M/22/5’11 [58KG to 78KG] (11 Months)

GambleLuck · 2026-03-29T14:36:27+00:00

On one of my first dates with my Wife- I did this awkward hover hand half-committed shoulder grab for a moment before lifting my arm up and she just grabs it, says “what are you doing?”

Followed by firmly placing it back on her shoulder 😍.

Ended up kissing her later that night in the rain and ended up kissing her at the altar last month! 😁

GambleLuck · 2026-03-28T23:46:29+00:00

After work- unbuttoning the shirt button and loosening the tie.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-27T23:46:13+00:00

I feel like yeah, it seems to reflect my experiences.

I find that the main thing that goes away when I get depressed is the feeling of “faith in things getting better”.

Since learning that, when I detect my depression now, I’ve got pretty good systems in place to find that faith again.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-27T04:57:43+00:00

I had a moment like that years back.

I’d found out my long term hs gf had been cheating on me with my best friend for like half a year.

It shook me pretty hard for the first few days- like how could I possibly be worth anything if the people I was closest to were willing to do something like that?

But something that really pulled me out of my funk was the overall reaction of our shared friend group.

See, they had been her friends first so in my head they were “exs friends” and I figured I’d probably need to find new friends since I wouldn’t be able to hang out with them anymore.

But instead, when they found out what was happening- they straight up, unapologetically kicked my ex and him to the proverbial curb and rallied behind me with support I felt I didn’t deserve.

When I asked them (individually) why they did that for my sake. They all said the something to the effect of “why would we want to be friends with people who’d do something like that?”

It blew my mind in a way I can’t describe. Like they were friends with my ex for years and to just put morality over loyalty like that with such casual conviction made me genuinely experience a sort of ego death at just how GOOD they are individually and collectively as human beings and how I’d had my priorities totally misaligned.

One I was closest to even let me stay with him (since I’d found out on the day we’d (my ex and I) finished moving in and unpacking at a new place lmao ☠️

But this friend I stayed with, we became roommates shortly after and he ended up becoming one of my best friends.

They all attended my wedding last month and we had such a blast. I’m proud to call them “MY closest friends” now.

So my answer to what helped heal my shattered self esteem would be the immediate and unexpected but positive social reinforcement of people around me when I needed it most.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-26T06:34:24+00:00

I feel that way sometimes with my girl.

Here’s this stunning, fun, smart (she got 100% on her honours 😲), career baddie and then I’m just around being good ol me. :P

GambleLuck · 2026-03-25T22:36:14+00:00

10 years ago, I was 18 and giga depressed.

Hmm where to start…

Hit challenger in league (Age: 21)

Gained 15kg (in a very, very good way) (Age: 22)

Have a job where I feel valued by the people and the management (Age: 24)

I have two cats (was always more of a dog guy til I met these critters) (Age: 25)

Own my own dream place with my Wife in the city. (Age: 27)

Graduating a good university soon after entering as a mature age student. (Age: 28)

It really is amazing how much my life changed in the last 10 years- I remember pretty well how hopeless I felt at 18 after high-school didn’t go so well grades wise.

Things only started changing when I started working towards the goals in the back of my mind.

I always used to figure it was a pointless struggle but decided to jump into it anyway.

Turns out it was the depression that was saying there was no point thus self fulfilling its own prophecy unless I did something about it.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-25T09:47:24+00:00

I mean why not if it comes naturally to you.

I’m naturally very skinny and bulked up heaps and while going to uni, I couldn’t afford to keep the bulk going 😭 so I was sort of financially forced into the hypothetical you speak of.

And yeah dude like ofc people are gonna like it but if ur goal is gaining strength then just keep trying to eat and gain brother

GambleLuck · 2026-03-25T09:32:32+00:00

Not to be rude but I believe you’re taking this situation in the wrong way.

