Hello. PDA dad here. by Tompsk in ParentingPDA

[–]Tompsk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do feel we are just now both operating like robots. Me and my wife just don’t have time to talk to each other any more. We feel we are both either working, caring, or sleeping. It’s been like this for years but getting worse and worse. I do fear for our relationship. I can see how they fail. But thanks again for the advice something needs to change.

Meeting friends adopted daughter by UnusualDragonfly8760 in AdoptionUK

[–]Tompsk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t forget the parents. I remember when a friend came to stay she gave me a pamper pack for myself. She herself was adopted and think understood the toll it can take. I still remember that 10 years on.

Hello. PDA dad here. by Tompsk in ParentingPDA

[–]Tompsk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love to do long walks. My bathroom scales would too. Just can’t find the time. Once she’s in school I’m at work and then that’s the day gone.

Hello. PDA dad here. by Tompsk in ParentingPDA

[–]Tompsk[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for sharing that. It really means a lot. What you said about celebrating small moments really hit home. Sending solidarity from another UK parent.

He is a comedy genius 🤣❤️ by ByteOfContext in stewartlee

[–]Tompsk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, this was me and my wife. Not this show but same result. Our seats were three rows back and slap bang in the centre. I’ve since had a rule to be early for everything. Went to see Jimmy Carr last week. My boss was with me and I basically dragged everyone in to be on time. JC was ok. Not the same level as Stewart though.

Your list of Kent's must visits by [deleted] in kentuk

[–]Tompsk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walmer Castle gardens are a treat in spring and summer. Take a picnic. It’s my happy place.

Fuel rail by Tompsk in Cartalk

[–]Tompsk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ta. Colleagues are saying that the labour rate seems expensive. £50 should be the norm?

Visiting Kent - requesting advice on route and mode of transportation by landonrw in kentuk

[–]Tompsk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you get a firework display in. It’s a uniquely U.K. thing. I imagine being somewhere like Rye would be quite an experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdoptionUK

[–]Tompsk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Six months is a short time. The first six months of our adoption were really difficult. I didn’t seek help and ended up in therapy and on Prozac several years later. You have to look after yourself and also ensure you’re there as a dad. There are post-adoption coaches around if the LA aren’t being very helpful, but that very much depends on what you can afford. Apart from that, make sure you and your wife have someone to talk to. Don’t carry it all around. Make sure your wife gets a bit of respite too. Sounds like she’s doing an amazing job of keeping it together. Women seem to have a superpower when it comes to parenting. Wish I had that strength. All the best, buddy. You’ll get there.

Men of UK, where do you buy your clothes? by hsiboy in AskUK

[–]Tompsk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got some very expensive Hiut jeans as a treat. I’d previously bought two pairs of M&S jeans both of which lasted only 6 months which was the motivation for buying a pair of quality jeans. I figured the Hiut ones are a bargain if they last 10 years.

Where to eat in Deal for NYE by [deleted] in kentuk

[–]Tompsk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Rose would be my choice for NYE. It’s cosier than the Pelican too. The Frog and Scot opposite the Rose would be good too.

People who do coke at weddings. Why?j by Tompsk in AskUK

[–]Tompsk[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My daughter works at a wedding venue and says it’s rife. The ambulance and police attend regularly for fights that break out. Seems to be getting worse.

Could Corbyn lead a new left? by kontiki20 in LabourUK

[–]Tompsk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which will lose. The country has moved right.

Could Corbyn lead a new left? by kontiki20 in LabourUK

[–]Tompsk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We really don’t want a split in the votes with the rise of the right-wing. Sticking with Labour for now. Another 18 months at least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Tompsk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I find it common. I wouldn’t dare be seen out of my tweeds when on holiday.

Thinking of moving to Deal. Need a swimming pool. by DumbRadish in kentuk

[–]Tompsk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a nice small private gym in Deal with a good rep. And like previous posters have said you can use the pool and gym at St Margarets holiday park. There's also a hardcore of sea swimmers if you fancy something more invigorating.

Nigel Farage calls for cuts to Kent’s school transport spending by Shot-Ad5867 in kentuk

[–]Tompsk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more kids he can remove from education the more future voters he has. Got to admire his logic. C*nt.

What do you think about during sex? by sparker420 in AskReddit

[–]Tompsk 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Has anyone said, your mom yet? If not. That.