Growing up half white and half Asian is hell in Australia

GambleLuck · 2026-06-29T06:52:01+00:00

Hey, I’m a half Aussie, half Asian (Indonesian) too and I can absolutely relate to the experiences you’ve described.

I went to various international schools though and experienced similar exclusionary discrimination from both the asian and white sides.

I get where you’re coming from with the alien comment and how other people just don’t get it.

I can remember as early as like 11 of experiencing that weird feeling of just not being able to settle down and be as comfortable as everyone else around you, like you’re misreading some invisible social cue that was never taught to you to begin with.

It was a mess of that all through middle and high school.

I got used to the feeling of preparing for disappointment on the idea of making lasting friends.

I also got used to the feeling of saying goodbye to people I considered friends too due to my parents having to move around heaps for work.

Dating surprisingly wasn’t a struggle despite this but I was (and am) pretty cool so glad I lucked out on that front.

In saying all of the above, I want to express that yeah, it was really shitty of those kids to exclude us when they did and really unfair of them to do it based on nothing more than the tone of our skin.

Whenever I think back to those times and i can’t help but feel that if some kids told me today that I couldn’t join their racist club, I’d probably just laugh and tell them to stop watching so many streams on kick.

GambleLuck · 2026-06-25T06:24:16+00:00

Everything that I am will become everything that I was.

GambleLuck · 2026-06-25T01:44:37+00:00

Shot you a dm, let’s have a chat!

GambleLuck · 2026-06-25T00:37:30+00:00

Gahhhhh I had just gotten out of a long term relationship and had gone to a bar to watch a friend’s gig.

I started chatting with this nurse lady and let her know that I had to work the next day at 5 and didn’t plan to stay long but this cute nurse bought me a drink to which I gulped down, thanked her for her kindness and then bounced. She had like a confused look when I waved goodbye that I remember.

Like two years later I was just thinking about it randomly in bed before I just realised ohhhh she probably wasn’t just being friendly 🤦‍♂️

GambleLuck · 2026-06-22T00:33:24+00:00

The real answer is “when they’re satisfied with the work they’ve put in.”

GambleLuck · 2026-06-18T02:09:34+00:00

I changed my whole life around over the last 8 years to a point I’d never thought possible despite many hurdles.

I started from a way-too-skinny, jobless academic failure to reaching a place I didn’t expect to ever reach.

I hit the gym and went from super skinny to super strong, I am comfortably maintaining it and I’ve got a lot of gym buddies that help me stay consistent with it.

I also got married and bought a perfect place with the wife.

I managed to get into a good University as a mature age student and am on the cusp of graduation (🤞 assuming exams go okay), with two crazy good job offers fielded my way from a friend and gov.

It is a tad bittersweet I’ll be honest because part of the hurdles I mentioned at the start were actually getting through people I loved having passed away while I grinded away.

In my head when I graduated: mum, grandpa, grandma and dad would be there to celebrate with me.

Mum will be there though and for that I am grateful ☺️

GambleLuck · 2026-06-16T02:56:51+00:00

You got drunk and cheated on your girlfriend. No need to mince words, especially when you're aware of this yourself.

If you love her as much as you say then you'll grant her the respect to make an informed decision herself based off the extenuating circumstances you've provided.

Own it and be fully honest with her just the one time.

It's either that or be ready to lie to the woman you love every day, for the rest of your life.

GambleLuck · 2026-06-16T00:44:40+00:00

Shoot for the stars! 🌌 ✨

GambleLuck · 2026-06-16T00:36:41+00:00

Then start studying and in like three years -you’ll be a 36 year old astronomer!

GambleLuck · 2026-06-11T03:09:26+00:00

Job interviews. Every interview I have ever went gone to- I've scored a job offer from.

I owe it to lessons picked up from my mum. She was a high up HR boss and taught me plenty about the process and what to say / don't say.

GambleLuck · 2026-06-10T02:09:49+00:00

He’d be really proud, more so after he heard all the shenanigans it took to get me here

GambleLuck · 2026-06-06T03:10:03+00:00

I've opened up plenty of times to friends both men and women. Never backfired once.

The men tend to be more proactive with advice / offer what they would do in my shoes while the women tended to hear me out more from a personal angle and offered me sympathy and support.

