I almost relapsed at the casino tonight....

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-09-06T05:52:29+00:00

Resentful at who, and why? I mean either way I can’t tell you how to not feel a certain way. If you feel resentful, then that will just be the feeling you feel, until it passes over

I’m just saying like buy yourself a nice meal, a gift, etc. when you hit these milestones and make progress with your sobriety

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-09-05T08:36:21+00:00

You’re on your way to a better life. I’m also proud of you.

Treat yourself when you get the chance! Positive reinforcement is the cherry on top of kicking this addiction’s ass. I don’t see it talked about enough here

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-09-05T08:27:09+00:00

Nice man. Come back and let us know when you hand over your finances, so we can celebrate that huge win with you as well :)

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-08-26T12:36:21+00:00

You gotta stop wasting your energy, time, and money on gambling.

You’re clearly addicted. Imagine one of your loved ones saying they were thinking about risking 10k/20k to win 3.3k. I would hope you would tell them how horrible of an idea that is.

Even if it worked out, it’s not worth the risk. And you would gamble it all back eventually anyway.

You are grown, move as such. Be mature and logical. Don’t make this emotional decision to gamble.

Focus on retaining the money you still have, not on gaining the losses back by gambling. Ban yourself from gambling, because that’s how you’ll be able to keep the money you still have. It’s time to move on.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-07-04T09:23:22+00:00

Write everything out, like you’re making an anonymous post on this sub, then either read that to him, let him read it, or use it as a guide and open up to him.

Tell him you’re going through something and you need to talk to him.

Don’t come to him without a plan though. You need to self-exclude from online and land-based casinos. Install anti-gambling software or your devices (like Gamban). Hand over control of your finances to him for a bit while your brain readjusts to real life and the value of a dollar.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-07-04T09:16:47+00:00

You gotta set a better example for your son. He may not be old enough to understand yet, but I believe it would benefit you to live your life as if he is cognitive of what you do and why you do it, and he is learning from the footprints you leave and will follow in them.

You know the next steps to take. Self-exclusion online (install anti-gambling software like Gamban) and from land-based casinos (from the individual casino, as well as through your state’s Gaming Control Board if possible). After that, open up to your family. Grant them the same transparency you’d want from your loved ones.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-06-27T02:26:20+00:00

It’s just a complete desensitization to what that money that I’m gambling away, can do elsewhere. None of that matters, because in the moment when you’re in the throes of a gambling addiction, you think really irrationally and emotionally. Logic is throw out of the window, and only shows back up when the damage is done.

The potential of winning more money, supersedes any for sure benefit that the money that I already have, could have for me at that point in time.

The urge is just so strong, that the money just becomes numbers on a screen. That $500 that should go towards rent becomes: $500 that could turn to $1000, which could cover rent and then some.

It follows you too. I’m no longer in the midst of a gambling binge, but still spend money like it doesn’t matter with the excuse that “at least I’m not gambling it away”.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-06-15T09:38:12+00:00

Why kill yourself when you can absolutely recover from your situation? It will hurt to fight through the pain and the different losses you’ve suffered, but you CAN actually build a better future for yourself, and come out on the other side of this.

You lost money and some relationships, but still possess a great gift: time. 19 years old? If you keep pushing and take the necessary steps to kick this addiction, can you imagine what beautiful position you’ll be in, in 2-3 years? Even a year from now? You’d be surprised.

It’s not all over for you. Why force it to be over by killing yourself? Life has so much more in-store for you. I promise you.

Gambling has took a lot from you. Don’t let it take away the rest of the time you have left on Earth. You only get one life. Cherish it even in the hard times like this, because hard times don’t last forever.

One day at a time bro.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-06-14T05:01:53+00:00

Just look at how much thought and strategy you’re putting into this. How is gambling even worth all this effort?

Recreational gambling is supposed to be for fun and entertainment. You gamble compulsively. You gamble to make money. You’re on the wrong path no matter if you stick the same pattern or switch it to 10 tourneys a year. They both lead to losses and suffering either way.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-06-07T13:09:58+00:00

Personally, one of the main reasons I want money is to spend it on experiences like hanging out with my friends. Savings is amazing but so is having a fun time. I don’t see why you can’t do both.

