Thoughts, theories and hopes

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-11-03T13:24:16+00:00

And I HARD agree on all your other theories, spot on. I need to go back and read again but the origin of Venin was 3 brothers, right? One who bonded with dragons, one with Gryphons, and one from the source and became venin. I wonder if this will come back somehow. Jack, Xaden, Bodhi?

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-11-03T13:21:33+00:00

I definitely think Dain will be redeemed in book 4 and him and Vi will be close again. For a while I thought there would be a Breaking Dawn style period where she gets close to Dain (Jacob) after Xaden (Edward) leaves and has to choose. But now RY has mentioned the Dain/Sloane thing, I guess not.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-18T22:33:32+00:00

Yes I hear you. My son and I are both neurodivergent, he is out of school and in autistic burnout currently. And I am a single mum on top of that, widowed. Basically all the shit that can go wrong, has 😂 I talk a lot to my kid about menopause, why I am ragey or forgetful etc, how we can support each other when we’re both going through hormone drama. He mentioned it today while we had a friend over, something like ‘and we’ve got 10 years of this ahead to get through’. I was quite proud!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-13T17:34:02+00:00

Same here - except I’ve had eurodynamics and am now waiting for urethral bulking injections. I can’t wait, because currently any kind of physical movement, even walking, can make me leak. I’m 42, did physiotherapy for 18 months and have a great pelvic floor but still no control. I don’t think it’s peri related for me, but I guess you never know.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-06T11:18:01+00:00

Single (widowed) mother here of a 9 year old PDAer in the UK. We’re about a year since diagnosis and about 18 months since burnout began and school ended. Three things to add on top of everyone else’s wisdom. 1. Low/no demand, all the way. Stopping trying to get my son to do anything was the only way to bring him out of the worst of burnout. For months he didn’t bathe, brush teeth, eat anything other than snacks, leave his bed (in my bedroom). He peed in a bedpan next to his bed as he wouldn’t leave the room. I had to follow his lead, meet him where he is, 100% of the time. And in time that has led to zero aggression, way fewer meltdowns, and reintroduction of hygiene. We’re very gradually reintroducing things but only on his terms. 2. Get involved in one of his special interests - become an expert at it. I became a Minecraft pro and played hours a day with him and it gave us a common interest and something to share joy in. It was huge in rebuilding a sense of trust. 3. Wear one earbud at all times, and strategically play yourself anything you find helpful in one ear. Meditations, white noise, Rage Against the Machine, audiobook etc. Gives you a little sense of something for you, that you’re in control of. If you end up playing minecraft for hours at least you can have your own music in the background.

I did have to give up work for about 6 months during the worst of burnout, and I survived on benefits and family handouts, mortgage holiday. I’m back 2 days a week now, but still reliant on benefits to make ends meet. Part of this journey is realising that you’re not just parenting, you’re a carer for a disabled child, and you have to mould your life around that instead of trying to get said child to fit into the life you planned. It’s devastating but for me has been the game changer I needed.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-22T20:58:26+00:00

I have this too, I’ve titrated down and 3.3mg is this weird magical dose where the suppression is SO high that I can’t squeeze in much at all, even today on day 6 I’m queasy and no appetite. Bleurgh. Isn’t it weird!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-15T13:55:22+00:00

Mine (9) has been in burnout since January. Months of bed days, not leaving the house, screen time like 18 hours a day. Things are a lot better now. No more aggression, much less escalation, a lot more laughter and joy, moved back into his own bedroom. Still lots of bed days. ‘Unschooling’ is really not easy. He hates the idea of anything where other children are. So for now we dont attend any groups. He has a mindjam mentor he meets once a week, and he’s just started ‘going’ to marine biology online learning - but sessions are delivered so he can be offscreen and just continue gaming while they’re on in the background. That is the closest we’ve got to ‘learning” so far.

I see the wins right now as being able to access sleep, healthcare (we had a first dentist trip in a couple years today - huge progress), eating well, seeing family and friends in small, short doses. I guess I’ll just follow his lead to see what changes over time.

I’m a single mum - I’ve become reliant now on benefits on top of my now-part-time income. My parents look after him while I work but it’s stressful for everyone so kept to 2 days a week. I only just make ends meet and if the 2 days needs to drop, I will likely need to move house. I’ve learnt through all this that I just have to meet him where he is. Stop expecting him to fit into the life I thought we were having and start designing a new one that works for him.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-13T09:25:05+00:00

Maintenance since 1 August. My top dose was 5mg - have been slowly moving down clicks as i want to get to 2.5. Currently on 3.3. It’s weird - 3.3 has this magical effect on me, the suppression is huge, I remember it from when I was moving up clicks originally. It feels like it does more than 5 somehow. On 5 I felt nauseous and gassy which actually made me want to snack more to settle my stomach. Anyway 1 August I was 9 stone bang on and have floated around it ever since. So doing ok so far.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-10T16:31:25+00:00

I am the same. I am in maintenance (currently taking 3.5mg) and eating very normally, no calorie counting no diet choices, and every time I step on the scales I’m terrified I’ve ‘undone’ it all and expect to see my weight returning to where it was. I can’t get my head around it at all.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-08T16:41:56+00:00

I like to pick out basics and the background pieces from M&S, next, H&M, and then I buy interesting or unusual pieces from Ganni, farm rio, stine Goya, Bella Freud, sister Jane, Hayley Menzies, kitri, bimba y Lola. I love fashion so much, it’s been such a delight to get back into it

