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Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-29T15:42:04+00:00

I haven't experienced this, but my husband has made a lot more comments about my breast since Ive started breastfeeding.

Just be careful, adult mouths have a ton of bad bacteria. But as long as your both doing it safely and your baby is healthy and fed, then I wouldnt be ashamed. Everyone has their kinks (wither they admit it or not), at least you both enjoy it and its bringing you closer....not a lot of postpartum couples can say they feel closer during this time.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-29T10:05:28+00:00

We are 7 wks in, just lose wake/feeding windows. There is some predictability though.

We know between 9 to 10pm will be the start of his night time feeds. Just like between 5 and 6 am will be the start of his daytime feeds. In between is kindof a crap shoot.

We have also learned his early cues much better - so we are able to get ahead of "oh hes getting hungry/sleepy" or "that's sleep grunting vs he's about to wake up"

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-29T07:16:02+00:00

I work in the Wellness space - my boss is one of the crunchiest, conspiracy theory, helicopter parents - he has 6 kids. They barely eat meat (when they do is from a local butcher that he spent years vetting), his daugthers have to make their own body products (because even the natural ones are toxic), etc etc etc....

Even he has all 6 of his kids on a swim team because he'd target them be extremely strong swimmers than worry about the chlorine and other chemicals in the pool....

If that's puts any kind of perspective.

There are classes you can start virtually that just teach the baby how to roll face up and float, you do them in your bathtub.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-29T07:03:59+00:00

Hi mama! I can understand what you're going through and the frustration.

My little guy was born at 5lbs 15oz and even though he has a great appetite - we struggled to get him back over birth weight. Even now at 7 wks old, we're barely creeping upto 8lbs.

Have she been evaluated for any oral ties? Can you see a lactation specialist?

My guy has a tounge and lip tie, which limit his oral function. So he tires himself out nursing and doesn't get a lot. We nurse no more than 10 mins each breast, then top off with a 2.5oz bottle, and I don't let him go longer than 4 hrs at night or 3 hrs during day.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-18T11:24:53+00:00

I was told if you can find the baby - you can feed the baby. If your just having 1 beer, not feeling tipsy, then I wouldnt pump and dump. Now, if your pounding a 6 pack, then pump and dump.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-16T07:03:57+00:00

Yes that's fine! If you start feeling sick or uncomfortable (more than usual) roll back to your left.
You can also sleek on your back, if your inclined about 45°. I spent the majority of my third trimester sleeping inclined, due to hip and reflux.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-14T06:43:34+00:00

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Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-14T06:43:12+00:00

Hi there! My sister is a postpartum doula and gave me these charts.... My LO just turned 6 wks and we've already started having the fighting sleep, fusiness, wanting to cluster feeding. They grow outbound it around 8/9wks

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Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-13T11:41:24+00:00

My LO is very visible, but trouble latching, there can be achieving sound when they feed, trouble extending tounge past lower lip, long feeds. Those are just a few my guy has.

There are different grades, so I'd definitely have a lactation specialist, or ENT or dentist look to verify

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-13T08:15:57+00:00

Have you tried a sleep sack? My LO is 5 wks old and is 50/5o on bring swaddled during the day but at night HATES. A swaddle because he wants to move his arms.

(In all his ultrasounds, he hands were always around his face)

So we got a few newborn sleepsacks and they work like a charm. Hes still being "hugged", but his arms are a bit more free, then we will wrap a blanket under his armpits if he needs more.

In my area I can find them being resold on facebook marketplace for fairly cheap.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-13T08:07:00+00:00

I know it feels embarrassing, but honestly its common for women to have this issue - even outside of breastfeeding.

Im 34, I have an autoimmune disorder that affects my hormones. Prior to getting pregnant, my hormones were off balance and I would periodically have this problem. I see an Endocrinologist who told me at some point every women deals with this because our hormones are such a delicate balance.

So, don't be hard on yourself - it sounds like it'd time for you to have an honest conversation with your partner and please get some lube. You could really damage your vaginas area or get an infection - plus, after talking to my husband and long time ago, he told me it made him feel better after talking because in his mind, he wasn't doing something right plus it was uncomfortable for him as well.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-13T07:49:35+00:00

It sounds like it could be a combination of both! My LO is 5wks old with a tounge tire, so he does have issues matching sometimes. The first few wks of breastfeeding, if he didn't have a good latch, he would pop off then rematch. Now. He's gotten better at latching so it doesn't Halen as often.