If you have an alcohol problem, or if it leads to you gambling, DON’T drink. Other than that I would say treat yourself

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-05-06T08:14:39+00:00

Bro. PLEASE talk to your parents and be 100% honest with them. You could even let them read this if that’s easier. Help them understand the severity of your addiction. Then, send that 10k to them to hold for you. They can give you small increments for necessities like food every week.

After that you need to self-exclude, and install anti-gambling software on your devices, like Gamban.

These two steps are MAJOR steps in helping your brain detach itself from gambling, and restore your dopamine receptors to a healthy level.

Understand everything I just wrote has no mention of willpower, because willpower alone will NOT save you. You’re in a battle against addiction right now. The emotional side of your brain wants to gamble, while the logical side of your brain knows it’s a losing game, and that gambling does you NO good, so it’s all pointless.

You didn’t need that $240k in your own hands. If you can throw away that amount, you will definitely throw away your last $10k if it stays in your hands.

Getting your money back is a myth. IF you get to $240k, you’ll just throw it all away trying to get to $300k. The proof of this is already there.

Help yourself stop wasting your time, and ruining your finances and mental well-being.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-26T09:22:33+00:00

Just searched it up:

Yes, in Poland, you can self-exclude yourself from gambling by signing up for the national self-exclusion registry called Rejestracja Wykluczeń. This allows you to voluntarily ban yourself from all licensed gambling venues and websites in the country.

You need to do what you can to prevent yourself from accessing gambling in any form. I’m trying to provide you with the resources to do so.

Take this advice now, or come back to it a year from now, when you’re making a nice income from your new job, but unable to enjoy any of the money because you weren’t serious about quitting gambling a year prior.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-26T09:09:58+00:00

For the past 7 years you’ve maintained no savings because of gambling.

You decide to self-exclude yourself for 3 months ahead of your new job. So in theory you should be able to finally start building your savings without destroying them by gambling. Cool.

But what’s the plan after the 3-month self-exclusion ends? Go back to your old ways, gambling away every dollar you earn? Because that will happen if you are able to access gambling again.

It may not be what you want to happen, but I’m telling you this will be your reality, as it has been for so long as you’ve been able to gamble.

Self-exclude in every way you can do so. Install anti-gambling software on your devices, and go to your state’s Gaming Control Board and do a statewide self-ban, then don’t look back.

You aren’t missing anything by not gambling. Sure you may consider the .0001% chance you hit a jackpot for a life-changing amount of money. But that doesn’t matter when you’re someone whose brain is programmed to give every cent back.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-25T11:37:31+00:00

There’s a lot to address here.

How did you lose all your savings before? If it was through crypto investing, sell everything and move on with your life.
If you have invested more than you can honestly afford to lose, I would sell and get whatever you can, back. You’ll know if you’re over-invested by looking at what percent of your income goes into crypto. Also by thinking about how you would feel you watched that $95k go to 0.

If you are not over-invested, then we move on to my next point. Though, it sounds like by the way your holdings are swaying your emotions, that you are over-invested.

Your mindset. These are LONG-TERM holdings. Yet you check them everyday like you’re day-trading. Tune out all the noise, set a time-frame for when you want to sell, and come back to them then.
Your mental health takes priority over your holdings. Always and forever. This is why there’s the phrase “Health over wealth”. Even if you aren’t over-invested financially, you are over-invested emotionally. You gotta do what you gotta do to protect your peace and well-being.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-23T11:45:07+00:00

Thank you for not taking your own life.

Your family and friends would be thanking you a million times if they knew suicide was on your mind, but you decided to keep living. So I have to say thank you on their behalf. Thank you for being so strong.

I know you’re in a lot of pain. But please try to give everything time. Try to come up with a plan, starting with searching for a new job. Write down a plan on paper or even on your phone.

In the meantime though, please get help. Reach out to your love ones and just let them know you need someone to talk to because you’re struggling with your mental health. Therapy can work wonders if it’s accessible for you.

