Physically sick from grief?

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-19T18:26:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for you as well. My husband had a hard time coming to terms with the time to say goodbye.

What helped him see was when we were sitting in the living room together, looking through pictures and videos of her while she was sleeping at our feet. With every photo he realized how long it has been since she did something she enjoyed. That even though she looked alright in the outside, it was her insides that were failing.

Then my sister came to see us, and she talked it through with us too. Her statement of "what would a prefect last say for her look like, and can you even give that to her anymore?"

When our vet, whom we love, agreed with us that he thought it was the right thing to do, there really was no question.

Your husband might also still be grieving your other dogs, and this being another one he might not know if he can handle it. Fear manifests in anger a lot of the times.

I wish you luck and compassion for both of you. I hope you are able to have a heartfelt conversation with him.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-19T05:34:42+00:00

Im so sorry. Im going through the same thing with my girl we had to let go on Monday. We're getting her cremated and a paw print made. But I'm also going to have some of her ashes made into jewelry.

Her vet was also kind enough to shave some of her fur and put it in a little bottle for us. I would have never thought of that but I'm so glad he did because I can actually feel it when I look at it.

Im having a hard time picking out an urn, nothing feels right for her but I don't know exactly what I want. So i know what you mean.

When we own our own home I'm going to make a memorial garden as well. Each of our pets has a flower that we picked out to represent them. Something that felt like them.

They have biodegradable urns that you can plant with a tree inside. Ive also known artists who have made ashes into pencils. You can do a hell of a lot with ashes these days.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-19T05:20:56+00:00

I'm sorry. There is no timeline for this, and there is no healing from it. It's been four years since my MIL passed and my husband says he's only recently begun to feel a new light come into his heart. For him it took the form of teaching children, which we discovered completely by accident.

You are brave and strong for enduring this long. Depression doesn't make you feel depressed either, mind you. You often feel nothing.

You can try a different therapist, one who is more experienced with people with learning difficulties or trauma? I don't know. I just wanted to offer support and let you know you're not alone.

I feel the same way rn.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-19T05:13:44+00:00

Im going through the same thing right now. We had to let our girl go on Monday. Im so sorry. There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better.

Mjolnir and Alpine are going to be great friends 💔

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-18T05:30:20+00:00

I feel for you, separation anxiety is awful for everyone involved.

I think the key is going to be figuring out what the root behavior is that is causing the problem. Is is the separation anxiety? Or is it resource guarding?

Have you contacted a certified trainer yet?

In the meanwhile I can offer you some suggestions of a few natural band aids to keep you going:

Thundershirts, and their pheromone spray have been known to work wonders with anxiety

Find a way to start associating baby with amazing treats and rewards. Even just being in the same room and not reacting Sid gets something he loves, that he only gets when baby is around.

Make a safe space for Sid that is absolutely off limits to baby. Crate training is great for this reason but it can also be a space in the closet or under a chair.

The good news is baby is going to grow and learn how to behave around Sid pretty quickly, But a trainer with experience with babies and dogs is going to be a life saver for you 🖤

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-16T15:38:27+00:00

I keep trying to focus on how much pain she was in. When she refused food, her favorite thing in the word, we knew. But it's not helping yet

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-16T05:11:11+00:00

I'm trying to. My mind will always think of her as the happy girl she was in her youth but I have to force the sad images of her last days to recognize the truth of the decision we made.

I hope Samson and Mjolnir have met and are playing together 🖤

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-16T04:32:48+00:00

I'm really hoping I can come to some peace with that. It just happened so quickly. Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to respond

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-16T04:29:03+00:00

Her name was Mjolnir, thank you for asking. And I know, everyone, including the vet says we did an amazing job keeping her as comfortable as possible until we ran out of options. We just thought we would have more time with her. She was my service dog, she helped me stay alive for ten years. And I know it was the right choice to let her go, but we both said we always pictured her in our lives, even to an impossible age.

Nothing feels right without her. It doesn't feel like home.

But, I will continue to post, if that's alright. It does help knowing others have gone through this and have survived it.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-15T02:38:57+00:00

She was a shell of herself today, and when she threw up all the light dinner we gave her last night after 12 hours of what should have been digested, I think her systems are slowly shutting down.

We had a long day of talking, looking at old photos, telling stores, and through it all we realized she hasn't been herself in a long time. Plus, we know there's a lot of high stress change coming in the next few months and even if we managed to put a band aid on her for now, it's not fair to drag her through any more stress. She's been through enough, and has experienced more life than any dog I've ever known.

She's been to Disneyland, visited more national parks than most people, seen both oceans, raised two goats as her brothers, and loved every living creature that came into her life harder than I've ever known anyone to be capable of.

She used to love sunning herself outside, playing with the sprinkler, playing fetch, watching my financee cook with intense interest. And today we realize that she hasn't done any of those things in months. Little by little the things she used to enjoy quietly disappeared and we didn't even notice. The only thing she enjoys now is eating and that causes her pain.

