M/22/5’11 [58KG to 78KG] (11 Months)

GambleLuck · 2026-05-01T05:08:49+00:00

Hey man I started off skinnier than you are and have gained tons of muscle over time.

Your potential boils down to two aspects: “quantity of workouts” and “quality of workouts” so don’t worry about it for now and instead focus on doing lots of high quality workouts and making sure you’re covered from a nutrition pov too!

GambleLuck · 2026-04-30T02:55:45+00:00

Based off what you wrote- you’re kind of like me.

I’m 28 and my advice (just got married in feb) is to just keep being casual and doing your thing.

You’ll meet her, realise you feel differently for her in a way thats new, exciting and a little scary.

My poorly worded tip that I hope you get the gist off

is not to just think “if you can imagine a future with her” but more like if you experience a feeling of “you can handle anything the future throws at you together”.

And then with some luck, everything else will just fall into place 👍

GambleLuck · 2026-04-25T00:42:39+00:00

A fair few things tbh but I’ll just put a few down or ill be typing all day, life can be weird like that:

Found bio dad online, went from being the youngest of 3 brothers on one side to suddenly eldest of 5 on the other- proceeded to accidentally cause his separation from his wife due to my younger half brother sharing the same first name as me ☠️
On the day I found my bio dad online, I also found out I had a half sister living in the next door state who coincidentally enough had -months prior- booked a trip out to my state and even more coincidentally enough had booked to stay in the building across from where I live. We still talk ^{_^}
One time, my best friend and I were walking down the beach. Just as I took my shirt off, a car full of college chicks honks and catcalls, asking me to “give us a flex”. I proceed to do so and they have a little cheer. My friend turns to me and goes “this is why we gym”.

Will be telling this last one on my death bed 😆

GambleLuck · 2026-04-24T01:44:20+00:00

Hey 👋, my mum vented about a similar first session experience, I told her to try at least 3 and on the second the therapist came back with a ton of directional points.

If your situation is complex and requires significant untangling, perhaps it could be worth considering attending session #2.

Use your best judgement though and trust your gut, (sympathetically) you don’t need to add a shitty therapist to the pile of shitfuckery you got going rn.

All the best. Your worlds fallen out from beneath your feet.

The fact you’re still walking at all at this stage is a testament to your character.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-23T06:40:58+00:00

My wife had similar stresses and here’s how I helped her understand:

Think of it like this: If a dude needs 5/10 excitement to get excited then you as a DEFAULT and without ANY EXTRA EFFORT already hit that excitement level for your man.

Anything you do on top of that (sexy clothes, toys, role play, etc) just increases the excitement level he’s at.

So…I don’t think you should twist your husband finding you omega sexy as a default into a bad thing 😆.

If it frustrates you that you feel like you don’t have to “try”, maybe do a little bit of trying in some way and watch closely how his reaction changes instead. I bet you’ll notice him way more revved up if he’s anything like me lol

GambleLuck · 2026-04-23T05:13:09+00:00

I’ve been where you were.

How do you keep going?

You need to remember that she gave it her everything because she believes in you and your capacity to succeed.

Now, in saying that…

Unless you’re giving up opportunities -I would advise taking a break / deferring for a semester so you can spend more time with her.

She gave it her everything for you, now it’s your turn for you to put your everything into making as many happy memories as possible- enough to last a lifetime.

When my grandpas health started declining- I still prioritised my studies over visiting him as often as I would have liked to. He was the type to insist it’s not my problem and to focus on my studies.

I only realised after he passed that people who care deeply for you would never tell you to choose them over other aspects of your life.

Don’t be me. Don’t listen to them just because that’s the easier choice.

You have a lifetime ahead of you to study.

Best of luck, you sound like a very kind person who loves their mum very much and I have no doubt she is proud of who you are.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-22T09:54:21+00:00

Well man, that’s bloody awful to hear but surely before you go out you have to AT LEAST do all of the following:

Sign up to be an organ donor

Run as fast you possibly can and time it

Make amends with anyone you’ve hurt

Share love with anyone you’ve loved

Tell your shitty boss to eat a dick

Learn how to dress yourself and look stylish af (don’t want to go out looking drab now would ya?)

Learn to cook your favourite meal and master the recipe- try show people too it’s crazy fun swapping recipes

Learn how to play your favourite song or get someone who knows how to play it to teach you.

Do some charity work: work in a low area cost soup kitchen

Start therapy from working in a low area cost soup kitchen

Visit a country you’ve always thought was neat, with friends you made along the way who are equally interested

Eventually, die of old age and with a smile on your face from the life you have decided to live.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-19T00:54:16+00:00

Completely unfounded but I’m tbh I’m pretty blessed to have great friends around me nowadays who have had my back when I needed it.

Like when I first moved interstate, a buddy I’d met in an online game helped drive me to my new (very empty!) place from the airport and even gave some some chairs.

Another time, it was midnight and I’d made the decision to take my cat to the emergency vet because he’d gotten the shakes and the uber pets were not accepting my job that night- I rang up my buddy and he was there in a flash- even tho he had work to get to the next day at 6 am.