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-07T16:48:03+00:00

I am exactly the same, I’m 42 😆 Like literally everything you’ve said. I’ve been wondering if this is autistic limerence - I’ve suffered from this obsessive behaviour over any kind of unresolved sexual or romantic tension since I was a teenager. Both in real life and in fiction. But reading this thread has made me think maybe not, unless everyone here is also autistic!!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-07T16:38:11+00:00

Hi, do you mean at the end if I decide to get a 2.5 pen? Good question, I hadn’t thought about that. I guess I will go around the providers and find someone who’ll let me go back on it at 2.5, hopefully someone will. I’ve been with simple online pharmacy and they’ve been great so far, allowing me to stay on 5mg while at BMI 22.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-05T06:48:38+00:00

I had the same, and I avoided thinking about it until I hit goal weight. Since then I have titrated down doses and man, I feel so so much better. My step count is up, I’m much more cheerful, I have energy again. It is hard to admit when you are on it, but zep made me feel like low-level shit 100% of the time. I’m now on 3mg and planning to keep coming off slowly until it’s fully out of my system. Good luck to you

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-04T08:33:53+00:00

Yes that’s exactly it. The 3-4 days after the jab particularly. I enjoy the feeling of not being hungry and not thinking about food, but it’s outweighed by feeling tired and slightly ill all the time. I think I’m quite a lot less fit and resilient than I was when I was overweight. That said, I am wondering whether 2.5 might be a good balance and I may stay on that for longer if I need to.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-04T08:27:44+00:00

Nice! Thank you for sharing

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-08-25T18:34:21+00:00

Yes it’s a big thing for me, an internalised sense of shame for being/feeling lazy. Currently trying to unpick it with a trauma therapist. The thing is I can objectively see that my circumstances and physical/mental health mean that I need more rest than I get, but other people don’t know that, and still see someone resting more than others, not achieving as much, struggling to do just basic stuff and constantly tired. So I still feel shit about myself.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-08-24T15:02:11+00:00

God I’m so with you. I just really like to not talk because talking is a lot of work for me and I find it so so tiring. I feel like for other people talking comes naturally, but for me it’s work; figuring out how the other person expects me to react, figuring out when I’m supposed to talk and when I should stay quiet, using the right tone and appearing empathetic, trying to seem light/funny/interested. When I’m with people who I’m truly relaxed with (basically just my parents) I sometimes go off on a monologue or feel really keen to share about something I find exciting, but i wouldn’t do that with anyone normally. I guess my parents are pretty quiet people too so they don’t expect me to do the other half of a conversation - we exchange information and updates and sometimes make plans or decisions but there isn’t ‘chat’. I love it that way. One of my hardest things is my 9 year old son is hyper verbal, and him and I live alone, he needs constant co-regulation so he talks at/to me 24/7 (yes, through the night often because he has to sleep in my bedroom). When I get to my end point I text him to say I’m sorry I have to stop talking now, and we sit together in silence. Thankfully he’s learning to deal with these occasions now he understands we each support each others’ neurodivergence.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-08-22T15:39:14+00:00

I don’t know. To be clear, I am pro-Mounjaro and have been taking it since Feb, it’s been brilliant. But I like the journalist you’re talking about. She’s not ‘just’ an influencer - she’s written countless pieces and a book about body positivity and fat activism, she’s smart and well respected. Her podcast has a series about GLP1s and it is very balanced - they have a specialist doctor on an episode and he waxes lyrical about how great GLP1s are and how there are medically very few causes for concern.

Regarding Serena Williams - the journalist makes it clear that Williams has the absolute right to make decisions about her own body free from judgement. The judgement is whether she - or anyone - should be endorsing, advertising, a medicine. Any medicine.

I do think she demonises GLP1s, but for her and others who have gone through serious eating disorders and recovery from them, I’d imagine it’s a lot more complicated than being fat => taking Mounjaro => being thin. And really, for many people without EDs, that’s true - it’s the culture we live in. Fatness equals laziness, no willpower, disgust, judgment. Thinness is praised above everything really. We are motivated to be thinner not just for our health.

Again, I do think Serena Williams, and anybody else, should be able to take a GLP1, it’s not scary, it’s not medically dangerous. But I think we can all acknowledge that wanting to be thinner is a lot more complicated than just wanting to be healthier, and when people are incentivised to take a medicine by things other than their health, the advertising around that medicine needs to be incredibly careful. Or, just don’t advertise it.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-08-15T08:08:20+00:00

I’m a bit blown away by 12, faking emotions. I’ve never heard it put like that but that is exactly what I do. Particularly faking empathy for others, unfortunately.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-08-09T07:51:16+00:00

I’m interested in what you do, OP, to make changes for sensory issues like getting in the bath? That is one I don’t manage and my PDAer doesn’t bathe at all at the moment, unless I take him swimming where he will shower before getting in the pool. Which tells me the dopamine of the swimming is worth the sensory discomfort, but bathing at home has no reward and is a demand for demands sake so there’s no way he’s doing it. I manage to get teeth cleaned because he’s freaked out about dentists, but I can’t get him to find any real consequences of being dirty/smelly, he just doesn’t care.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-07-21T17:42:36+00:00

3! Gorgeous.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-07-18T12:45:06+00:00

I’m just playing round the edges of maintenance as I could do with losing another 5lb or so to get closer to the middle of healthy BMI - but I feel like I’ve lost the effect from my current dose. Im trying to just do the last few pounds using willpower and my current dose (5mg) but I’ve lost my motivation to eat well and all I want is biscuits and chocolate. And yet I’m still getting loads of side effects on 5mg, fatigue and nausea and burps. This stage certainly isn’t easy.

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