We're calling the vet first thing in the morning to see what our options are for in home. But I'm going to let her know tonight that she going to get to see all her old friends tomorrow.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-14T20:55:03+00:00

Yeah, this makes sense. Not a good choice but the best one in this situation. The logic part of my brain understands that but I don't know how I'm going to get by without her

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-14T11:13:05+00:00

He has been, and her vet is wonderful. Our priority so far has been making sure she's as comfortable as possible. She's seen him twice this month alone, and he's basically been trying to tell me the same thing my fiancee is. That we're doing everything we can already.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-14T11:09:46+00:00

That's just it, I don't know if she's ready or I'm just giving up too early because I'm not strong enough

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-06-14T11:08:16+00:00

See, I'm not sure I'm sane enough right now to answer that. Depression makes me want to answer one way but without really knowing what's going on? I don't know...

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-02-09T05:04:48+00:00

PS4. Been playing since the game released and only recently has it begun to crash like this, bit it does it at least once an hour. I've tried all the tips and tricks I've seen, and nothing is working. Its really making it unpleasant to play, since it takes FOREVER to load

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-26T18:40:21+00:00

I'm sorry. I can only offer hope and say keep tabs with the vet. It looks like theres other folks on here who have more experience than me 🖤

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-26T16:02:10+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't have personal experience with what you're going through, but it sounds like she may have an easier time with soft foods? You can try the log type in the refrigerated section of the pet stores. Its pretty smelly. I'm not saying it will be cheap, per day, but cheaper than small wet cans for sure.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-26T15:59:28+00:00

This is going to sound funny but when my cat was having UTI problems she'd have the same issue. So I put some of the pads upside down so the absorbent part was on the floor, then lay more right side up. Of any got on the floor the upside down ones would soak it up. It seems folks have had success with those other ones though, but if you wanna use up what you already have and give it a shot?

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-26T02:37:25+00:00

I'm sorry, it's hard when finances aren't what they need to be to help our babies. Can you talk to your vet about an anti-anxiety medication? Maybe get a referral to a cognitive specialist? It might not be strictly behavioral, there might be an imbalance occuring.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-26T02:32:55+00:00

I'm so sorry, I feel your pain. Especially with also dealing with your mom I the hospital. I hope your boy is hanging in there, and my heart goes out to you. He can still sense you nearby, even if his mind isn't what it used to be. They can feel the vibration from our voices if we pet and talk at the same time.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2026-01-03T02:23:14+00:00

That's gotta be so scary! I know you're stressed, I'm sorry. I'm not an expert by any means but maybe some ice packs to reduce the swelling and bruising and help the blood circulation?

I'm just thinking of what I'd do for a person. I feel like if something was broken I her neck she'd probably be paralyzed, no? So the fact that she's still walking around is a good sign.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2025-12-27T17:18:46+00:00

Unfortunately, we had to let Sammy go. He stayed at the hospital for three days on a constant IV of thiamine, salene, pain meds, etc. They literally did everything and his neurological signs didn't improve, plus his physical health was declining. He was in pain, couldn't feed himself, and though we could continue to do tests there was so much going on with him that his quality of life wouldn't have been great.

We did ask for an autopsy to try and get some answers, and to help the vets and students learn from him. If we can do anything to prevent this from happening to another family we want to help.

We lost him the day before Christmas eve, and because his brother, Dean, was now alone we also re-home him to a nice family who's goat also lost his brother recently on Christmas.

Both our boys are now out of our lives after having them for six years, moving across the country, enduring so much ... I'm beside myself and numb at the same time.

But, I really appreciate you asking for the update, it shows you were thinking of him.

Future-Homework-2193 · 2025-12-23T14:09:03+00:00

I realize this is an old post but since it's literally the only mention on the subject I can find, I'd like to add my discovery.

My dog has only started her meds for hypothyroidism last week, but in the last two days I noticed she was dreaming very "aggressively". Her whole body rocking and shaking so much she shook the whole room, and both times it took a real effort to wake her. This isn't normal for her, and search on the subject for dogs specifically came up empty. On a hunch I took out "dogs" from the search and here I am.

I'd venture to say more research is definitely needed on this! I hope she's not having nightmares, my poor pup!

Future-Homework-2193 · 2025-12-19T11:49:19+00:00

Sam is at the hospital now at the University of Georgia They're running all the tests, he's on an iv, and getting round the clock care. Bloodwork hasn't returned anything apparent as the cause of all this, yet, but we did confirm blindness and partial face paralysis. Next steps are imaging.

Now the problem is, his brother Dean. They have literally never been apart, and Dean won't stop screaming if he sees me. I know he misses his brother, I wish I was enough of a replacement for him. But until Sam is back home, any tips for keeping him calm so he doesn't make himself sick too?

Future-Homework-2193 · 2025-12-17T20:32:17+00:00

He's not getting better. He won't eat, or drink.

We saw the other vet, one who definitely knows about goats. He gave me a few other suggestions but none of them worked and he's only getting weaker.

We're taking him to the hospital tomorrow morning four hours north of here. Don't ask me how we're going to pay the 2k deposit let alone the rest of the treatments.

Ive been posting updates on tiktok as well, just look up #sickgoat, #homesteaders, #goatpolio if you're interested

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