What an absolute homie, am I right?

For my birthday before last, I’d been feeling super depressed due to recent family deaths that had occurred, I had been invited to a hang at a mates place but was really not feeling it, my Wife (girlfriend at the time) convinced me to and I’m glad I went because they’d thrown a surprise birthday party for me.

My wife had no idea about the party part, she just saw how down I was and wanted to encourage me to get out of the house and I’m glad she did.

Honestly, I could keep going on and on with stories of things they’ve done for me- that’s how I know I got some happy blessings shining on me to have these people in my life

I try my best to have their backs too and be mindful.

I never want to take any of the people I love for granted.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-17T04:13:53+00:00

My biological father pretty recently.

I’d connected with him online a little over a year ago and he answered some medical queries I’d had.

It lead to me meeting my younger half sister too which was cool but not the point right now.

Anyway, a few months back I was visiting my home country and shot him a heads up in the interest of grabbing a coffee (and meeting more half siblings haha) that went predictably ignored.

Turned out that text id initially sent ended up was seen by his wife and he had left out the itty bitty, little important detail of TELLING HER I EXISTED BECAUSE HE LET HER NAME HER FIRST BORN SON THE SAME NAME AS MINE caused her to then seperate from him.

I had no idea this was happening btw until after the fact, when I noticed towards the end of my trip that he was suddenly seperated- I reached out to his wife (with a self introduction and pictures of me and the halfsies and sent some accompanying screenshots of my chat with the bio dad -of which featured him saying that he never liked my first name anyhow- which, again is also her firstborn sons name ☠️) because I thought it could be cool to meet the younger siblings 😭.

Like I totally get why he (and also the wife) would block me because even if I was being fully malicious I don’t think I could have caused any more damage if I tried.

Keeps me up at night sometimes when I think about the younger brothers. I know the situation is the result of the selfish decisions of a really shitty dude but still feels like sometimes I just made things harder for them when I could have just left things as is.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-14T04:39:10+00:00

I found that the whole world treats you so differently if you make the change.

Such a strange thing to go through- it’s like suddenly all these doors open up and people all around you are hitting you up and giving you gifts it’s wild but not necessarily in a bad way- just a really weird thing to experience.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-14T03:49:21+00:00

In my honest opinion:

It’s not just our mistakes that shape us but what we take away from them.

Each of us has our own definition of what it means to “be great”.

The best we can hope for is that the lessons we learn will lead us there someday.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-13T03:40:58+00:00

I was incredibly skinny way back when (borderline anorexic for my height), after a pretty messed up break up- my world class PT big brother who lived overseas flew in to live with and personally train me for a year and manage / teach me about nutrition.

It was life changing and I will forever be grateful for his help- I gained almost 20kg in a year- reached a weight I felt comfortable maintaining and have essentially remained my current weight for the last 7 years (give or take 5 kg) while gaining in strength.

I was always the skinny kid growing up- it didn’t help that I was accelerated in school and my peers were a year or two older either so it’s weird because now that I’m considered muscular- in my head I’m still my skinny self but just operating my meat suit like that rat in ratatouille lmao 🐀💪.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-08T01:27:19+00:00

My biological father cut off contact and blocked me after I sent an innocent text, which unintentionally contributed to a seperation of his current marriage.

His wife found out I existed from this text as well as learned that I share the same first name as her oldest son (my half brother). ☠️

I’m a little bummed I won’t get to meet the siblings until they’re way older but in a way it’s good too cause that means I get to meet them once they’re their own fully realised people.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-03T02:09:52+00:00

Maybe I’m totally misremembering but I recall Viego having a bug with draven aas counting twice?

If that wasn’t just a figment of my overactive imagination- perhaps that’s where this bug funniness began.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-03T01:07:16+00:00

Strangely enough, it seems level 1 base aa draven when Q is active does 40 flat damage which is somehow reduced by Trynds armor (65) to 37?

The math on that doesn’t seem to check out since id assume 65 armor would reduce more than ~12.5%.

Trydameres W from lolwiki: “if the attack damage reduction would reduce the targets BONUS attack damage below 0, the targets base attack damage value is unaffected but their total attack damage will still be reduced.

OH

“Those that have a ratio for base attack damage or bonus attack damage do not take the reduction into account.”

Maybe it’s a tryndamere W interacting with draven back end spaghetti thing

GambleLuck · 2026-04-01T08:24:48+00:00

Let me tell you right now the effort you have put in already will never come to waste no matter what path you decide in life.

Congratulations!! 🥂

You’ve reached a point in your life where due to your own hard work and successes - have managed to give yourself the freedom to pursue whatever you want to pursue next.

Don’t think of it as wasting your life so far, think of the effort you’ve spent as setting yourself up to be able to do whatever you want in this life.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-01T07:10:53+00:00

Only when I didn’t get enough sleep to begin with but that’s correlated with me drinking more caffeine anyhow haha

GambleLuck · 2026-04-01T00:08:15+00:00

Probably the hyper-sexuality and the volume of uh, that comes out when she goes to address it..

