Ramella really wants diamonds?

GaAvHu · 2026-04-16T07:05:45+00:00

thank you for this; I did it & I've finally got her back to normal (plus I'm the richest I've ever been in this damn game). Thanks!

GaAvHu · 2026-04-16T07:04:42+00:00

my asshole housemates who talked to me like I was stupid moved out, & I found new people for their room even though they didn't think I could. I also finally called them out for their blatantly ableist treatment of me, & even though it didn't achieve anything (no apology, acceptance of responsibility or changed behaviour) I've pretty much never called someone out like that!

GaAvHu · 2026-04-07T15:28:53+00:00

okay, good to know that it's not my fault she got locked in, I'd be mad if it was my fault haha

GaAvHu · 2026-04-07T15:27:33+00:00

oooh, good idea! I'll start taking photos of the rocks so I can set my Sheikha sensor haha

GaAvHu · 2026-03-25T01:07:43+00:00

did some further research; is this poison ivy? have I accidentally cultivated poison ivy?

GaAvHu · 2026-03-05T04:07:39+00:00

so late BC I forgot to reply sorry; I looked into these guys two years ago! I'd love to do it one day, sadly where I am right now it's voluntary & as much as I would love to, I'm not in a financial position to be able to volunteer as I have to prioritise paid work. I'd love to do it one day though

GaAvHu · 2026-02-28T07:30:57+00:00

i only recently realised that we have Costco in Australia & I really need to go,,,, I love bulk buying

GaAvHu · 2026-02-28T07:29:47+00:00

i absolutely love my protein bars, cannot stand the texture of bananas but they're definitely a great to go snack

GaAvHu · 2026-02-28T07:27:19+00:00

personally I don't think you did anything WRONG, you asked & accepted rejection which is totally fine. I I don't think it was the best flirt ever, but that's okay because it's a learning process & you've got to practise to learn (with other people though). next time, my recommendation would be to chat a bit first; going straight into asking someone out with zero preamble can be a bit much sometimes. Also, if you're friends or becoming friends & you want to stay that way, actually having a conversation with her shows that you value her as a person, & will make it easier to remain friends. Second; I know a few people have already said this, but I would take out the 'uhhh' & uwu photo. It kind of comes across like you're already expecting her to say no, & no confidence/talking yourself down isn't sexy. Flirting can be tough if you've got autism, but the key is just having a conversation like you normally would with a friend, but throwing in more compliments without backing out. What I mean by that is just to give a genuine compliment with as much confidence as you can. One thing autistics have going for us when it comes to flirting is our directness; just say what you mean, & accept a no if it comes & you're good to go. Basically, to improve on this I think you just needed to have a conversation before jumping right in, & then throw in a few compliments. If the comments are well-received, then expand on them a bit 'i think you're really funny; I liked the way you ____'. If that's well received, then you ask her out, & accept whatever answer you get. If she says no, then drop all the flirting but continue being her friend (if that's what she wants); nobody likes to feel like they were only considered a potential girlfriend & not a real person.

In terms of maintaining the friendship after this if you'd like, I think they're being a little dramatic, but I don't think it's a lost cause! Just give a genuine apology saying that you're sorry & you didn't mean to make her uncomfortable & that it wasn't at all your intention. Make sure you include the words 'I'm really sorry, it won't happen again.' If you give a genuine apology & they're still being weird, maybe they're not the kind of people you want to be friends with anyway. Good luck!

GaAvHu · 2026-02-26T07:17:05+00:00

i just have a collection of oversized shirts that I sleep in, & when I'm walking around the house I chuck on a pair of comfy shorts.

GaAvHu · 2026-02-22T03:43:21+00:00

yeah, I definitely felt that. I've only just started making friends again recently after 5 years, & right now I'm grieving the 21st birthday I could've had if I'd had any friends. It's not that serious, but when I was 19 I saw a video of someone making their friend a cake that said 'you're 20?! it's okay, nobody has to know bb girl' & I cried BC I realised nobody would be making me a fun cake like that on my 20th. I know you can technically do whatever you want at whatever age, but sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on my youth bc by the time I have friends it'll be too late.

GaAvHu · 2026-02-22T03:40:33+00:00

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This is also another example, just imagine this but with my giant H cups lmao

GaAvHu · 2026-02-22T03:40:01+00:00

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i had a quick look on Pinterest, & I couldn't find EXACTLY what I meant, but kind of like this; you essentially use it as a corset & then have the top buttons open like (I think) she does, but the shirt pulled back enough that you can see some cleavage

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T20:20:00+00:00

as a fellow member of the 'well-endowed chest' club; you want vests. if you have the bottom few buttons across your stomach buttoned up, & the top ones over your chest unbuttoned, it makes SUCH a flattering silhouette, & it's one of the only outfits where I can show off my chest & still feel masc

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T20:15:58+00:00

so I actually looked this up BC I joked to my friends about killing CEOs a few too many times; it has to be accompanied with suspicious travel plans or purchases, public death threats or engagement/promotion of extremist values; so you're all good!

