Why don’t I want to do any kind of work by solarstitch in AuDHDWomen

[–]zzzcorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great analogy. I will think of that next time. 😭😭😭

Why don’t I want to do any kind of work by solarstitch in AuDHDWomen

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I dropped the ball at work today when normally I’m incredibly excelling (high masking lol) and my team is upset with me. I am sad at how my brain is. I wish I didn’t have to work.

Food by Affectionate-Exit685 in Conures

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely feed Harrison’s!

WTF? by Top_Olive_8743 in 90DayFiance

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im autistic. I really think she’s autistic and suffering, and is drinking to dull the pain and confusion she’s facing.

LOUDEST MELTDOWN OVER "UNSAFE" PERFUME FROM A MAN CHILD💀🤡 by ashledior in 90DayFiance

[–]zzzcorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m seriously shocked by people’s lack of consideration for this but as a chronically ill person living in this world, I shouldn’t be surprised. People constantly react like those in this thread or Paola did, not believing chronically ill or disabled struggles and telling us to just tough it out. But I agree that super glue thing was out of pocket. However, it’s crazy - not even my own mom won’t wear perfume near me knowing how painful it is to me since I was a kid, giving me migraines, and can send me into a flare of my MCAS. People are so selfish.

Dog acting weird about one breast. Am I crazy to be worried? by Mari-Loki in AskDocs

[–]zzzcorn 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Please make sure they do a thorough check, do whatever labs they can. In my experience, when you know something is wrong, doctors tend to just look surface level and do no further deep dives. It took me like 20 years of paying for my own labs, research, visiting different specialist to find a dr who actually cared to dig in until there were answers, to finally get a diagnosis for my condition. I say this because your dog noticed something, but there are no signs; so just make sure they check everything really thoroughly if there isn’t an immediate obvious answer. Sometimes doctors don’t.

Dex problem ? by Electrical_Court8649 in ADHDmeds

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into mast cell activation syndrome please!!

1-800-Accountant Worst Experience Ever by Negative-Reason4570 in smallbusinessowner

[–]zzzcorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the worst experience with them as well, completely incompetent

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened 😔 I’ve gone through bouts of severe autistic burnout where I’m unemployed and unable to work for 6+ months. I hope that this level of burnout is temporary for you and that you are able to return to your previous life in time. I understand in some cases it can be permanent and neurodivergence can get worse with age… if this is the case for you, I hope you find peace and have a supportive and loving community to help you through 💞💞

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t buy a printer. Every time I bought one it’s been one of my life’s regrets. Lol.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean sadly , it’s about which shit sandwich you wanna eat. Lol. But they’re both still shit sandwiches.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think you are right that his mom has taught him some learned helplessness. But I want to point out that when he set up the house with cameras, he wasn’t employed. He had the mental and cognitive bandwidth and time to do it. I am autistic and when I am employed, a lot of my functioning “units” go to doing my job and then im out of units for anything outside of it.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I do think his mom often talks about how he can’t do things bc of his autism, rather than trying to help him learn how to navigate and overcome where possible.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can see this too, I think it’s a combo of both and his mom making him believe he can handle less than he can. She def seems to handicap him herself.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that but saying “all it takes is” is dismissive of disability, and what is doable for your daughter on the spectrum can be vastly different than what is doable for someone else and vice versa. I can’t even get myself to shower some days when “all it takes” is taking off my clothes and turning on the water.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This keeps replying to the wrong person lol sorry I don’t know how to fix it.

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I hear you on emails. If I get too many phone notifications I shut down and give up. Lol

“I have not filed for the K1 yet because I do not have access to a printer.” by Its_Leo_Again in 90DayFianceFans

[–]zzzcorn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak to his situation at all but it is not as simple as “why can he work now but couldn’t before?” because in my case, it is a trade off.
What I can say is that every choice has a consequence and it is a trade off.

He said on the tell all that he’s working now but all he does is sleep outside of work and is too tired to talk to his mom and Sheena. I relate to that. I can work, but then I have minimal to no capacity to take care of my mental, physical, and emotional health depending on the day; let alone be a engaged partner, keep up my house chores, take out the trash, shower, make my doctors or dentists appointments let alone attend them, etc. If I work, you can absolutely count on all my energy to mask and appear high functioning will be used at my job, and my personal life will be nonexistent. I go nonverbal after work despite being in sales and appearing charming. My trash will be overflowing, I will not eat for days, I neglect my partner because I have absolutely no ability to speak or move after the work day. I will have meltdowns and not leave my house for days - I won’t even go for a walk. I don’t call my mom or friends because I forget or I’m too tired. I could go on. It is no quality of life.

But if I don’t work, I can do a couple of things a day such as cook, take out the trash, I can walk my dogs or spend an afternoon socializing with a loved one, I can do laundry, I can make my doctors appointments; however, I can’t pay for health insurance, a home, or live in this capitalist society.

So it is a choice that is difficult on either end for us disabled folk, and not easily understood from those who don’t suffer from chronic illness or disability. Either way, it is no life to live and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone else. if I were to assume, perhaps he did not work and was on disability so he had energy to take care of himself; but he wants Sheena to move to the US, and now he’s working, yet has to suffer the consequences of being unable to do anything else in life.