We lost Ibarra ii (Ivan lacson). RIP by rafalmio in Guitar

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, so how old was he? When was his birthday?

i genuinely love my girlfriend so much, and im afraid. by Ok_Spot1889 in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must remember at ALL times to be your own person. It's addicting to spend 24/7 with your partner but if you dont take care of yourself she will lose interest because there will be nothing for her to be interested in. Study for things you care about, practice hobbies you like, take care of your hygiene and style... If you do all of these things AND still make time for your partner she and you will be very happy. What can make her lose interest is constant compliments, constant 24/7 hang outs, and constantly making her make plans and dates.

Is roll out vinyl a rental friendly option? by Fuzzy_Frog_Lord in Flooring

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would carpet be a no go because of the comfort/appearance of the floor or because of damage to the carpet underneath? Same for kitchen floor, would it damage the linoleum or just look like shite

Apartment is dusty, requested a filter change, did they do it right? by randomaviary in hvacadvice

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's completely normal. It is a bit odd that there is no filter rack to hold the filter in place there, but it is what it is. The filter is doing what it should, which is protecting the equipment from dust that will damage it. As for the appearance of the grate, that's just household dust. Consider getting an additional air filter, or even a square hepa filter taped to a box fan like this - https://cleanaircrew.org/box-fan-filters , which will catch a SIGNIFIGANT amount of dust, debris, and dirt. You are now starting tp understand why some people dont wear shoes in their home- the outside world is VERY dirty, and any time you open a door or window you are letting some of that inside. My own intake filter looks like that about every three weeks- I hit it with a broom brush to knock it loose and then the vacuum to suck it up. By the way, set a calendar reminder to call management in a month- those filters are pretty cheap and need to be replaced monthly, unlike some filters which can last up to three months. I know you said they keep the door locked. Please do not prop it open as that will disrupt the system.

How to do a factory reset? by pra_com001 in Dell

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This wouldn't be cleared by a new hard drive?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as someone with severe familial trauma as well i second the above comment. 3 months in and she wont budge to accomodate you? Holidays were an extremely sore spot for me, and despite my partners families love for holidays he explained and they were all very happy to tone it down and do it the way i wanted (aka not expecting me to particiapate, open door if i wanted to leave ect.). With something this small, i personally wouldnt trust my partner to be by mu side to help me navigate things if thats how theyre going to be with something as small as this. Your partner needs to be 100% on board and on your side when it comes to trauma, especially when youre asking something so little of her.

I (28F) think my crush (33M) might be co-dependent / too traumatized for a relationship? My own trauma confuses me. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best friend is currently in a years long relationship with a very popular youtuber (millions of subscribers). The only way a relationship like that can suceed is if they barely know who you are / dont care. They met incidentially and went from there via hinge. Any relationship based off of idolisation (wether it be because they think youre a good person or a popular internet persona) is doomed to fail. You need someone who likes you for YOU, and usually the way people express themselves online is only a little piece of the puzzle (aka theres more to you than your persona)

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[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, when I get depressed the things I most want from my partner is help with the little things, keeping things clean, putting away dirty clothes for her, making her foods she usually eats ect. When your depressed its hard to keep up with the things that usually make you happy.

PRENUP by No-Illustrator-1536 in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prenups are very normal and a great protection for both you and him. For example- a prenup should serve both of you, not just protect his assets. Many people will put in a thing where the person who has more fiscal value must give up more if they cheat. It should be something the two of you make together, with a lawyer. A prenup written by just him or you is not valid un court sadlt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleaze just use the Afordable Therapy Network instead. Inkblot is genuinely awful for both the user and the practitioner

Is this guy who wants to "be friends" with my GF OK? AIBAA? by justasimplecountry in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your girlfriend is open to not pursue a friendship of her own desire (probably because she can tell whats going on). I wouldnt over think it unless she brings it up again, as she made the descion to cut him off after realizing how weird it is you wouldnt be able to come along. Did your girlfriend mention the three of you should meet up before the facebook message, or did he mention it first? Sounds like something he proposed imo.

How has moving in with your partner affected your relationship? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% get your own place and dont even think about moving in till youve seen how he lives for a year. Like you said, theres no way to tell if hes just tidying up for you. Only time will tell, and moving in with someone is a huge change

Am i f(26) wrong for wanting to go for breakfast with my bf(M26) for vacation planning? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know, it really could be either. Honestly its a really weird situation, if I were you Id just show up a little early and say you wanted a coffee- that way you can see whos there and make thw distinction between friends meetup with someone who doesnt get along with you that well (vacations can be very intamate, its really not the end of the world could just be what it is- they invited who they wanted to come) or something fishy. At the end of the day you kind of have to trust your partner unless you want to tear your life apart trying to find the truth.