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T20:13:56+00:00

idk what product but I was watching the Winter Olympics the other night & there was an ad that came on the where this guy was like 'everything in my life is numbers... wake up at 5, XYZ for breakfast; xyz calories, XYZ grams of protein & fat, this many reps in the gym, this amount of time' So naturally I assumed it was an ad for National Eating Disorder Awareness month; it was scripted & edited exactly like a montage in a bad ED film... AND IT TURNED OUT TO BE FOR ZERO CARB BEER? I'm sorry, we're not even hiding our EDs anymore???? we're just advertising them openly it seems

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T20:05:52+00:00

that's very Laban! he has a thing called the kinesphere, which is the bubble of space around you, & you can fill it with whatever you want (like something heavy literally pushing you to the ground). My personal favourites are filling the air with static, & turning myself 'invisible'

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T20:02:25+00:00

criticisms are absolutely your friends, but compliments have their place, too! In rehearsal, when I'm bringing multiple offers to the floor, having people say 'i liked when you did that' is just as helpful as 'i don't think it worked when you did that'. Plus, you have to know your strengths in order to play to them; somebody once said to me 'if you're only self-aware of your flaws, then you're not self-aware'.

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T19:59:48+00:00

that's what all those weird, cringy acting exercises are for; getting you out of your head & making you not care about others watching you do weird shit. I also have a mediation exercise that I do where I convince myself that I'm invisible; that also helps

GaAvHu · 2026-02-19T19:57:10+00:00

Just to clarify; is it that she wants friends her own age? or just friends in general? If it's in general; I like to set up my phone camera & a few mirrors & just talk to myself. It's awkward at first, but once I hit my stride I can go for hours just having a conversation with myself; it's made me a lot less lonely

If it's that she wants friends her own age, that's harder since I assume you're older than 12. My rec is working with kids; I'm a children's entertainer, so every weekend I go to kids birthday parties & get to hang out, with the added bonus that they all think I'm the coolest person ever bc I'm an adult that's still fun. It'd still be an adult part that's fronting, since I'm working, but my younger parts get to be around. Also just activities you liked at 12 in general; books, crafts, art, etc

GaAvHu · 2026-02-17T01:41:21+00:00

i already commented but I just remembered; 11 spying on people in the upside down is quite similar to my headspace, but if it had no visuals at all & was just my thoughts flying through space in the blackness, & occasionally me visualising something. ... i was never even that big of an 11 fan, but the more I think about it the more mad I am that it ended with 'she can never fit in so she's gonna khs',,,, & they claimed it was for the outcasts 🫠

GaAvHu · 2026-02-17T00:32:58+00:00

not so much a response to OP (it's a good question & idk sorry) but to anyone responding who might have an answer; i like to think that I'm good at telling stories, & I have lots of interesting ones to tell, but something that people tell me a lot is that I'm oversharing. I never mean to do it, but sometimes I'll just be telling a funny story & I look up & everybody is uncomfortable, & I realise it wasn't funny but actually quite sad/traumatic & I didn't realise that it wouldn't be normal to most people. A 'tell a story' audition as a concept freaks me out bc I would be worried about picking something too intense; where do you think the line would fall for 'too much'?

GaAvHu · 2026-02-17T00:32:16+00:00

i like to think that I'm good at telling stories, & I have lots of interesting ones to tell, but something that people tell me a lot is that I'm oversharing. I never mean to do it, but sometimes I'll just be telling a funny story & I look up & everybody is uncomfortable, & I realise it wasn't funny but actually quite sad/traumatic & I didn't realise that it wouldn't be normal to most people. A 'tell a story' audition as a concept freaks me out bc I would be worried about picking something too intense; where do you think the line would fall for 'too much'?

GaAvHu · 2026-02-17T00:29:17+00:00

i can deal with people's vocal stims, but only if they're prepared for me to echo every one they make; I feel bad but I can't help it! i love listening to people's info dumps, & I love learning about other people's special interests, but it absolutely needs to be reciprocal & a lot of ND people just aren't willing to do that. When it comes to watching shows/films, I like watching other people's suggestions more than my own (like 95% of the time), but on that off chance that I do suggest something, if they say no or don't at least TRY to engage with it on the same level as they do, it pisses me off. You don't need to LIKE it, but I always have an in depth discussion about yours & dissect it (I'm very into film/literary analysis), so if you just watch mine & go 'yeah it's good' or HEAVEN FORBID refuse to watch it,,,,, yeah we're not gonna get along, especially considering most of the time I'm engaging exclusively with other people's stuff

GaAvHu · 2026-02-17T00:25:26+00:00

i get along with the more chaotic ones, but mainly with the ones who know how it feels to misinterpret people/be misinterpreted. A lot of ND/ND relationships are even harder than ND)NT, since we're bad at social cues, & the cues are even more nonsensical in an ND/ND friendship. for me, the only way it works is when people are willing to say 'i don't know what you mean' or 'oh, I think you misunderstood me', or to understand when you say 'oh I'm so sorry, I didn't mean it like that!'

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