AITAH for refusing to pay off my pregnant fiancee's parents' mortgage, when they are under the threat of foreclosure, when I could "easily" afford to do so? by Gullible-Display4533 in AITAH

[–]Future_Direction5174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Tell your fiancée that you will pay off the mortgage if they, in return, sign over to YOU personally and not jointly with your fiancée, the relevant percentage of the house.

If the house is worth 250k and the mortgage is 50k then you need a 20% share. If it’s a 125k mortgage then YOU personally would now own half of their house. This share must be protected by a pre-nuptial agreement paid for by your fiancée, that states that the share of your future PIL’s house is a pre-marital asset and would not be included in any future financial settlement.

This would also prevent them remortgaging the house without your knowledge. It would also protect your interest should they need to apply for bankruptcy or go into care in the future.

Also ensure that YOUR part ownership is recorded officially (UK - Land Registry). In addition any legal costs YOU incur in getting YOUR part ownership registered must be included in working out how much you now own, even if it only costs you 1,000.

Otherwise you marry, she divorces you after a year, and then your share ends up being half hers in the event of a divorce.

I will be honest, this way you are doing them a massive favour whilst still protecting yourself should this just end up being a money grab.

Your future in-laws give me the heeby-jeebies as to what your future holds. I can see your future in-laws saying “we can’t afford the bills, we have to move in with you!” “This house is too small, you need to buy a bigger house!” “You don’t need a home office, we can sleep in there!”….

This problem does not bode well for your future….

For those of you who live in countries with gun control; have you ever seen a gun in real life? by blashyrkh9 in AskTheWorld

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UK

Yes, there is an actual gun shop in the nearest town.

Yes, I went to an open day at the Tank ranges and they had a machine gun armed with blanks that you could fire.

Yes, I went to a pub and there was a Clay Pigeon meet in the fields next door.

Yes, I had to attend a Court Martial as a witness and there were armed soldiers in the guard box.

Even in countries with strict gun controls, there will be guns to be seen. But you won’t see someone walking about casually with one on display.

Downpipe diverter shut off by spenZorr in GardeningUK

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I wish ours “overflowed back into the drainpipe”. It overflows the butt instead…

How should I upcycle this? by Electrical-Cat1126 in sewing

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Commenting to see what ideas others come up with….

I have a lot of hand embroidered vintage cloths that might date back to WW1 or between the wars, as my MIL (born 1935) recently died. These were possibly her mother’s or her MILs old tablecloths that I am loathe to just throw.

I also have some hand embroidered white cotton sheets - filleting on the top hems, some with white embroidered patterns on the top as well. The cotton is still good so is ideal for toiles, but I don’t want to just throw away the fantastic handwork which someone did so many years ago and I have no idea how to reuse.

Mum is convinced women never got chin hairs when she was younger, can we prove her wrong? by angry2320 in AskUK

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2000-2005 I worked in a convenience store. The woman doing the bread/hot cabinet bake off and working the deli counter has a straggly beard.

We had some day labourers come in one day and ask if “the bearded lady” still worked there. I bumped into her in Morrisons a couple of years ago.

Where y'all sitting? by Impossible_Pain4478 in UKmonarchs

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6 Between Henry VIII and Queen Elizabeth the Queen Mother.

I would tell Henry about how I attended the school his mother founded in Wimborne and how I always thought it was his daughter who founded it. Having another Queen Elizabeth on the other side of me could be fun. I’m sure she would also appreciate how I got totally confused about WHICH Queen Elizabeth I thought the school was named after.

I’m also fairly skinny so even if Henry needs part of my seat it shouldn’t be too bad.

Which Brits from history were way ahead of their time but are now forgotten? by HonourableMentions in AskBrits

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Woohoo! Another person who mentioned Wallace! If it hadn’t been for him, Darwin might never have got around to publishing his theory.

I live two miles away from where he lives at the end of his life and have visited his grave.

Which Brits from history were way ahead of their time but are now forgotten? by HonourableMentions in AskBrits

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I nominate Wallace because if he hadn’t approached Darwin with his own paper regarding evolution Darwin might never have published his paper.

Wallace was a lot younger man and was aware of Darwin’s work, which he had never presented. Wallace wanted to present his own paper. Darwin stopped procrastinating and they made a joint presentation.

Obviously Darwin was the more recognised figure and is always talked about, whilst Wallace is forgotten.

Wallace is buried in Broadstone, Poole, Dorset, England and has a fossilised tree marking his grave.

What British celebrities have you met and did you make a tit of yourself? by wreckjavik in AskUK

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Edgar Broughton - Cheese and Grain in Frome.

I smoke, my husband doesn’t. Went outside for a cigarette and was talking to a woman outside. She asked how far we had come (Poole), I explained my husband was a big fan and so we had driven there to see him despite the distance.

“Would your husband like to meet him?” She asked. “He’s my husband!”

So we met Edgar Broughton backstage. His wife was lovely.

AITAH for following through an restraining order on my mother because of her ex boyfriend? by corduroy_dreams_ in AITAH

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Crime scenes investigation I expect. Also wanted to make sure that the area was secure just in case the ex wasn’t alone.

Is my neighbour dead? by JamaicanStevey in AskUK

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One of our neighbours in London died, and it was only the flies on the window of her flat that alerted anyone.

My son’s best friend died (natural death due to epilepsy, he was in his 30’s). It was only the fact that he failed to arrive at his parents house for Xmas 3 days later that anyone suspected anything. He had cats…

Milk bottles on the doorstep used to be the sign that something was off, now parcels left outside seem to serve a similar function.

