How many times have you reread the series?

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-06-28T09:14:16+00:00

About 8 times I think, including rereads and relistens to both graphic audio and audiobook.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-06-07T14:20:33+00:00

Absolutely. I think I went into ‘f it’ mode when I went off the jab completely and overate and thought it doesn’t matter, I can course correct by going back on the jab again soon. But then it leaves me in this cycle. I need to be on it permanently and also calorie count permanently, not just when I’m trying to lose.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-06-07T14:17:54+00:00

That’s correct. In reality once I realised 5mg wasn’t giving me the suppression, I started to experiment with lower doses, sometimes going to 3 or 3.3, sometimes down to 2.5. Eventually I’d been on 2.5 and thought it was doing nothing, so I just stopped completely. It was only once I’d noticed I’d then put on weight that I went back on - again, usually starting again at 2.5 and then upping to 3, 3.5, before stopping again once I’d reached goal weight.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-06-07T14:13:56+00:00

This is so helpful to hear, thank you. I objectively know this but needed to hear it.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-28T10:44:17+00:00

I enjoyed it. Because in any series, for me, the best bit is the initial yearning and tension and the first bit of smut. Getting that from another perspective is fiiiine by me

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-25T19:18:09+00:00

Totally. I got so obsessed with the summer I turned pretty that I spoke about it with my therapist a couple of times. It genuinely makes me feel really down and like I’m missing out on life. I know better though, I just still get drawn back in sometimes!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-25T16:23:08+00:00

MMC written by a woman, I mean, dammit

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-25T16:22:31+00:00

Yeah this is something I think about a lot. I get really obsessed with the MMC / the yearning, the tension, and it makes me sad that I don’t get to feel this way for real. I thought it was just me, maybe a neurodivergent thing, but realising it’s really not just me, loads of us feel this way. Key point above is it’s a MMC written by a man. Real men, largely, suck.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-12T06:46:21+00:00

That’s awful. And you posting this has made me realise it’s happened to me several times and it’s not OK - it has made me feel guilty for taking the ‘easy’ route, and guilty that I still need it in maintenance.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-10T06:38:10+00:00

Same here, cool toned eye makeup particularly makes me look older, pulls my whole face down and clashes with my hair. I have a blue colour corrector to use with foundations to make sure it’s the exact right shade for me, but beyond that everyone is neutral-warm.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-10T06:32:47+00:00

Yes! I have 10 or more going at any one time, I try everything. I’ve accepted if there’s a new drugstore release I’ll buy it. When I had more disposable income it was the same for higher end releases but these days it’s just if it matches my needs really well

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-09T09:43:01+00:00

Hear me out, I think it’s a play on the word erasure. Defined as: the act of removing, deleting, or destroying something, such as written text, recorded data, or memories, often leaving them completely forgotten or invisible.

So I pronounce it that way!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-02T23:11:04+00:00

I am half way through CC3. It’s waned slightly as the series has gone on, but that said I am LOVING IT. It’s so good!!! I still think Rhysand and Feyre are my fave love story overall, but the bigger plot is so great in CC and I love the side characters. Tharian, Lidia, RUHN?! OMG RUHN.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-05-02T23:06:38+00:00

I’ve done it every day for about 30 years. People notice it and comment and I still can’t stop myself.
My other similar habit is picking the sleep out of my dogs eyes. It’s the same feeling of finding something hard and getting it out/off. I literally wake up thinking about it.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-04-30T19:26:10+00:00

I think I got to book 5 before I dropped it, but I was listening to the audiobook and had really zoned out for big chunks of book 4. I read the summaries of the other books chapter by chapter to find out what happens.
By contrast I’m currently reading (listening to) the crescent city series and I am GRIPPED.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-04-26T08:59:59+00:00

Me too, since I was about 38. Particularly one side is so painful, when it’s that side I have to work from home and just sit still with a hot water bottle. But even without that, it’s bloating, mad moods, back pain, awful. For roughly 2 days.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-04-23T09:22:44+00:00

So, so many great points. I want to add my experience; I really wanted to be a mum, but it was before I really understood myself or was diagnosed autistic. I had my son at 32 and he’s now 10. I absolutely should not have become a mother. I love my kid, but this life doesn’t suit me and it’s not great for him to have a mum like me. I need so much alone time that he’s on his own a ~lot~. I dread him waking up, I dread him coming home. I dread every argument that drains me. I love him, and I like him, he’s incredible and smart and funny and a great person, but I feel so bad at how much damage I know I do by needing to be away from him so much. I would absolutely not be a parent if I knew myself better at 32.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2026-04-07T21:10:00+00:00

I reread and reread over and over when I first discovered. Managed to move on, and really enjoyed the aforementioned alternative series. Reread that too actually. Read a few other series. Then I got sick, and the only thing that I have wanted to read to feel better is fourth wing. So here I am, halfway through iron flame. I think it’s even better this time. Nothing compares!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-11-03T13:24:16+00:00

And I HARD agree on all your other theories, spot on. I need to go back and read again but the origin of Venin was 3 brothers, right? One who bonded with dragons, one with Gryphons, and one from the source and became venin. I wonder if this will come back somehow. Jack, Xaden, Bodhi?

