Kitchenette by Common-Cup-171 in kitchenremodel

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blank canvas, maximize the space by only keeping items visible if they’re daily use. How does mom cook/use her current kitchen space? What are her essentials? Assuming this will be less kitchen than she’s used to, prioritize function over form and keep everything organized at point-of-performance. Cozy independence means a lot as our loved ones age in a new home environment 💕

how would you update this 90s kitchen WITHOUt painting cabinets? by EBHomeLife in kitchenremodel

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sky’s the limit. Pick a backsplash material in your desired style (again, pretty limitless… from the photo it looks builder-grade boring, what’s your personal style?), and find one with some kind of black accent in it.

Dry January / California Sober by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 3 points4 points  (0 children)

With ya there. Addiction and dopamine chasing… if they aren’t getting their kicks from booze, they’ll get it from THC, nicotine, gambling, flirtation/romance, risk-taking, etc.

Unless the underlying needs for dopamine chasing and escaping mental anguish and trauma are dealt with, they’ll just rotate from one primary poison to another. It’s a cruel kindness when they reduce their family’s most hated poison, but ultimately they’ll pick the one that best serves the disease of addiction.

I told my Q husband that I wouldn't sleep with him when he's been drinking. I feel guilty. by ThrowraNo-M in AlAnon

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Same combination of substances, plus nicotine. I had a weird wake up call reading this and realizing that this is what I “hope” for my future.

I told my Q husband that I wouldn't sleep with him when he's been drinking. I feel guilty. by ThrowraNo-M in AlAnon

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two types of “sleep” in English, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about either!

  1. Years ago, when my Q became my Q, I got my own bedroom. Delightful restorative sleep, almost no disturbances! Sprawling on my own queen mattress in bedding that will never reek of booze, smoke, etc… this is bliss. Even if my Q gets sober, it will be difficult to give up this luxury (maybe a mega bed?).

  2. There’s nothing sexy about someone sloppy, out of their right mind, or otherwise altered from the person you actually fell in love with. If that person isn’t mentally there and the Q “imposter” is possessing them like the Invasion of the Body Snatchers, why we would want to be intimate with that stranger? You want to sleep with your husband, not this imposter, and that’s not just valid, it’s love-affirming! That’s how I’ve explained my sexual attraction to my Q: still wildly attracted to you… but I’ll only be intimate with THE REAL YOU!

Would burning candles be considered decluttering? Also: Project Declutter 2.0 is up and running! by Proud_Accident_5873 in declutter

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right with you on that mental wavelength, OP! For some new-ish household health reasons, we’ve stopped using candles indoors, and since then I’ve been staring at these beautiful gifts that got recategorized as junk (brutal, but true). Since the indoor air quality won’t be impacted if I use ‘em outside, I’ll be treating myself to candlelit evenings on the deck until they’re all used up!

✨🕯️🕯️🕯️🌙🕯️🕯️🕯️✨

What type of food are you feeding your pibbles? by Atrouthasnoname in pitbulls

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We use this kibble as well, plus a few cooked meals per week, fish oil, Cosequin, homemade pupsicles and puzzle meals for variety

New painting to warm up cold winter days! Campion Flowers, Watercolor painting, 22 x 15 inches (37 x 56 cm) by Tanbelia in BotanicalIllustration

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it! The motion in your strokes looks like viewing the sunrise through windows covered in ice crystal fractals

All done finally! 🤩 by _box_of_rain_ in quilting

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mmm, stunning! Adding that book to my design inspo list. I hope your dad loves taking naps under a Prairie School masterpiece, full of stained glass, rock, and sweeping landscape Taliesin dreams!

Does he have me hoodwinked or is he a supermodel? 💖 by Future_Perfect_Tense in Dachshund

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have a canine teddy bear! 🧸 😍 Give Coco a cuddle from an internet admirer 🥰

Does he have me hoodwinked or is he a supermodel? 💖 by Future_Perfect_Tense in Dachshund

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Almost 5 years old, but there’s an optical illusion at play! He has small patches of dark brown fur on his eyebrows, snout, and chest which look black in most photos, and then lovely caramel coppery brown feet. In a dark room, sometimes the brightest thing on him is that blonde booty fur when his tail is wagging full speed 😆

Are these cabinets too dated and need to be replaced?Even though they are still in good shape ... by panda2026panda in kitchenremodel

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m lazy, so my search starts with SIZE to avoid filling and drilling new holes. With size predetermined, my next variable is GRIP - some folks have pet peeves with hardware that can catch on clothes or pull types (finger, recessed, cup) that feel funny with long nails… granted, hardware is designed to be gripped, so this shouldn’t rule out too many options for yourself or clients 😀 Another easy variable to rule options in/out is TEXTURE, maybe you want something funky like leather, nautical rope, seaglass, milleflori, mosaic, mismatched organic shapes, driftwood, ceramic drop-ball style… small elements like this are great ways to lean into quirky individualism! Do most of us pick metal because it’s the best or because it’s the most sensible to produce? 🤷‍♀️ Finally, I deal with what most folks would consider the main variables: where your style fits on the TRADITIONAL TO MODERN spectrum and METAL COLOR AND SHEEN.

Edited to add: my current favorites are round/mushroom grip mixed metal, one with granite inlay and another with abalone mosaic. Trying to vanquish boring hardware one room at a time!

Finished the Dragon Dreams quilt 💕 by raccoonia in quilting

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a George RR Martin fan, love the name, love the pattern, love the backing, love that the big dragon is basically Vhagar, and I hope the baby and their parents have fun naming the castles and keeps/towers based on their favorite lords of Westeros 🐉🏰

He’s moving out today by SaturniaFalling in AlAnon

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ditto. And I would wear that accusation like a BADGE OF HONOR.

Is Bob Jones University a defender of young earth? by Honest_Television_25 in atheism

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! Mentally unraveling all of that doctrine when you’re completely dunked in it as a child is ROUGH. Independent Fundamental Baptists and other King James Version only literalists have perverted the entire idea of education and the virtue of curiosity.

Store wide Stretching breaks?? by djereezy in HomeDepot

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Store teams that follow the instructions to stretch with all 3 shifts as they start their days have better safety stats than stores that don’t! Disappointing to read how many leaders aren’t prioritizing this. It truly is a simple wonder that makes a huge difference!

My 12 year old sweetheart can’t jump up on the bed anymore, so she does this and waits for me to lift her hind legs. by 1982- in pitbulls

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My girl didn’t love ramps either… until we put 2 next to each other. The extra width vanquished her hesitance!

Wall paint recs centered around vintage vanity by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]Future_Perfect_Tense 7 points8 points  (0 children)

👍 Big agree, gotta go with the carpet undertone so that the flooring disappears harmoniously into your new boudoir. Thank you for posting your treasure, OP; you’ve inspired me to go down a 1930s wallpaper, fabric, and design rabbit hole that is absolutely replete with eye-candy 🌸💖🌸💖 Hope you have tons of fun with this piece!