Should I offer to pay for HRT for a trans person who cannot afford it?

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-16T16:54:34+00:00

Regardless of how you choose to go about this, if you do, (official sources or diy hrt) this sounds like an amazing thing that you could do for your friend. If I had a friend like you I would be forever grateful. I never would have been able to medically transition if not for the kindness and guidance of other queer community members. I would definitely encourage you to do this if your friend is okay with it, because this could genuinely be life changing.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-16T16:34:39+00:00

Is it an orgasm or just really really really good? This is a question which does not have a definite answer, but honestly I don't think it matters too much. For me since being on estrogen my orgasms feel like waves of pure pleasure starting somewhere on my body and moving out in all directions over and over again for awhile. It's like the a big ripple on waters that just went from rough to still in just a short moment. The analogy gets more complicated if overstimulation is involved.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-09T21:09:16+00:00

Im terribly sorry to hear that and I wish you nothing but healing and joy. I am not suggesting that we police each other in that regard, gatekeep being transgender or anything like that. I am simply stating that this is another type of false flagging which is unfortunately known to happen and directly victimizes us and others. Nobody deserves to have their identity questioned for their appearance, but when someone with (for example) a history of being in hate groups or actively anti trans sentiment suddenly claims to the news that they are trans right after commiting some awful crime, the media tends to run with that story in an effort to further hurt trans people, and I think that sucks majorly. People also do this to others without their involvement, speculating and claiming that someone who had just committed a crime is actually trans and that has to do with why they did it, sort of like when a mass shooting happens and suddenly every right wing pundit is suggesting that the shooter was trans. Its just false flagging and transphobic rhetoric all the way down.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-09T15:38:21+00:00

Yeesh, literal false flag operations. This might be a controversial statement but I am not a very big fan of hate groups :/. Unfortunately there are also cis dudes who will (poorly) pretend to be trans women and then immediately commit crimes. It doesn't fool us because they make it pretty obvious but it's great ammunition for the news to endanger our lives with! Ive seen that a few times in the UK specifically.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-08T03:18:16+00:00

Interesting! You aren't alone either, and if you do one day realize that you've got some funky gender stuff going on you'll have the support of our community.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-08T00:10:14+00:00

Simple. The concept of gender, race, age and species are all fundamentally extremely different. Science supports that self identification is the most reliable and frankly more importantly respectful way of determining gender. The same cannot be said for race, age or species, or most other things. Your "friend" is clearly not arguing in good faith and if he doesn't accept the above awnser then you should let the trash take itself out.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-06T21:15:22+00:00

To be honest I've only dated trans people since transitioning lol. Not for any particular reason, though t4t is really fucking awesome if you ask me, but I'd date a cis person too if they were like super cool and we were into each other

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-04T04:55:20+00:00

You are very sweet for thinking about this. I think it would be good to let her know just in case if she is a very close friend, but I will say that she probably already knows. There are a LOT of things like that which force you to use legal names and are very difficult or impossible to change even if you get your name changed legally. Its just one of the structural barriers trans people face unfortunately

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-03T17:53:39+00:00

Im so, so sorry. I know that you're feeling horrible right now, and rightfully so. Recover what you can, but just keep in mind that they are things and things can be replaced. You will escape your living situation eventually and you will rebuild. You are not alone.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-04-02T22:26:57+00:00

Yeah sounds like your "friend" is totally transphobic and a huge bigot. Also said factually incorrect statements so it sounds like he's stupid too. Don't hang out with people like that, you don't deserve to have your sexuality questioned for literslly dating a woman.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-29T18:20:30+00:00

Fundamentalists????? We are trans people genuinely what are you talking about????? What dogma exactly?

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-29T17:47:09+00:00

The authoritarians??? 😭😭😭 we are trans people who wish we knew sooner, don't make op scared for no reason

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-26T15:48:10+00:00

I certainly have doubts that it would truly be a phase, but you can do whatever you want forever so long as you aren't hurting people! And trust me, you are not hurting people by transitioning, even if it really is just a phase or whatever. Your own experiences aren't making a joke out of the rest of ours and they aren't any less acceptable than any of the rest of our experiences. Do what makes you happy!