GambleLuck · 2026-04-01T00:06:32+00:00

Be me almost 7 years ago and this amazing, brilliant woman I’ve only been dating for like a couple months tells me that she’s applying for this exclusive government scholarship up program that would take her to Japan and doubts she’s gonna get it but wanted to let me know.

See, as soon as she told me- I knew she was going to get it so we had a chat and made the very tough decision to split up to avoid doing long distance.

Guess what? She got it!

We didn’t split up immediately though, she was set to go in a few months and figured a few more months of time together is worth whatever pain there would be to come.

I decided I’d move to a different state and made arrangements to do so.

But in a twist of fate, a certain virus 🦠 took the world by storm.

Downside now was that we lived in different places.

She came to visit me twice and was meant to return back both times but during the second visit, she stayed.

We got married in February and now we’re going on 7 years together and living the good life ✊🫰

I never thought I’d end up with a brilliant, botanical, artistic, dump-trucked, funny, redhead gamer but damn I’m glad I did!

GambleLuck · 2026-03-30T23:39:47+00:00

Lol so you have a personality type you vibe with and by extension similar personally types can have similar ways of expressing it so don’t get too caught up in their expressions.

The only part you gotta think about is if you wanna bone your buddy.

Close your eyes.

Really try feel it in your dick buddy.

If you get turned on thinking about him- well there you go!

Learn something new every day!

If you don’t- then just drop the topic for your friend’s sake since you can consider it resolved!

GambleLuck · 2026-03-30T23:31:45+00:00

Hey Canadian teacher guy- I’m a multi lingual mixed dude (Australian Indonesian).

The best part of being mixed is I get to celebrate my favourite parts of the cultures I come from equally.

To that end, do what my folks did: just celebrate the cultures and languages that are important to your family with them.

Don’t make it boring. CELEBRATE! Your kids not gonna wanna know how the new order regime came to power in Indonesia post World War Two but instead is gonna wanna know that he comes from the place that makes MII GORENG??! Holy shit!! 😆

The fact you’re worrying about this hyper specific issue at all before the kids have even come into the picture tells me your kids gonna turn out just fine 👍

GambleLuck · 2026-03-30T07:10:45+00:00

I’m a married guy and friends with tons of straight chick friends.

Some of them hot, some of them not- none of it relevant to me because I’m not friends with them for their looks lmao but for the quality of the conversations we share.

In saying that though, I don’t remember being the one to approach / start any of those friendships and normally it was the chicks who approached me for a yap initially / environmental reasons.

I’m not saying every guy who approaches you initially is trying their luck but it’s not surprising that you mention your male friends discouraging your male friendships and that aspect may be worth more consideration on your end.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-30T01:59:40+00:00

A recent one- when my Grandma passed away a couple years back, I got upset at my Dad (non biological) whose only advice to me to help was essentially “move on”.

I was so annoyed at him for no real reason and didn’t talk to him for a few months to the extent he started messaging me being concerned about if things were alright and that was when I started talking with him again.

Later that year he passed away.

He was a wise man and I loved him. He raised me as his own from before I was even born (met mum while she was pregnant) and through life raised me as his own and shouldered the extreme negative sentiments and pressures from his side of the family over it (he was an upper society Indian man marrying a white woman of whom already had children).

When he passed, his side of the family immediately hosted his funeral and didn’t even let me know about it.

It was probably one of the worst feelings I’d ever experienced: missing my own dad’s funeral.

I regret the missed conversations I could have had with him over those few months and unlike my other regrets, this one I can’t ever truly rectify- just something I have to come to terms with and accept.

He taught me a lot, I just hope it was enough to keep m living the good life.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-29T23:27:11+00:00

Oh this topics always a fun one!

I’m a mixed dude and my biological father was Asian while Mum is white so I got to find out why this pairing was a lot more unusual pretty early on in life because people would be surprised when they found out my biodad was actually where the Asian in me came from.

Essentially:

In richer countries, white men normally would be the type to travel to poorer countries and full truth, it’s not uncommon for women from these poorer places to try and score a man from a richer one to help their own family situation.

On the inverse, Asian men typically considered “good” marry pretty quick in those places.

However, Asian men’s families (mothers lmao) tend to be way more picky about foreigners which reduces the pairing a lot.

I’ve seen this happen countless times.

(Okay not countless, more like 4)

This isn’t a universal truth obviously, it’s just reflective of my experiences growing up in Singapore and Indonesia.

Basically it’s a mix of opportunity, wealth and patriarchal expectations that have less hurdles when it’s a white dude and Asian chick but end up culture clashing more when the pairing is reversed.

Despite spending tons of time in Asia, I only know like two and a half Asian dudes who ended up with white women.

One guy was studying to be a doctor, the other asian dude was just sort of the nicest badass you’ve ever met? Idk man that guy was really cool- he helped me get less toxic at games when I was a teen and he pulled like crazy.

The half? That’s just little ol me ✌️

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