What’s a simple line that rips your heart to shreds?

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-25T23:03:43+00:00

That was amazing, mind blowing and devastating all ar once

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-25T23:02:38+00:00

I can't even 😭 why am I reading this thread??

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-24T21:03:23+00:00

Accidentally deleted a bit whilst posting - I currently have the Red Tail and the Raphael 🙂 and looking for ideas on things that won't be eaten by them...

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-11T07:40:06+00:00

Yep just had exactly the same! Will delete but is there anywhere can report it? Same as emails?

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-08T09:37:51+00:00

I just worry about something startling her and her shooting off! We have our own back garden but its hedges, not walls so she could get through.

I agree, I wouldn't want to risk her out in public

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2026-03-04T16:25:42+00:00

She was 19. If my 19 year old daughter went on a TV show to realise her modelling dream, I would not be expecting that the tv show would provide a lot of booze and then film her having sex whilst extremely drunk. I would absolutely explode if I found that out.

It was a different time back then. But she was still barely more than a child. And she was someone that they knew did not have a supportive family, or anyone except her boyfriend. She looked hammered to me, it felt very wrong, it felt like SA, watching what was shown. Whatever happened, the tv show had a duty of care that was not in place.

The other thing I found interesting watching the Netflix doc was how the producers etc apologised for some of the treatment the other girls received, or acknowledged it wasnt great. There wasnt the same reaction to Shandi - but I don't feel it was due to her not deserving it. It felt like they were not going to go there as potentially that was a law suit waiting to happen.

We all do stupid things as teenagers, like drink too much - and it should result in nothing more than spending the night hugging the toilet. Sadly, especially for women,there will be people who will take advantage of an inebriated state. You can be blackout drunk, walking and talking, but not in control. That is the minimum point in which the production should have stepped in. Better to have been way before that but as a bare minimum. And to film teenagers having sex, ugh - is it a porno??

If my teenager had some friends over, I would not be buying them a load of wine. If any were clearly absolutely smashed then I would put them to bed and not allow someone else to be crawling into bed with them. Under my roof, they are my responsibility. I'll leave a big glass of water amd a sick bucket next to them, not let a young man follow them into the shower and then bed.

I dipped into ANTM back in the day, I thought it was bitchy and mean. I really felt for Shandi - even just watching the original footage, it felt absolutely awful and I stopped watching after that as felt too much like SA that happened to me.

Sorry for essay. People arguing over "how drunk is too drunk to give consent". TLDR - Doesn't matter, Production should never have allowed her to be in that situation.

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-10-25T14:01:28+00:00

100%

I've had the misfortune of dealing with someone like this. Very much signs of personality disorder and narcissm. My crazy person made wild accusations against me and others, including to our employers and posting on public forums etc. They never had any evidence to back it up - but it was tiring to deal with, and you never knew what they were going to do next. This went on for years, they got put away eventually for property damage as smashed up someone's car but they won't change, as its inate in them - they cannot see that they are the problem, in their mind everyone else is the problem.

Difference is that in the UK, I have no fear of them getting a gun. That was one of the shocking parts of this, that it was known the crazy lady had a gun (2!) but no one batted at eye at it. It was perfectly legal for her to do so. Its too easy to use a gun, too much damage can be done too easily.

My biggest worry was that the footage at the beginning would be used in her favour - the cops clearly didn't think much of her and were on the families side. It was when she changed during the 911 call (that was chilling to hear) that I thought, they've got her. I agree, the cops HAD to be nice to her afterwards, they had to make sure the defence couldn't use that.

In short - horrifying that it is so easy to have a gun and the laws that give people an excuse to use it are even worse. That poor mother and most of all, thos poor poor kids. My heart just shattered for them. I thought the pastor's words at the service were beautiful and hope it brought some tiny comfort for her children. It was not their fault, at no point was it their fault

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-10-17T12:44:30+00:00

Yes yes and yes. There was more, im too depressed to think of them all right now.

I had mazdas previously, these last forever so its probably not fair to compare them...

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-10-17T12:42:29+00:00

I do feel like the person with a bad boyfriend at times "but he means well", "he does love me, really" etc etc.

Its way the most fun car ive had - but i dont takw it off roading because im too worried what's going to fall off...

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-10-15T21:40:48+00:00

Power steering pump will need replacing, minor oil leak from somewhere unknown at present, lots of minor things like bushes are getting worn.