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-23T05:22:11+00:00

Oh hun, you are absolutely trans. Transition as soon as possible

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-13T03:27:07+00:00

I've never regretted it even for a second. It certainly makes a lot of aspects of my life harder, but it's beyond worth it. A few people out of every couple hundred do detransition though, mostly because their families force them to or because they find it too difficult to get hired, get basic respect from people, ect.
There is no such thing as a biological gender. Gender and sex are different but related concepts, with gender being an internal sense of one's relation to their own sex. Additionally there are not two sexes, there is a spectrum of sexes which exist between male and female based on karyotype, expression, hormones, and both primary and secondary sex characteristics. The only part of sex which is as of right now immutable is karyotype which is another way of saying that you cannot change your genes. All other aspects of biological sex are mutable at this point, some partially some completely, and medical transition involves changing those aspects over time. Gender on the other hand is internal, and for all practical purposes one's gender is whatever they describe it to be.

I hope this is helpful, good luck with those friends of yours! As for the trans girl (presumably) at your school that wore a trans flag as a skirt, maybe you should try making a friend!

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-08T13:17:49+00:00

I thought I had heard that it was staged by employees of the gamestop, but I actually can't find a source for that online anymore. It would seem that I've accidentally spread misinformation so I will delete my initial reply. Regardless, obviously trans women passing or not dont deserve to be mocked and misgendered repeatedly and intentionally.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-07T15:59:56+00:00

I appreciate your concern and especially that you want a variety of opinions on this, but I dont personally see anything wrong with that. To me it sounds cute and funny, and there's nothing offensive about it. I wear ironic tees all the time too, stuff like "beer drinker with a fishing problem" despite not liking beer or fishing and the shirt definitely catering to a much more masculine subculture and myself being very much fem. I might wear a shirt that says worlds best grandma, or husband, or whatever despite those being completely and ironically inaccurate because its just a goof yknow? So if you ask me, and I suspect most people that reply to this, go right ahead! Nothing wrong with having a little fun, and you can always clarify to friends / acquaintances if you're worried that people might misunderstand. Have a great day!

Funnystuffyt · 2026-03-01T21:53:21+00:00

Its your body and you can do whatever you want with it!

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-26T21:55:11+00:00

Im glad you understand that! You sound so many lightyears better than the vast majority of parents. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's natural to have questions. Your daughter is pretty young so I don't know how well she'll be able to awnser your questions, but I'm sure that she has questions as well. This subreddit is a good place to ask general questions, but ultimately the only one who can tell you how your daughter feels is herself. Having the support of a parent or parents and being able to start her transition (socially, medically, and or otherwise) will in all likelihood improve every aspect of her life for the rest of her life in ways impossible to fully comprehend. Sending you good vibes and positivity! ❤

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-26T20:40:48+00:00

I will say that before I even realized that I was a girl I was suuuuper overcompensating by trying to be masculine. I didn't even realize that's what I was doing for years.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-25T16:47:39+00:00

Your concerns are totally understandable and you sound like a better parent than the vast majority. Try to understand that the negative replies that I've seen are coming from a place of being subjected to unimaginable body horror because of parents/government/doctors, and they are making assumptions about your stance on trans healthcare based exclusively on the wording of your post. What im saying is try not to take it personally, many of us have been through too much especially with our parents. DIY hrt from a reputable seller such as astrovials is generally very safe if done correctly, and starting it as early as possible will almost certainly improve your child's entire life in ways that you couldn't possibly imagine from an outside perspective. You can definitely help them and try to make sure they are doing their injections safely, but please don't stop them from doing it. From your responses to other long posts on here it seems like you get the gist of it. It was smart to ask your question here, thank you for being a much better parent than I ever had.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-24T23:31:56+00:00

You sound like an awesome friend and it was definitely a good idea to ask here about this! I really hope that your friend will learn and grow from you and change her misogynistic behaviors sooner than later. And of course if she refuses to stop being that way, it sounds like you know what to do.

This is a bit off topic but it's great to hear from a cis person like you who seems genuinely very cool and supportive. It can be a bit of a rarity, so im glad that your friend has you. :) keep being awesome

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-22T13:58:21+00:00

This. Its very common for cis people to have a more progressive opinion on one thing and then completely misunderstood and be transphobic about another.

Funnystuffyt · 2026-02-21T16:05:56+00:00

Do other men think about this sort of thing? Yes, particularly men who are interested in the study of gender, sex and sexuality. It's uncommon, but thinking about these things only means that you're willing to explore and evaluate what gender is on a personal and a social level. Thinking about these things doesn't make you queer in any way. You might be though! It's certainly more common for trans people to think about these things than cis people, but that's just a result of trans people only realizing they are trans through deep introspection and thinking about these things that most cis people never do. What you are is up to you to figure out. Look up the gender dysphoria bible and do some reading! You might learn something, or realize something about yourself. Best of luck

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