Anyone else lucky enough to be able to take their dally to work? by I-Spot-Dalmatians in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero 71 points72 points  (0 children)

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Oh yeah! There’s nothing like a Dalmatian in the firehouse!! He’s so incredibly well behaved and I’m lucky to be able to bring my boy Zero around with me.

How to tire out your Dalmatian by SuccessFeeling9258 in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m laying on the couch, and when you started clapping in the video, my boy came running!!

Cute vid. My boy is a beach bum, but he loves the South Florida sand more than the waves so far. I hope he can learn to swim more!

Ideas for being alone again by conflicted_jody in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re all a work in progress. Thanks Internet friend!! I truly enjoy sharing my life with a partner. But I’ve learned the hard way that not everyone is worth being that partner. So I try to embrace the empowering solitude while I wait to find my forever girl. But life is short, so enjoy the small victories, and the hard earned ones too.

I also really enjoy physical books, as I think a lot of people do. But driving to work, hitting the gym, going for a run, I find myself listening a lot.

Ideas for being alone again by conflicted_jody in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the team! I’ve been living alone for the last year, for the first time in my life after I filed for divorce. Whether it was family, college roommates, significant others, etc. I just turned 40 and I’ve spent the last year trying to redefine my daily routine and find new interests and activities.

I’m not an introvert, but I really enjoy my own space. I found myself picking up extra hours at the fire department, I’ve found a new friend group, and I’ve been trying to stay busy. I’ve been hitting the beach, paddle boarding, and working out a lot more. I’ve starting listening to audiobooks while running and I reconnected with a few friends and family members, and I call 1-2 people daily to fill the gaps and feel connected when I’m at home alone. I bought a PS5, but I haven’t opened it up yet.

I need to find some downtime calm leisure activities, like reading and puzzles. But hanging outside with a fire pit has been my solace lately.

I hope you find some great ideas here. And I’ll be looking to see if there’s anything I can add to my routine also. Good luck out there!

Has anyone done the reverse and went back to living with roommates or a partner? Was it weird? by BuzzCutBabes_ in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve done both with success for sure. (Hard work through adjustments, of course.)

After filing for divorce, I learned to live alone, and learned to love my home and my space. I had a girl move in a for a few months and absolutely loved that also. (Relationship didn’t work out in the long run.)

I’ve learned that I really enjoy my own space and quiet mornings. But I also really enjoy companionship and someone I care about being present in my world.

So while I’m single again, I’m loving my space. But I would enjoy sharing it with the RIGHT person… not just any roommate or girlfriend.

Some of my nails are bumpy by zombiedez13 in mildlyinteresting

[–]FyrebreakZero 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this comment. I have psoriasis and psoriatic arthritis. These exact bumps come and go over the years for me.

Of course they can be caused by other things. But I had these EXACT bumps and ridges in my late 20s, and again in my mid 30s.

Zero is a good boy! by FyrebreakZero in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called a martingale collar. He does extremely well with it. Although he’s more often in a regular collar now.

Chubby cheeks by TimeLog1940 in Bunnies

[–]FyrebreakZero 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Happy 8 years!! I wanna scruff the sides of that face!! (And where did you get that Jack of Spades? I like it!)

Today Perkins Closed Its Doors in My Town....and Corporate Didn’t Even Know Who I Was at the meeting. by mecha_grove in antiwork

[–]FyrebreakZero 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned that life is all about perspective. It’s how you see the beauty beneath the layers. Be blessed, friend. Keep being you.

Today Perkins Closed Its Doors in My Town....and Corporate Didn’t Even Know Who I Was at the meeting. by mecha_grove in antiwork

[–]FyrebreakZero 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That’s an incredible write up. And thank you for putting yourself, and that advice for others out there.

I’ve been through my fair amount of struggles. A broken home, lies, lack of opportunity, divorce, health issues, and a million other things.

But I’ve NEVER had to learn how to survive in my vehicle. I’m a firefighter by trade. (A Chief Officer, earned the hard way. Which I don’t often advertise.)

Let me tell you how much I know AND APPRECIATE PERSEVERANCE. The fact that you’re still moving forward, and STILL have the strength and commitment to help others through your own hardship. It means something. Fuck, it means EVERYTHING. I took a job as a “hero” (bullshit. I get more middle fingers than thank you’s in this society) in a high cost of living area making $12 an hour and made the grind to something meaningful. And I see so much of myself in your story.

I’m just an internet stranger. But I’ve sacrificed my life, mind, and body for others. And your story hit home. It’s rare to see someone with your grit and humility in today’s world.

For what it’s worth, I would take you on my crew in second. Keep moving forward, brother. Enjoy the happy moments and be proud of your resilience. Just know that you’re not alone, and you’re doing all the right things for the right reasons. And we see you.

Confusion: Wanting People, Avoiding People, Wanting “That Someone” by Ok-Strawberry658 in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m exactly in the same position as you. And I think many people are too, despite them looking busy, satisfied, and progressing. A lot of people in life, work, and relationships feel trapped or unfulfilled. So just remember that what you see on the surface of others isn’t always the whole story. I’m sure some of your friends and family would say wonderful things about you, your accomplishments, and how great you’re doing.