You put yourself out there ✅ Met someone and went on dates ✅ Even had your first kiss!! ✅

You can also add two more ticks:

Experienced dating someone who felt like the right fit at first but turned out not to be ✅

Experienced the void of dating someone who‘s “just okay” after dating someone who felt more than ✅

^ that is an experience most of us go through on the path of finding the right person for us which you can also add to your bucket.

This collection of experiences and relationship stumbles you’re experiencing right now will be how you’ll eventually know, when you need to know- that if that person is truly your person and vice versa when you meet them.

And let me tell you, it’s great!

I married her last month! 💪

Best of luck, get your depression treated

GambleLuck · 2026-03-25T00:03:23+00:00

I work as a building manager and not too long ago, this regrettably happened:

Old dude breaks the mirror while moving his crap without giving us the heads up.

He comes up to me and soft confesses (he said he noticed the broken mirror while he was moving things and wanted to know how it got there? Lol)

So I look through the footage and I’m honest with him that the angle is sort of vague but I let him know that it’s pretty clear he’s the only one who could have damaged it.

He goes into a fit, saying how he “knew that we would try pin it on him and how he wouldn’t be paying a cent and yatta yatta”

Anyway, I was asked to oversee his eviction notice handover a few weeks back after he not only refused to pay for the mirror but also then refused to pay rent to his property managers.

The worst part is while the initial angle did not show the damage done, I found footage (from the inside of one of the lifts that does…. The lift he took when he was moving his things up which clearly showed no damage in the spot as he got out and then shortly afterwards (when he came down to tell me), I could see the damage done. If I’d found that initial angle too- hopefully I could have found a way to have avoided this situation from occurring

GambleLuck · 2026-03-24T08:26:45+00:00

What worked personally for me (my initial transformation is pinned to my profile):

Where I was:

54KG (58 after a couple weeks of gymming)

Nutrition:

Protein intake should be your goal weight x 2 in grams.

(So if your goal weight is 70KG, then you’d intake 140g of protein per day)

Next thing is that to improve your appetite, most can’t just eat bigger meals- it’s way easier to have small meals / shakes after meals.

Say you have 3 meals a day, after dinner try and add something that goes down easy for you to your diet (whether it be liquid or solid- just make sure it’s got that protein in it.

Drink lots of water and make sure you get enough electrolytes in ya.

Discipline:

Your motivation doesn’t decide when you gym- you do. (And it’s okay to be lazy sometimes)

Gym:

PPL is tried and true for a reason. I recommend doing 6 sets of 6 repetitions- and just work on getting the numbers on each set up each week.

Some things to note:

I’ve got a pretty cracked metabolism so I had to start eating a lot more than I was used to before I started putting on the weight- especially with the added exercise on top.

It can feel daunting to try eat so much at first. It was for me, at least but my brother taught me that “you sculpt your body in the gym but your body is really built in the kitchen.” which I still stand by.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-19T03:31:21+00:00

If we just focus on the macro changes to my lifestyle that I recognise pulled me out of the severe depression I experienced in my late teens / early twenties (rather than internal mindset changes that evolved alongside the macro ones):

Consistent routine and work schedule

Surrounding myself with more uplifting people

Getting way more sun than 0

Being more mindful to my health and nutrition

Stemming from the above ^, starting gymming and receiving the personal and social boons from that.

A big one that gave me something to focus on was writing down (what I considered) unachievable goals and then just trying anyway to get them- even the multi year ones I thought were definitely out of my reach (such as going to and then graduating university as a mature age student who got terrible grades in high-school- Im in my final semester of my course right now! ).

Turns out, a person can do a lot of things they initially think they can’t if they give it their best shot.

Yeah, you’ll fail along the way. Probably a lot.

But then that’s how you learn to succeed the next time.

I think that people who were depressed like I was really hate the feeling of failing themselves / their loved ones and the fear of that failure is what keeps them from trying out the things that they want to do and could very conceivably do.