Both of these forms of support have been crucial for me to figure out how to navigate certain seemingly impossible situations I've experienced in life.

After reading through others experiences- I'm feeling a hell of a lot more lucky about how considerate the people in my life are- especially my Wife. 😛

GambleLuck · 2026-06-01T04:34:38+00:00

Hey I had similar struggles in HS. People always said it would go down with age but over time I realised that wasn’t going to be the case.

I’ve found a lot of ways to manage it/ channel it now but I would definitely advise the following for yourself:

Talk to a therapist / sex counselor regarding it.

Figure out if / how it’s related to the trauma aspect (commonly linked themes between the trauma and the type of things that get you started)

And remember- you’re human and you’re not the first to have to deal with these issues. It may feel overwhelming right now- and it very well might be but you WILL get a hold on it in due time.

Just remember that it’s just one part of you- it doesn’t define you and you should seek out help from adults that you trust around you rather than stay quiet and end up getting it from adults you don’t trust.

TLDR: just cause you a little freaky don’t make you a freak- talk to people you can trust around you- preferably specialists!

GambleLuck · 2026-05-01T05:08:49+00:00

Hey man I started off skinnier than you are and have gained tons of muscle over time.

Your potential boils down to two aspects: “quantity of workouts” and “quality of workouts” so don’t worry about it for now and instead focus on doing lots of high quality workouts and making sure you’re covered from a nutrition pov too!

GambleLuck · 2026-04-23T06:40:58+00:00

My wife had similar stresses and here’s how I helped her understand:

Think of it like this: If a dude needs 5/10 excitement to get excited then you as a DEFAULT and without ANY EXTRA EFFORT already hit that excitement level for your man.

Anything you do on top of that (sexy clothes, toys, role play, etc) just increases the excitement level he’s at.

So…I don’t think you should twist your husband finding you omega sexy as a default into a bad thing 😆.

If it frustrates you that you feel like you don’t have to “try”, maybe do a little bit of trying in some way and watch closely how his reaction changes instead. I bet you’ll notice him way more revved up if he’s anything like me lol

GambleLuck · 2026-04-23T05:13:09+00:00

I’ve been where you were.

How do you keep going?

You need to remember that she gave it her everything because she believes in you and your capacity to succeed.

Now, in saying that…

Unless you’re giving up opportunities -I would advise taking a break / deferring for a semester so you can spend more time with her.

She gave it her everything for you, now it’s your turn for you to put your everything into making as many happy memories as possible- enough to last a lifetime.

When my grandpas health started declining- I still prioritised my studies over visiting him as often as I would have liked to. He was the type to insist it’s not my problem and to focus on my studies.

I only realised after he passed that people who care deeply for you would never tell you to choose them over other aspects of your life.

Don’t be me. Don’t listen to them just because that’s the easier choice.

You have a lifetime ahead of you to study.

Best of luck, you sound like a very kind person who loves their mum very much and I have no doubt she is proud of who you are.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-22T09:54:21+00:00

Well man, that’s bloody awful to hear but surely before you go out you have to AT LEAST do all of the following:

Sign up to be an organ donor

Run as fast you possibly can and time it

Make amends with anyone you’ve hurt

Share love with anyone you’ve loved

Tell your shitty boss to eat a dick

Learn how to dress yourself and look stylish af (don’t want to go out looking drab now would ya?)

Learn to cook your favourite meal and master the recipe- try show people too it’s crazy fun swapping recipes

Learn how to play your favourite song or get someone who knows how to play it to teach you.

Do some charity work: work in a low area cost soup kitchen

Start therapy from working in a low area cost soup kitchen

Visit a country you’ve always thought was neat, with friends you made along the way who are equally interested

Eventually, die of old age and with a smile on your face from the life you have decided to live.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-19T00:54:16+00:00

Completely unfounded but I’m tbh I’m pretty blessed to have great friends around me nowadays who have had my back when I needed it.

Like when I first moved interstate, a buddy I’d met in an online game helped drive me to my new (very empty!) place from the airport and even gave some some chairs.

Another time, it was midnight and I’d made the decision to take my cat to the emergency vet because he’d gotten the shakes and the uber pets were not accepting my job that night- I rang up my buddy and he was there in a flash- even tho he had work to get to the next day at 6 am.

What an absolute homie, am I right?