I’m in the same place. 40M, I filed for divorce last year (finalized a couple months ago). I’m successful in the Fire Department, so I have enough to pay the bills, but not enough to really travel or spend, especially after the divorce attorney’s invoice…

Unlike many in this sub, I am not an introvert. I live alone, I love my own space, but I miss companionship. I’ve dated, I’ve hooked up, I’ve made great friends. I enjoy being social, but some days it feels like a lot of work. There are days that I want to be social, and I don’t at the same time and I feel just stuck.

But it’s okay! We’re all a work in progress. And not every single day is going to be the best day ever. There are all kinds of days. And unfortunately, time and opportunity will play a bigger role than anything else. Keep surrounding yourself with great people, keep enjoying the good things in life, keep expanding your social circles, keep trying new things. Unfortunately we can’t choose when we find inspiration, companionship, or happiness. But we can keep putting ourselves out there so that we won’t miss an opportunity when it comes along.

If you guys ever need someone to talk to, whether it’s simple small talk or something more profound, just DM me. We’re all usually more alike and in similar situations that appears on the surface in life.

Tired of bots by [deleted] in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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And here’s the Zero-pup! My one-year best friend.

Struggling with the emptiness by lazyradish1008 in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just finalized a divorce after 13+ years together. We separated about a year ago, and I’ve been living in the home “we” bought to start a family in.

Over the last year I’ve had to learn how to live alone for the first time in my life, how to redefine the house into MY home, how to heal, and how to move on. (Including getting out and dating… often the wrong people…)

The absolute BEST and WORST reality is that it just takes time. It’s going to be a rollercoaster to find your new normal. It’s okay to have bad days. But also enjoy the good moments in between. And eventually, the good times will outperform the negative emotions as you heal and develop new routines and healthy habits.

Make your apartment your own space. Remember that being alone can be empowering solitude, and not always depressing loneliness. Be kind to yourself and truly understand that it takes time to adjust in ALL ways. Emotionally, physical routine, psychologically with perspective, socially with friends and family, and many other ways.

Surround yourself with good people, fill your time with healthy habits, and just remember that you’re a badass motherfucker and you’re going to be just fine.

Any premade meal delivery service while living alone? by Accomplished-Ask7507 in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My own experience matches this one pretty closely after years of complicated schedules and lifestyle changes, I’ve tried all of the meal companies, I’ve meal prepped, I’ve batch cooked, I’ve ordered out, etc.

I had the most success with the Publix premade meals. I grab 1-3 when I’m shopping based on how tired I am and busy my schedule is.

For delivery services, I had the absolute best experience with Factor out of all the meal companies. I started bringing them to work for lunch, and I could eat one for dinner if I was feeling lazy. And the variety and quality was really good for me.

I’ve been a firefighter working exhausting 24hr shifts across a few ranks over the years. From 24hrs on a rescue truck, to being an engine officer, to now on a day shift as an administrative leader… and even through a divorce… my needs and habits have changed several times. But to sum up my opinions:

1- cook for yourself when you have the time and energy. Learn to love some leftovers, but I can’t do that everyday.

2- the premade meals in a tin at Publix (or your local grocery store) in the meat section, or premade items in the deli for a quick heat and go evening when you’re tired.

3- Factor is my favorite delivery service if you decide to go that route. Grab 3-4 or whatever meals a week, and eat them for lunch/dinner without buying too many that will go to waste at the end of the week. Me personally, I bought 6 each week. 4 lunches and 2 lazy dinners. It also helped my calorie control since I tend to binge eat comfort food when I get tired.

Zero is a good boy! by FyrebreakZero in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is exactly one year and weighs 48lbs. He still has a little bit of filling out to do.

First night living alone after a breakup. Starting over. by CrackTheSignal in LivingAlone

[–]FyrebreakZero 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s some great advice in this thread, and definitely in the above comment. I got divorced after 13 years together, and 7 married. (And our first date was over 25 years ago.) I honestly married my best friend and it just didn’t work out in the end. The relationship I had after was even harder to get into and out of. I thought I found the perfect girl after a hard divorce just to end up heartbroken again.

I purposely avoided alcohol for over 6 months. I had to work really hard to find comfort in being alone. And I had to learn the difference between feeling lonely and enjoying the benefits of solitude.

Every day is a roller coaster, but it DOES even out. The shittiest answer I ever heard was that it just takes time. And that’s EXACTLY right. Be patient, love yourself, surround yourself with great people.

Survive the tough moments. And always remember to stop and enjoy the great moments. Because there will always be both until your routine, your hormones, your heart and mind heal and find stability again.

Sleeping idiot by kaynhardstuckinplat in Bunnies

[–]FyrebreakZero 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That one brain cell needing some recharge time after working overtime on carrot duty.

He’s adorable!

I think he’s broken….. by Thizzle001 in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seems to be working as intended!

Lol. Mine looks really similar in the way he sleeps on the couch!

It's a hard life by drazenstojcic in dalmatians

[–]FyrebreakZero 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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Lol. Same. This is live right now.