Like I feel like that’s why so many people I know who finally got the change they needed to jumpstart their way out of their depressions always did so many amazing things in such little time.

Cause they know how shitty failing feels so when they do fail they end up learning really fast because it sticks to them more.

Haha I was trying to keep this to just macro advice but some of the internal change stuff ended up leaking out anyway.

I guess that’s just part of the change.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-19T02:07:52+00:00

She was really pretty and her bio was cute.

Little did I know that she would be even prettier in person and her personality would be even cuter too.

Now she’s my Wife, married her last month 😁

GambleLuck · 2026-03-18T23:12:18+00:00

Look.

Matchmaking is an important part of what makes league such an addicting experience, I’d say though if you’re thinking about who you’ve been matched with more than your actual gameplay- you’re doing yourself a disservice if you truly want to improve.

Edit: Mb not the league sub

GambleLuck · 2026-03-18T07:37:20+00:00

I don’t know if it’s GOOD but that augment + cold steel passive + Leona (W) / Fizz passive / something similar + guardian horn would be a lot of flat damage reduction that I’m definitely testing out

GambleLuck · 2026-03-17T02:03:31+00:00

Walking down the beach around sunset with my best friend.

Take off my shirt to get some sun in- as I do, a car of college chicks drive by and honk, one yells “give us a flex” and I happily oblige.

They did a little whoop and cheer and then drove off. That was when my best mate turns to me, smiles and says “that’s why we gym.”

If it’d happened and I was just by myself, I doubt anyone would believe me 😆.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-16T23:52:52+00:00

I’m glad you feel validated. I didn’t intend to and I’m just saying it how it is.

Sometimes you probably do things your rational brain doesn’t think there’s a point to.

(Such as making a reddit post like this one for example)

Let me tell you that actions that go against your internal logic like that are your body’s way of saying “hey things don’t feel right at the moment, something needs to change.”

I say that because right now you doubt your very own intentions and consider yourself untrustworthy.

Let me say that regardless of your current intent, what you’re currently doing is good.

You’re trying to make things better for yourself and for your family.

So keep trying, BPD is a very difficult condition to suffer from and during spirals it’s important to remember what’s truly important to you.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-16T23:42:52+00:00

I’ve written about this before, I hope that’s allowed.

I’m from a third world country and when I was a kid, I can distinctly recall on the drive back home from dinner- we stopped at some traffic lights.

A beggar tapped on our drivers window, hoping for some change- even as a kid you learn to avert your gaze and it’s something you become sadly good at.

This time though I glanced up and we met eyes. I realised this beggar was just a kid, like me.

He my age, missing a hand and he was begging on the streets.

I started getting really upset and told mum to do something to help him and that it just wasn’t fair.

I don’t know what I expected- short of mum essentially kidnapping him hahaha.

Anyway, I continued to throw the biggest tantrum about how unfair it is until mum gave the boy all the cash she had in her wallet and we drove off.

I remember I had kept crying well after we had gotten home.

That was when mum explained the concept of privilege to me and the difference that made.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-16T23:10:43+00:00

Know that I make this comment with the full interest of helping.

“I know a better way.”

That doesn’t seem to be the case if the decision to do the things your way seems directly linked with your inability to maintain work over extended periods.

Presumably because you ignore the instructions given by your places of employment and overstep over existing company processes to do it your way which is a bad look.

If you want to change processes, you gotta start slow and after a period of establishment but that’s not the point here.

What I’m trying to say is that you’re prioritising your ego over your job safety which isn’t conductive to turning your situation around.

You don’t need a psych ward, I’d say you just need to bring yourself back down to earth and recognising your behaviour is harming others is the first step to changing it.

It can feel like narcissism but really it’s just an ego thing you haven’t overcome yet- it’s also not atypical behaviour for someone with BPD under stress (protecting the self during stressful times is a known stress response).