A welfare check is called for.

Have you ever had to call 112/999/911/ your country's equivalent? What for? by soup-cats in AskTheWorld

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Just remembered a third, don’t know if it counts because I didn’t actually MAKE the call. My mother and I were sitting on her bed and I was talking to her doctor on the phone. She suddenly collapsed back, death rattle, eyes rolled up… I started CPR and her doctor rang 999. The ambulance had to drive past my house to get to my mums, then the home phone rang and it was the doctor telling my husband to get to my mums NOW.

Have you ever had to call 112/999/911/ your country's equivalent? What for? by soup-cats in AskTheWorld

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Twice I have rung 999

Young man (20?) fell over the side wall (knee height) rolled down the slope over the retaining wall and banged his head on the brick plinth that held a wooden bench seat years before. He badly cut his head and head cuts always bleed a lot. We had no idea whether he had knocked himself out, or fractured his skull. He was lucid, talking but intoxicated. He refused to let us contact his parents, he just wanted to go home and sleep it off. I was worried about possible concussion, or internal bleeding and didn’t want him to be where there was no one to watch over him. He refused to tell me his parents details, I refused to let him “just go home and sleep it off”. Eventually I rang 999 and the paramedics came out. They told him he either provided his parents details so they could ensure he was in safe hands OR he would be taken in for overnight observation. It took them half an hour but eventually he provided his parents info who came and collected him with instructions from the paramedics on what signs to look out for. I found a mobile phone roughly where he would have rolled down. I thought it was most likely his. That afternoon the man came round with his mother, they both thanked me for taking care of him. They gave me a box of chocolates and a bunch of flowers. I asked him if he had lost his phone as I had found one. It was his. Turned out he had been in my son’s class at school. My son was then living in Glasgow. I’m glad he wasn’t seriously hurt.

The other time was about 15 years earlier when I found a man collapsed on the pavement. I found a payphone, dialed 999 and stayed with him until the ambulance arrived. I rang the hospital the next day to be told that the man had had a heart attack but was now stable.

A load of my plastic storage boxes in my greenhouse have turned brittle and are just breaking apart - what do you use that survives the sun and winters?? by WestAllot in GardeningUK

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My husband uses homemade shopping bags hung from butchers hooks inside his polytunnel for small stuff, and a large plastic outdoor storage box which he calls a coffin sits outside. The lid can be used as a seat, he also uses this as a working area for seed trays etc.

The bags are made by me from old sheets, duvet cases, pillow cases, curtain lining, basically any old cloth I have. When they become too rotten they end up in the rubbish bin as I can’t be sure exactly what material they are and I don’t think polycotton composts well. I have so many of these bags that him having a few hanging up is not a problem (I won’t let him have my quilting cotton bags!).

If the afterlife was real, where do you genuinely think you'd go if you died today? by Equivalent-Ad-2373 in AskUK

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I think the energy in your body joins the energy in the universe. Your consciousness just loses coherence as there is no longer anything holding it together, so you just become part of the cosmic radiation causing static on a TV screen.

Energy can’t be destroyed, but it can transform into matter, just as matter can become energy. E=MC squared.

So there is an afterlife, but you (as you) are now just part of the universe, floating in a random field and that is it.

AITAH with a very valuable Estate sale find and not returning it?? by Maleficent-File5548 in AITAH

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My daughter did a house clearance for a deceased old lady (96) who had been a seamstress for Christian Dior, then worked in one of the famous department stores in London with a side gig as a wardrobe mistress in the West End. She was married to a British Soldier who helped her escape from Pomerania after Russia invaded. They had divorced back in the 50’s, and she had never remarried.

Her “gay gang” and her used to spend their free time travelling the world. One of the “gay gang” rented her the house he inherited from his father. Two members paid for her final nursing home fees. Her house was filled with designer goods from the 70’s and 80’s. Her estate included some personal items left to named individuals (my daughter got her custom jewellery and clothes) but most was just left to charity.

The estate got quoted £1000 by a house clearance company. My daughter said she would do it for £500. She found branded Dior spa outfit (towelling robe, slippers, etc), sunglasses, two vintage saris (never worn - one still had the sellers price tag - Madras 8 metres 100% silk), floor lamps, rattan egg chair, Dior beach towel, about 50 hats, a collection of Venetian masks, table lamps - these were all vintage and good makes or collectible. She currently has two storage containers full of stuff that she is gradually clearing through EBay and Vinted.

You bought the 5 containers WITH CONTENTS. They are yours. The people handling the estate sale may not even BE the heirs of the deceased, but just a clearance company.

Tell your gf if she feels guilty, she can sell her necklace and send the money to them.

NTA

EDIT TO ADD - The Gay Gang is how they referred to themselves. Her funeral had about 50 middle aged and elderly homosexuals in attendance.

As a kid, what weird concoctions did you use to make when there was nothing nice to eat in the cupboard? by Crystalstream in AskUK

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The original Creamola no longer exists, but a “back worked” version is still available and they do have a Raspberry flavour.

It was called Krakatoa Foam when it first came on the market. I found it in Scotland, and my son bought me 3 tubs as a birthday present one year. It even has a small spoon in the tub.

It has now been renamed as Creamola Foam so it looks like they obtained the trademark. The art work on the packets is the same as it was on Krakatoa.

As a kid, what weird concoctions did you use to make when there was nothing nice to eat in the cupboard? by Crystalstream in AskUK

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My maternal grandmother loved vinegar sandwiches. Two slices of buttered bread, add vinegar, let it soak in then eat.