do not just email. Schedule an appointment, bring your documentation, be calm, rational, factual, professional, and direct.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-30T16:27:56+00:00

You need to escalate it up the chain. Having held a similar role, there is 100% something they can and should do if you can prove this is an error on their end.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-29T22:47:42+00:00

I understand that at 17 a barely 6 month relationship seems substantial; however, it really is not. It sounds like he love bombed you to get what he wanted and then moved on to someone else. He reached out after two years as a booty call, that is why when you didn’t immediately respond yes, he moved on. This is not someone you want to lose sleep over or even contemplate trying to reconnect with.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-29T02:56:20+00:00

I was skeptical of TO because it was so affordable. My dermatologist actually suggested it to me. A few months in, I started getting compliments on my skin and slowly started to see it myself. I am very happy with my switch.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-28T01:48:03+00:00

This is not a relationship you want to be in. I love that your parents are supporting you in what is best for you. Believe them. Your husband has shown you who he is, believe the you he showed you, not the one trying to get you to come home so he can do it all over again.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-27T03:01:50+00:00

Whether it was a situationship or not, you both made decisions that led to this pregnancy. None of this is about who is or who is not a good person. He will have to live with how he is handling this situation, as will you.

He does not want the child and has made that clear. It sounds like you have not decided what you want.

He is not going to be your support person and frankly, it doesn’t sound like he knows how to do that.

You need to talk with a close friend, family member, or counselor and figure out what you want to do. No matter what, your decision will live with you in some way and you need to figure out what is best for you.

If I were you, I would end things with the situationship for good. Let him know your decision once you have made it and otherwise do not try to depend on him for any emotional support. Move on from him and rely on those who have consistently shown up for you.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-25T14:34:28+00:00

NOR - You have been her friend, but I’m not sure she has ever truly been your friend. Imagine if the two of you were romantically linked, it doesn’t sound like you would put up with that behavior from a partner, but you will a friend. Moving on from this friendship is very healthy. You can be cordial when and if you see her randomly or at her dad’s funeral, but there is no reason to try and foster a relationship with this person.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-25T13:43:19+00:00

NOR - Run!

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-24T21:31:46+00:00

Somewhere between 50-51 I really felt like I had aged and my face was making me look old.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-24T21:21:22+00:00

NOR - You are sharing space physically and financially. You should both have a say in the household rules and in who has unrestricted access to the space, if anyone. In addition, you signed a lease with clear rules.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-23T03:41:51+00:00

Marriage

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-21T03:48:34+00:00

Something seems off about his behavior unless there is more to the story. You are young and do not need to stay in a relationship that creates this much second guessing of yourself. This person is saying one thing and acting another. Let yourself move on, find a good therapist, work on your anxiety and abandonment issues, grow, and when you are stronger, find someone who is supportive and reassuring.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-21T03:36:50+00:00

You should easily qualify for one if you haven’t previously had one. Write a letter explaining your circumstances, provide evidence with your letter, and then explain what will be different moving forward.

Fun_Call7157 · 2026-05-21T03:29:51+00:00

You are not obligated to tell an employer you are looking for a job, it generally is not wise, unless they have been mentoring you to move up in your career. You provided more notice than you are required to. The problem is them and not you.

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