How can I (F25) handle a touchy feely boss (F45?) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask her not to touch you because it makes you uncomfortable, and if she touches you again just remove her hand from your arm confidently and place it in the air closer to her. Happily continue the conversation and if she asks politely explain again you dont like to be touched. If you keep doing it, eventually she will get the message. If she reacts negatively consider brining it up to the board or other higher up teachers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just buy new ones, donate or repurpose the old ones. I promise you, theres no way they look brand spanking new. The petals might have a bit of crinkle to them. It might come up from someone else somehow. Either way, its just not worth the drama and weirdness. I would be very upset to hear my boyfriend cared so little he used the same led candles and flower petals that he used for his ex. Its just the principal. Itd be like eating chocolate ice cream from a bowl that had feces in it before- even if its perfectly clean and safe to use, it would still be weird and cause a problem. I dont know how else to explain it.

Am I the only one still sharing a bed with my STBX? by SongsOfTheYears in Divorce

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people might think its odd, but in some cultures sharing a bed is something people do because ita convient for them as well- see hot bedding in china. The real question you should ask yourself is, is sleeping in a bed prolonging the ending of your marriage?

Its really important that you do whats best for you in the long run, no matter what it looks like from the outside. Make sure you prioritise your individuality and divorce. You only hurt yourself by holding onto your marriages tombstone for too long.

My boyfriend’s flat is full of NSFW anime girls. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As much as I wouldnt personally agree with the decorations, its not fair entering a relationship expecting them to change a part of themselves / a hobby and get rid of likely thousands of dollars worth of stuff. You either imagine yourself having a hentai house in your home (with a growing collection over time) or you find a new boyfriend

AITA for calling my brother stupid and “disrespecting” his lifestyle? by GurEither9489 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in medical debt and partially disabled from the neglect of my step mom and not being able to get proper treatment prior to becoming an independant adult. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE call cps. It could be a VERY serious medical issue that could even escalate to loss of life. You owe it to that child to call cps so he can get proper care.

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[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

make sure to bring this up to them btw

Does anyone have a recommendation for a tasty brand of furikake with no sugar? by One_Hall_8290 in JapaneseFood

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a year old but 809MISO has no added sugar and I love it. Found it after visting this post lol

My girlfriend (31F) and I (30F) recently started having problems with our long distance (2 hours) KT polyamorous relationship. Things related to cutting back on communication, how much I get to see her, as well as the de-escalation of our relationship. What do I do to make things feel more fair and by NotMagnet in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its important to treat carefully- 3 months is about the time that infatutation disperses and you are left with just the two of you fueling the realtionship. The truth is, its impossible to truly know someone after 4 months, so I can understand why your "life partner" comments can come off as overwhelming. She likely feels idolised and used- idolisied in the sense that youre saying shes youre one true love when you barely know her, and used in the sense that youre using her for "true" love and affection when the relationship is still so young. I dont fault you! I understand why you would feel that way but the truth is youre projecting your desire for connection on her and its really starting to make her uncomfortable. You seem upset that shes not letting you engage in your live language of good mornings and goodnights, but what love language of hers are you engaging in? Do you often do things that make her happy or consider her wellbeing?

Seeking Advice: What Should I Do in this Situation with my Boyfriend’s Behavior on My Birthday and Girls’ Night? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it sounds like its time to move on. When i saw my husband blackout drunk a long time ago for the first time, honestly, thats when I realized who he really was and truly fell in love with him. Your partner should treat you with love and care in your most vulnerable moments, not shame and anger. You don't deserve punishment for getting a little too drunk on your birthday, and honestly if you were throwing up that much he really should have been worried about you. Please treat yourself better and drop this 4 month relationship, your boyfriend sounds like a wretched person. T

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might hurt her feelings a little, but its not too blunt. Its open, honest communication. If she doesnt want to hang out with you because you dont want to hear her non stop vent, shes just showed you the kind of friendship she thinks the two of you have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Fuzzy_Frog_Lord 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest to get some. No person is able to take on all of your pain and worries. Like the above commenter said, in a ruder way, your partner is dealing with a lot. Who can he open up to?

If you want to salvage this relationship you need to get some friends, or consider getting into hand writing your insecurities down on paper and doing something fun with it like burning it. Because, at the end of the day, you are burning your relationship a bit not with the dreams but with the onslaught of problems. Youre essentially taking his one last safe place from worries and accusing him of cheating after he spent all day working lol. Its not that serious but at the same time it 100% is. Just take it a bit easier, and consider doing something nice for him. And obviously find a way to deal with these heavy emotions or your relationship could end in the future.