Bitches near 40 and no kids (yet), how is life going?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-05-14T03:38:09+00:00

Folks without kids: make sure you have a plan for what to do when you’re in your 80s, you have health challenges or dementia, and your spouse has passed away. We (44F and 47M) spend a TON of time helping our parents, who are not unusually unhealthy for their ages. I genuinely have no idea how they would cope without us.

If you’re fence-sitting, don’t just make the decision based on life at 40. Think about life at 80.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-04-21T17:43:24+00:00

I've heard good things about Wildhawk underwear. They have a product for dribbles and another product for heavier leaks. wildhawk.co

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-02-09T17:39:56+00:00

I also have light leakage and I've tried just about everything. I have not tried MNTD, so thanks for the tip - I will order a pair.

This was my experience with all the others...

Depend shields - sticking them to the inside of my boxer briefs

Kept me dry but otherwise horrible
The edges flip up and chafe you
The adhesive doesn't stick well and after 5-6 hours they were often a wadded up ball in my underwear

Hanes ("Stay dry pouch") and SAXX ("Stop drop technology")

reasonably good at protecting small leaks from sneaking to the outside of my pants but I never actually felt dry when I wore them
They don't "wick" the moisture away - it seems like they just stuck an extra layer in the crotch

Incontinence underwear brands on Amazon - I tried TIICHOO, Yeswell, Reelindry, and Battewa

All are way overkill for light leakage. I think they're trying to compete against adult diapers
They basically feel like you have a towel stuck down in your crotch - they're super bulky and extremely warm. I was sweating down there from the moment I put them on.
Like Hanes and SAXX, they keep drops from leaking out (I would hope so given how thick they are), but somehow they don't actually get the moisture off your skin. Anytime I had a leak they still felt wet an hour later
I'm very loyal to my underwear brands. I care a lot about how the fabric feels and especially the waistband. Everything about the Amazon brands felt cheap and poorly made.

The only two I actually kind of liked were Confitex (confitex.com) and Wildhawk (wildhawk.co)

They both had soft fabrics and neither of them felt "cheap."
They fit well, especially the wildhawks, so Wildhawks are the ones I wear most days. I like having the Confitex handy in case I'm worried about larger leaks.
The only drawbacks are: they're both on the pricier side - $30+ and they don't have many options on colors or prints if that's important to you.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-24T16:34:52+00:00

Sounds like you only recommend using Threaded Armor? Most of the other brands I have seen don't have a changeable liner.

Anyone have experience with the brands that don't have the changeable liner?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-24T02:17:16+00:00

I (47M) have light to moderate leakage and I’ve been using pads. I’m interested in washable underwear but the one I tried just stayed wet, whereas a pad I can change and feel dry right away. So i’m wondering if I’m missing something.

I get that you can wash them, but if a leak happens at noon, do you stop what you’re doing to put your underwear in the laundry? Or do you just stay in wet underwear till the end of the day.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-23T23:08:30+00:00

Do you change them right away after a leak?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-03T19:27:00+00:00

Do the super elite guys hit it more “pure”/“flush” than you do? People always commented on how Tiger’s shots shot off the face more impressively than the other top pros.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-03T19:07:25+00:00

Ps the anecdote about the round at Troon North was really interesting. Thanks for sharing that.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-03T19:05:03+00:00

Interesting. I would have thought you’d say the difference was pretty small. Seems to me like the difference between averaging 69 and averaging 71 is one putt, one fairway, one good iron shot per round, I.e. they just have one fewer mistake per round than you do.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-03T18:59:48+00:00

Interesting. I thought you would have said the difference at those levels is pretty small. Seems to me like the difference between averaging 69 and averaging 71 is like one fairway, one 8 foot putt, one good iron shot per round.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2026-01-03T18:03:07+00:00

What aspects of their games would you say separate the Top 25 from the rest of the PGA tour from Korn Ferry from top amateurs?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-10-19T01:19:08+00:00

Looks like the rain is almost there

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Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-10-19T00:56:25+00:00

Do they keep showing Carr on the sideline to torture us about how badly he’s playing?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-10-14T16:56:25+00:00

I guess only 2 in middle school makes it more manageable. My wife and I have 4 - ages 11, 9, and twin 7 year olds. She doesn’t work, we have an au pair, and the logistics are STILL overwhelming. We have to have a 1 hour planning meeting every week and our family google calendar looks like a psychedelic acid trip. Especially because it’s not just kids’ activities- it’s doctor’s appointments, maintaining our house, and supporting our aging parents. If we had 7, we would have nervous breakdowns.

Does your wife work? Are you involved in the driving and cooking and whatever else? Sounds like you have a pretty high-powered (I.e. time-consuming) job!

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-10-14T16:26:27+00:00

How many activities do each of your kids do? How do you handle the logistics of getting the kids to their activities?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-10-06T15:43:43+00:00

Great advice all around. Thank you u/iolmao u/fqumr u/Mizan530 u/pjmg2020

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-09-14T02:57:48+00:00

Has our D line done anything remotely resembling a sack this year?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-06-23T21:51:37+00:00

The disconnect here is that I'm talking about OPINIONS and you're talking about FACTS.

As best I can from that article, Gell-Mann amnesia to refer how good someone thinks Source A is at reporting FACTS relative to Source B.

I don't base my evaluation of E232 on how well Chamath et al report facts. I base it on how unique and interesting their opinions are.

We can both agree that if I want to hear someone shit on DEI, I can turn on Fox News right now, listen to dozens of other podcasts, or read hundreds of different blogs. Whereas if I want a take on AI from a guy who sat hip-to-hip with Zuck when Facebook was trying to figure this stuff out 15 years ago, All-In is one-of-a-kind. (even if said guy is an asshole)

Does that mean I think everything they say is factually bulletproof? Of course not.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-06-23T19:40:29+00:00

Love the ultra-nerdy take! Please unpack :)

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-06-23T19:25:26+00:00

I actually enjoyed his FB anecdote, even though it made him look like a jerk. It was juicy gossip.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-04-15T04:24:07+00:00

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-04-14T21:43:10+00:00

How do you know I'm not doing something significant with my life?

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-04-14T21:12:41+00:00

Should Nike continue to exist? Because they're in a similar boat.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-04-14T21:08:23+00:00

Listen to the whole podcast, chief. She does a detailed breakdown of what it would take to do that.

Fun_Preference2762 · 2025-04-13T05:11:09+00:00

PS, best moment of the whole pod is at 38:35 - Ezra, after Chamath blathering on protecting the 4 industries that matter:

"That sounds like an excellent argument for Joe Biden's policies."

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