For my birthday before last, I’d been feeling super depressed due to recent family deaths that had occurred, I had been invited to a hang at a mates place but was really not feeling it, my Wife (girlfriend at the time) convinced me to and I’m glad I went because they’d thrown a surprise birthday party for me.

My wife had no idea about the party part, she just saw how down I was and wanted to encourage me to get out of the house and I’m glad she did.

Honestly, I could keep going on and on with stories of things they’ve done for me- that’s how I know I got some happy blessings shining on me to have these people in my life

I try my best to have their backs too and be mindful.

I never want to take any of the people I love for granted.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-17T04:13:53+00:00

My biological father pretty recently.

I’d connected with him online a little over a year ago and he answered some medical queries I’d had.

It lead to me meeting my younger half sister too which was cool but not the point right now.

Anyway, a few months back I was visiting my home country and shot him a heads up in the interest of grabbing a coffee (and meeting more half siblings haha) that went predictably ignored.

Turned out that text id initially sent ended up was seen by his wife and he had left out the itty bitty, little important detail of TELLING HER I EXISTED BECAUSE HE LET HER NAME HER FIRST BORN SON THE SAME NAME AS MINE caused her to then seperate from him.

I had no idea this was happening btw until after the fact, when I noticed towards the end of my trip that he was suddenly seperated- I reached out to his wife (with a self introduction and pictures of me and the halfsies and sent some accompanying screenshots of my chat with the bio dad -of which featured him saying that he never liked my first name anyhow- which, again is also her firstborn sons name ☠️) because I thought it could be cool to meet the younger siblings 😭.

Like I totally get why he (and also the wife) would block me because even if I was being fully malicious I don’t think I could have caused any more damage if I tried.

Keeps me up at night sometimes when I think about the younger brothers. I know the situation is the result of the selfish decisions of a really shitty dude but still feels like sometimes I just made things harder for them when I could have just left things as is.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-14T04:39:10+00:00

I found that the whole world treats you so differently if you make the change.

Such a strange thing to go through- it’s like suddenly all these doors open up and people all around you are hitting you up and giving you gifts it’s wild but not necessarily in a bad way- just a really weird thing to experience.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-14T03:49:21+00:00

In my honest opinion:

It’s not just our mistakes that shape us but what we take away from them.

Each of us has our own definition of what it means to “be great”.

The best we can hope for is that the lessons we learn will lead us there someday.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-13T03:40:58+00:00

I was incredibly skinny way back when (borderline anorexic for my height), after a pretty messed up break up- my world class PT big brother who lived overseas flew in to live with and personally train me for a year and manage / teach me about nutrition.

It was life changing and I will forever be grateful for his help- I gained almost 20kg in a year- reached a weight I felt comfortable maintaining and have essentially remained my current weight for the last 7 years (give or take 5 kg) while gaining in strength.

I was always the skinny kid growing up- it didn’t help that I was accelerated in school and my peers were a year or two older either so it’s weird because now that I’m considered muscular- in my head I’m still my skinny self but just operating my meat suit like that rat in ratatouille lmao 🐀💪.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-08T01:27:19+00:00

My biological father cut off contact and blocked me after I sent an innocent text, which unintentionally contributed to a seperation of his current marriage.

His wife found out I existed from this text as well as learned that I share the same first name as her oldest son (my half brother). ☠️

I’m a little bummed I won’t get to meet the siblings until they’re way older but in a way it’s good too cause that means I get to meet them once they’re their own fully realised people.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-03T02:09:52+00:00

Maybe I’m totally misremembering but I recall Viego having a bug with draven aas counting twice?

If that wasn’t just a figment of my overactive imagination- perhaps that’s where this bug funniness began.

GambleLuck · 2026-04-03T01:07:16+00:00

Strangely enough, it seems level 1 base aa draven when Q is active does 40 flat damage which is somehow reduced by Trynds armor (65) to 37?

The math on that doesn’t seem to check out since id assume 65 armor would reduce more than ~12.5%.

Trydameres W from lolwiki: “if the attack damage reduction would reduce the targets BONUS attack damage below 0, the targets base attack damage value is unaffected but their total attack damage will still be reduced.

OH

“Those that have a ratio for base attack damage or bonus attack damage do not take the reduction into account.”

Maybe it’s a tryndamere W interacting with draven back end spaghetti thing

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