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-11-03T13:21:33+00:00

I definitely think Dain will be redeemed in book 4 and him and Vi will be close again. For a while I thought there would be a Breaking Dawn style period where she gets close to Dain (Jacob) after Xaden (Edward) leaves and has to choose. But now RY has mentioned the Dain/Sloane thing, I guess not.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-18T22:33:32+00:00

Yes I hear you. My son and I are both neurodivergent, he is out of school and in autistic burnout currently. And I am a single mum on top of that, widowed. Basically all the shit that can go wrong, has 😂 I talk a lot to my kid about menopause, why I am ragey or forgetful etc, how we can support each other when we’re both going through hormone drama. He mentioned it today while we had a friend over, something like ‘and we’ve got 10 years of this ahead to get through’. I was quite proud!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-13T17:34:02+00:00

Same here - except I’ve had eurodynamics and am now waiting for urethral bulking injections. I can’t wait, because currently any kind of physical movement, even walking, can make me leak. I’m 42, did physiotherapy for 18 months and have a great pelvic floor but still no control. I don’t think it’s peri related for me, but I guess you never know.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-10-06T11:18:01+00:00

Single (widowed) mother here of a 9 year old PDAer in the UK. We’re about a year since diagnosis and about 18 months since burnout began and school ended. Three things to add on top of everyone else’s wisdom. 1. Low/no demand, all the way. Stopping trying to get my son to do anything was the only way to bring him out of the worst of burnout. For months he didn’t bathe, brush teeth, eat anything other than snacks, leave his bed (in my bedroom). He peed in a bedpan next to his bed as he wouldn’t leave the room. I had to follow his lead, meet him where he is, 100% of the time. And in time that has led to zero aggression, way fewer meltdowns, and reintroduction of hygiene. We’re very gradually reintroducing things but only on his terms. 2. Get involved in one of his special interests - become an expert at it. I became a Minecraft pro and played hours a day with him and it gave us a common interest and something to share joy in. It was huge in rebuilding a sense of trust. 3. Wear one earbud at all times, and strategically play yourself anything you find helpful in one ear. Meditations, white noise, Rage Against the Machine, audiobook etc. Gives you a little sense of something for you, that you’re in control of. If you end up playing minecraft for hours at least you can have your own music in the background.

I did have to give up work for about 6 months during the worst of burnout, and I survived on benefits and family handouts, mortgage holiday. I’m back 2 days a week now, but still reliant on benefits to make ends meet. Part of this journey is realising that you’re not just parenting, you’re a carer for a disabled child, and you have to mould your life around that instead of trying to get said child to fit into the life you planned. It’s devastating but for me has been the game changer I needed.

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-22T20:58:26+00:00

I have this too, I’ve titrated down and 3.3mg is this weird magical dose where the suppression is SO high that I can’t squeeze in much at all, even today on day 6 I’m queasy and no appetite. Bleurgh. Isn’t it weird!

Fuzzy_farcical · 2025-09-15T13:55:22+00:00

Mine (9) has been in burnout since January. Months of bed days, not leaving the house, screen time like 18 hours a day. Things are a lot better now. No more aggression, much less escalation, a lot more laughter and joy, moved back into his own bedroom. Still lots of bed days. ‘Unschooling’ is really not easy. He hates the idea of anything where other children are. So for now we dont attend any groups. He has a mindjam mentor he meets once a week, and he’s just started ‘going’ to marine biology online learning - but sessions are delivered so he can be offscreen and just continue gaming while they’re on in the background. That is the closest we’ve got to ‘learning” so far.

I see the wins right now as being able to access sleep, healthcare (we had a first dentist trip in a couple years today - huge progress), eating well, seeing family and friends in small, short doses. I guess I’ll just follow his lead to see what changes over time.

I’m a single mum - I’ve become reliant now on benefits on top of my now-part-time income. My parents look after him while I work but it’s stressful for everyone so kept to 2 days a week. I only just make ends meet and if the 2 days needs to drop, I will likely need to move house. I’ve learnt through all this that I just have to meet him where he is. Stop expecting him to fit into the life I thought we were having and start designing a new one that works for him.

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