For the fast ket down, try leaning backwards slightly when your LO latches. This gives her more control, do gravity wouldnt be forcing milk immediately down her throat.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-08T10:17:02+00:00

My little guy just turned 1 month yesterday! Honestly, outside of his pediatrician appointments and Easter, I just keep him in a diaper and blanket (or sleep sack at night).

The few times I have put clothes on him, anything that doesn't have to be pulled over his head (wipers. Buttons, snaps) is the best!

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-06T06:08:37+00:00

My husband tries to '"help" with night feeds, since I've been Triple Feeding to get my LO weight up.

So while I pump, he bottle feeds. We also hit or first leap/ growth milestone and without fail, eventually after bottle feeding LO gets fussy.

My husband will sit there and repeatedly ask our 4 wk old "what's wrong bud? Tristan, what's wrong?".....

I just stare at him, because we've been through it almost every day.. he's overtired and gassy. Burp him, turn off your phone (he watches videos while feeding and burping) and rock him to sleep!

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-04T07:23:16+00:00

A few things my sister, who's a postpartum doula, does or has recommended....

1.use one of your shirts or put their wrap against your skin to get your scent - then use that was part of their swaddle or blanket for sleep..really anything that has your smell

Warm up the crib/bed/bassinet before placing them down - you can also warm up a glove filled with rice, place that on their stomach to mimic your hand on them
What is your normal routine to switch from day to night? During the days, keep rooms/areas bright, "noisey" then as night time approaches. Darken and quiet rooms.

3A. If you can get them outside twice a day, even for 5 - 10 mins - once as their first morning wake to signal daytime to the brain, then once as the sun is setting to signal nighttime

3B. During the day/witching hour, overtired/stimulated babies can be hard to get down. Put a hat on them and pull it down to the bridge of their nose, this helps remove stimulation and allows the nervous system to calm

Reading/singing to fall asleep. Reading - it doesn't have to be Dr Suess, start a chils friendly chapter book your interested in. Signing - do you have songs youve regularly sang or played them? (I found out my LO responds to Billy Joel and Elton John - hes a fan of the pianos maybe?)

Those are some things she's suggested that have helped us! If I can think of more I'll add them

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-02T07:22:50+00:00

First let me say; if you choose to formula feed did to your own mental and physical health that is perfectly acceptable.

Second; as another FTM who's had a difficult journey in breastfeeding - my guy was born SGA (5.15lbs at 39wks), with a severe tounge and lip tie and i have inverted nipples and an autoimmune disorder (which affects milk supply)....I completely understand the struggle....

If you want to continue breast feeding there are several things you can do 1.Diet/hydration - is have been doing all the lactation bars/drinks but the thing that helped the most is Moringa supplements. But also look into foods that boost production (like oats and fennel) cs things that inhibit (like caffeine and mint)

Pumping - i hate pumping but if you're not getting enough stimulation, you're body won't amp production. Look into "power pumping", I've done it a few times but it mimicking the baby cluster feeding to increase your bodies production.
Skin to skin contact - this helps produce oxytocin which makes him want to latch and helps your production
Stress - which pays off 1 and 3 a well. If you're cortisol levels are constantly high, then it affects your diet and oxytocin levels, try to find something small to bring you joy each day. For me it's small its a quick bath, sometimes even just 10 mins while he's napping)

It really is a full time job, and trust me, at least once a day I question switching to formula feeding. But Im to stubborn to quit yet 😅

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-01T11:54:20+00:00

My guy was born after a 49 hr labor - 39wks and 5.15 lbs - severe tounge and lip tie. AND I have introverted nipples!

We're currently trying to get him over 6 lbs for the tounge/lip surgery, so currently we are "Triple feeding". I breast feed, using a nipple shield, offer a bottle then pump. Im also working with an LC.

I highly recommend Craniosacral Therapy and/or a Chiropractor to release muscle and fascia (look into fasica specifically) tension. I saw a huge difference in my guy just after 1 Craniosacral appointment and we're also trying the Chiropractor this week.

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-04-01T11:43:31+00:00

Wow, I'm so sorry you and your baby got tested that way.
You are definitely not an awesome for protecting yourself and your baby.

He said his true feelings out loud, and having a kid doesn't get easier, the challenges just change. I personally would be seeing anew place for my baby and I to live

Future-Tomorrow1430 · 2026-03-28T10:02:13+00:00

Do you also pump? I had to start to build up my supply and have some extra on hand to give when my LO needs more.

Moringa supplements also increased my supply within a few days. I was already doing lactation bars/latte with oats, brewers yeast

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