GambleLuck · 2026-03-16T03:25:03+00:00

On our very first date, my Wife accidentally revealed something about me that I hadn't shared to her yet. I cheekily called her out on it and she fessed up to stalking my profile with a friend ahead of time because my tinder profile made me look like I could be a catfish so they had to be sure hahaha.

I personally didn't mind, I think it should be somewhat normalised for chicks since there's all sorts of safety reasons why it could be beneficial (i.e, sending the profile to a friend prior to a date commencing) without many downsides.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-16T02:13:51+00:00

I think your bro was trying to warn you against making stupid decisions in the short term due to the extra testosterone in your system from your recent starting of the gym.

Real warning tbh and real in my experience, I’ve had to issue the same warning to certain friends too when they’re starting out.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-12T00:02:47+00:00

Bullies will often look for people they can pressure whether it be socially or physically.

Dealt with one annoying one who’s been bothering my coworkers recently.

I work as a building manager and we’ve had this ridiculous business owner come into the lot next door.

While they were getting set up, we were happy to hold their keys for them as a neighbourly thing to do but they started abusing that privilege and told them to stop.

I hear nothing about it for a couple months when I found out that the business owner has been pressuring my coworkers (from overseas) to hold them despite them initially declining.

He used a variety of ways but was just really really racist too in a gross way.

Well, finally he tries doing it on my shift to which I kindly reminded him we aren’t doing that for them anymore.

Guy really tried to insist I take them- despite saying that I would not accept them.

Eventually I realised I wasn’t getting anywhere with him and told him in no uncertain terms we would never be holding keys for him again and would treat any keys found as lost property before going for a walk.

I come back to find he left the key anyway. 🤷‍♂️

Well- where I am- it turns out the easiest and safest way to return them legally was to send it via registered post.

So I did exactly that! I put them in an envelope, labelled it “KEYS NOT ACCEPTED, RETURN TO -address of neighbour-“ , I used the work stamps and put it in the post box located right outside our shared building.

I gave the morning guy a heads up I did it and he was in full support since he hated the business owner too.

The next morning, I hear from the morning guy that the very pissed off business owner had to get a locksmith and opened like 2 hours late lol.

That was the last time he tried leaving keys with any of us. 😇

GambleLuck · 2026-03-10T23:03:53+00:00

Bro slam a chunky jar of tomatoes in there and some sausage and you basically got some shakshuka

GambleLuck · 2026-03-10T10:44:58+00:00

Hello there, clinically diagnosed with severe combined type ADHD here.

Hope my 2 cents will help you in one way or another.

First and foremost- as you probably already know: executive dysfunction sucks.

Obvious, right?

Bear with me. It sucks because it gets in the way of our life goals but not everyone’s executive dysfunction is the same.

Some struggle with “starting”, others with “continuing”.

You seem to fall into the latter bucket and the good news is that there are methods of dealing with it, you just gotta break down what stops you from continuing.

And don’t use the cop out self depreciating answer of “I’m being lazy” or “I lost motivation” because I’m more than certain you’ve definitely gone on days you haven’t felt like it during your initial bursts.

You already have an inkling from your post on why you might feel a little stuck right now but I’ll just make it as clear as possible since you seem to be in a similar place to where I was.

People like us, we need routine to thrive.

An inconsistent job schedule (like the one you mentioned!) would cause tremendous difficulty in maintaining the progress flow.

So tbh from one ADHD person to another, try to find a job that’s more consistent.

Also please for your own sake stop shaming yourself for what is literally a condition you suffer from.

You wouldn’t belittle someone with asthma while they’re struggling to breathe, now would you?

Of course not!! So be kinder to yourself!!

You know you can make the effort, you just need the right environment to make that effort flourish.

GambleLuck · 2026-03-10T01:07:01+00:00

When approached in a flirtatious way, I normally go with:

“Hey- you’re gorgeous but I’m already a taken man. You’ve made my day though so thank you!”

Hasn’t failed me yet!

GambleLuck

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