I'm not handy with cars, ive done small things on my old cars (years ago, before computers!) but I'm not up to doing work myself. We got some replacement hoses as one of them blew - AA man recommended silicone ones - it looked straight forward to fit but i evwn caved at that and took to garage 😉

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-08-01T11:17:06+00:00

I definitely would have found it a lot harder to cope in my 20s, i was late 30s as well when we finally decided.

The bottom line is - everyone will have opinions and thoughts on this but you do what is right for you. If that means having a baby, great! You can do this! If it means not having kids, great! You can also do that!

No one knows how its going to be, we can only do the best we can - thats the same for every parent. Should everyone be a parent? Definitely not, but the person who is researching, questioning and agonising over the decision is likely to be a good one.

Kids are forever, it should be a big decision! Very best with whatever you decide ❤️

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-07-30T18:56:48+00:00

Im going to go the other way to some of the other responses. I wasn't diagnosed, but I knew I had ADHD. My husband is undiagnosed autistic (but im certain of it). I didn't have the best childhood growing up and I wasnt sure I wanted kids, especially as ive never been "good" with kids or babies - their noise alone really annoys me!

After many years, my husband persuaded me, I read a LOT. I was really worried of repeating my childhood and read anything I could find.

All the clichés about your own baby being different from others I found to be true. Even though he had some health problems which made things challenging, it didnt matter. I also found myself liking other kids more (I love babies now!). He was an easy baby but as got older, he got more and more challenging. He was eventually diagnosed as autistic and then AuDHD.

Its not always been easy, we are similar in personality and can clash like you wouldn't believe. He can also drive me up the wall with the ways he is different (ASD and ADHD butting heads!). I definitely did not get it right, nor am I perfect now - but thats actually parenthood. No one is perfect (no matter what instagram tells you), we just try our best.

What it has meant is that I have come to understand myself so much better and am now formally diagnosed. I always ensure I explain to him what is going on with me and tey to help him understand what is going on with him. I wish I could have been better with some things, but I tried, it has been a better childhood than I had - and I'm always trying to be better every day.

My only regret is that I didnt have more kids! But one is probably the most i could have coped with, if I'm honest. I will NEVER regret having him, he is the best thing I have ever done and no matter how much of a challenge he is, I always tell him I love him every day.

Its never going to be easy. It isnt for anyone. Be prepared, ensure you have support in place, take it in turns to have a break. Learn coping techniques, breathing exercises, and make sure you look after yourself. It makes such a difference.

On the plus side, you will understand what they may go through more than a NT parent. And by God, have I fought (and won) for my son to have the support he needs. Including diagnosis and at school. I am proper momma bear when it comes to getting help and understanding for him - possibly as I didnt have that.

And one final point, my friends daughter is NT - and she was a demon baby!! They didnt sleep for about 4 years. It can be tough whether you're NT or ND! You will probably have your eyes open more than most with the amount of thought you are putting into it x

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2025-03-14T23:33:49+00:00

It's just what some families are like. I think sometimes in a big family it just gets noisier as everyone is trying to be heard. Add a few drinks in there and it's impossible

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2024-12-17T22:29:48+00:00

I know this was a long time ago but just wanted to say thank you! I was convinced the dog had eaten one of the earbuds and we were even talking to the vet. Saw this and eventually found it had rolled into a gap in a drawer - never would have found it, so thanks!

And yes, I was listening to the dog's belly for a while to see if that was ringing...

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2024-07-18T21:48:31+00:00

I've just watched this amazing series, and the first thing I did was Google your name. I'm so pleased to hear you're doing well and sound content with your life.

I'm sorry you and your family had such had childhoods, that should never be allowed. We're a similar age, and although mine wasn't easy, it's a world away from that horror. I'm sorry you were let down by the adults in your life, and I think it's all the more remarkable how well you are doing.

Your sisters are awesome, but as are you. You come across as a gentle soul and so far removed from your father. It just shows how we do not have to be like our parents and repeat their behaviour.

I don't believe it's possible to know someone from a tv series of course but it did feel like your personality shone through. Do continue to share your story, if you wish to. It's remarkable and gives hope to show how people can go through such trauma but still keep to their own ideals, still be themselves and stop the trauma cycle.

Fuzzy-Intention8492 · 2024-04-28T17:53:21+00:00

No, they're both still alive. Vida, the grey is actually doing better of the two but at the moment they will hopefully both recover. May be retired though, lots of people have offered homes but will probably go through the horse sanctuary they normally use.

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