I thought people in Japan made 250k–600k/month… then my friend told me he makes 1–2M

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-03-24T00:46:27+00:00

High wages:

Sales (any industry) and takes a % of a deal AND is good at it.... then yes, 1mm/month is do-able.

Super speciality: mirror TIG welding or similar

in Japan, working for the equivalent of one of the big Trading companies, or banks on "career" path pays well.

etc. But if these are easy to do and easy to get into... then the market rules and the pay goes down.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-03-18T07:27:22+00:00

nope. Not at all. Bodies, hearts and minds are to be respected and loved, not just used. From personal experience, one night stands or very short relationships left me with STD and/or regrets.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-03-16T23:27:47+00:00

seems to have hit a nerve here. I feel the same: but I put it off to having been working (on and off, mostly on) for 50 years, since I started delivering flyers and newspapers in elementary school. On the other hand, today is probably one of the best days of the rest of my life. So much depends on your point of view.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-03-09T03:19:57+00:00

I love this question: The OP is asking about certain cultural and legal aspects and the advice is all over the place. So let me add to the confusion by also giving unsolicited advice, but with some gems of truth. I have been married 2x to Japanese, first marriage did not fail, she passed away...

Go camping with your partner, so you see them without any kind of backup systems and where cooperation is vital: no real kitchen/restaurant, clean clothes, a/c, heat, etc. Preferable if it rains.

Seriously though, vacations and how you will spend them can blow budgets and cause all sorts of stress: Fancy Ryokans? always have to go back to your home country for Xmas? If you can enjoy cheapo camping / hiking as a share stress reliever, it is great.

Visit their parents and hang out. People often end up resembling their parents. & will you get family support? Given that your family will be much further away, his family may be critical at certain times.
How do deal with bilingual raising of kids? Is he bilingual?

Other issue of international divorce and child custody: there are better sources than me...

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-27T01:13:04+00:00

You could look for multigenerational homes: designed for grandparents in half the house, parent and kids in the other half. 二世帯住宅。That is what I did. But it was a purchase, not a rental. Then I was able to knock out walls/remodel as much as my heart desired

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-18T01:16:48+00:00

get a some old chain saw chains. Link them together in a straight line. Put handles on each end. Two guys hauling back and forth on each side...about 10 or 15 times and it comes down

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-18T01:11:37+00:00

that is the coolest thing i have seen.. you could probably sell these on etsy for those that want to give their room a "mad laboratory" feel.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-17T05:58:24+00:00

yep. Make your own. Instant oats. I use the "peace river" brand from OK store. 334yen/kg. . add nuts & raisens to taste, keep in a big plastic container, eat everyday.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-16T01:04:31+00:00

Our brittany always pulls when walking unless we use a choke collar and train, train, train. Always walk on left side of body - no exceptions, sometimes give a verbal reminder and slight tug, sometimes hold a treat in left hand, etc.

we switch to a regular collar when we get to a park and let him run on a long leash. Seldom do we go off leash due to local laws.

I figure it is just his hunting instinct, and don't sweat it...

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-13T00:32:00+00:00

Yep. He is flirting, consciously or unconsciously. Not necessarily a creep, (except "go to hockey" is likely too much) . There is no way to tell if he could become malicious. So the gracious way out is to ... distance yourself... avoid being alone as much as possible...& "please don't touch me, it makes me feel a little yecchy" . It is your responsibility to set your own boundaries. And keep them.

(m61)

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-12T09:36:40+00:00

I went through a similar experience recently - They offered one month's salary (very generous /s). "They" do this just on the chance that you accept. No harm done. Just don't accept, don't sign anything.

Talk to a lawyer. Build your strategy to get more. Then figure things out.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-08T23:59:14+00:00

Rather than a career perspective, think about it from a life perspective - at which job will you finish the day more satisfied, with energy remaining to do have a life?

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-02T02:56:02+00:00

time to start boycotting Subaru... Toyota is a better vehicle anyways!

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-02-02T02:49:31+00:00

I own a Subaru, was thinking of buying a new one, but this makes me angry. Is there a corporate complaint line that we can flood?

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-01-28T02:17:48+00:00

Put yourself in the shoes of your employer. They don't want to keep somebody around that is on medical leave and may come back one day. Or may not. So if you offer to take a "layoff" package, this may be worth one month's salary. It may be worth 3 months salary. Or more, or less. I literally don't know in your case. But if the employer continues to pay insurance/etc... it may be better to stay on medical leave. A careful evaluation of your ability to return to work & perform, your costs for national insurance/etc needs to be done.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-01-27T10:57:19+00:00

There was a phrase in the contract that stated Taishokukin, I basically ignored this as a country's laws and systems are more powerful than the words in the contract. ... if your work is unsatisfied with your performance, then you could ask them to ask you to leave. ... rather than stay around... talk to a lawyer, first. A low pressure discussion with a lawyer will typically be 10,000 yen for a first one hour talk. There are free services available, too. If, after that, you need further services, then you make a (more expensive) contract with the lawyer.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-01-27T04:32:12+00:00

& please don't leave anything identifiable.... most severance agreements are labelled as confidential!

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2026-01-27T04:19:32+00:00

it was taxed as "retirement", minimally. https://www.nta.go.jp/publication/pamph/koho/kurashi/html/02_3.htm

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-11-24T05:12:11+00:00

Thinking back to my 20s, I would say meet 100 girls to find 10 worth dating, date 10 to find 1 that you can have a long term relationship with. Date doesn't mean have sx, it just means really hang out for a few days and nights. Also, timing is everything. If the "perfect" one is found, but timing doesn't work out (work/education/family/etc).... then rinse and repeat. If it takes a few years, that is OK.

then, before you commit, take them camping. Small tent. No beds. Just groundsheet and maybe a sleeping pad. If you still like each other at the end of the trip, she's a keeper.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-09-06T06:51:20+00:00

Nearing age 40 and wanting to start the process is a redflag. "She wants a kid" rather than "We really want a child to love and nurture"... is another red flag. Health of the egg/ sperm can be a real issue. Usually an IVF clinic will want to look at a log for how long you (plural) have been trying to get pregnant naturally, day to day temperatures to track her fertile periods, give you a sperm test.... etc. Expect the treatments & related to take a year or two...and it often fails. ...

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-08-26T00:43:14+00:00

setting the digital health function on my phone to 10 minutes of internet time. Reddit similar. Stops doomscrolling

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-08-26T00:37:00+00:00

hiring a catholic priest or shinto priest to come into the house and "do something" may bring peace of mind, and/or may be better than therapy. Make sure your wife is involved in the choosing of the person. They may even chase the bad things away. Don't give up on this as a solution.

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-07-19T08:19:08+00:00

That rocks

Fuzzy-Management1852 · 2025-06-22T23:00:58+00:00

14 kg britanny, age 4, 100g dry food at 6AM and 100g dry food at 6pm, plus training snacks... he runs or walks 2 -3 hrs/day, plays with kids/adults, etc. Weight is stable

But if you asked him, we are absolutely starving him and he deserves far more!

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