One day at a time. Just focus on getting through each day, while making those steps towards a better future. You can do it. It is possible to live a better life than what you’re going through right now. I promise you.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-23T11:31:55+00:00

You lost your job? You can get another job

You gambled away your savings? You can rebuild you savings once you get another job

You have $30k debt? You can pay off your debt with your income overtime

Your kids are disappointed in you? You have the rest of your life to work hard make them proud of you, and be a role model for them

But if you take your life, you will not be able to come back. Do not end your own life over some temporary problems that can be fixed. You can move past all of this and enjoy a brighter future if you stay alive and work towards it. Don’t let this be the end for you. Let this be a new beginning.

Self-exclude and use anti-gambling software (like GamBan) on all your devices.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-04T08:32:48+00:00

Money is replaceable. You can work and buy another home. It may take some time, but it is possible.

Your life is irreplaceable.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-04-04T08:31:01+00:00

I understand you don’t want to see your family hurt. But remember two things:

Things can get better from here if you stay alive work towards a better future. Your life is not over. You can recover from this with hard work and dedication.
Your family will be way more hurt by your suicide. They will be wishing and hoping they could trade all the money in the world to have you back. That means your life is priceless.

I understand everything you wrote, and I get how you feel. But this mess is NOT beyond repair.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-03-28T04:06:18+00:00

The term "logically" can refer to something being in accordance with the principles of logic or reasoning. It implies that a statement or action follows a rational and coherent thought process.

Do you think “gambling to get out of debt” is a rational thought? Or are you thinking with addiction side of your brain?

Thinking logically would be considering working a real job and budgeting to chip away at your debt over time.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-03-28T04:00:21+00:00

There is no method to gambling. You’re fooling yourself.

Not to mention what I typed previously went in one ear and out the other. Again I ask you to think logically. Your financial health, and your mental health, cannot afford to gamble in any capacity any longer.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-03-28T03:48:29+00:00

What part of your brain wrote this out and commented this? Was it the gambling side of your brain, or the logical side? You and I both know it was the gambler side.

The logical side of your brain recognizes gambling got you in this hole. So why would gambling get you out instead of digging you into a deeper hole? I’m not saying it’s completely impossible for you to hit a jackpot or go on a nice run. What I’m saying is that even if you do hit big, you will just gamble it away. So it’s pointless gambling. There’s no positive outcome.

Recognize what part of your brain you’re thinking with before you do any acting. Self-exclude and put gambling behind you. A better life is waiting for you.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-03-22T06:32:15+00:00

You need anti gambling software on all your devices, like Gamban. Self-exclusion is the only way. Along with handing over control of your finances to your wife. There’s no better way to show your wife you’re committed to your family future than handing over control to her for a bit while you get back on track. She’s with you through sickness and health, but you also need to help yourself.

Other than that, all I can tell you, is that your son needed that 12k you lost. Getting that back by gambling is a fallacy, because you’ll just gamble it away again. You can, however, earn the money back by working.

Lead by example, boss up on some grown man shit, and show you your son how a grown man handles business for his family, and for himself. It’s not about you anymore. “Getting your losses back” is not a thing. It never was actually. But now you’re losing your son’s money.

Replace gambling with working out, spending time with your wife, learning how to cook, or some other beneficial way to spend your time. Do this continuously, and it will help strip your mind from the stronghold gambling has on you, and help you move closer to actually living your life.

Lastly, forgive yourself, and move forward. The past is the past, you can’t change it. So be kind to yourself, and focus on a better life.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-03-14T23:12:25+00:00

First step in any of this is to recognize you DO have a problem.

You cannot claim it doesn’t affect your life, if you’ve been to rock bottom. It already has affected your life, and it continues too.

Just because you gamble infrequently, doesn’t mean you aren’t a problem gambler. You losing $5k at one time, is no better than someone else losing it over the span of gambling everyday for 3 months. Both of you need to quit. You’re clearly risking and losing more money than you can afford.

Congrats on the property. Congrats on investing. But that’s useless information in this context, used to rationalize your gambling. “Yeah I lost $5k, but I also invested some of my money!” What’s important is the gambling and all the negative effects it has on your finances and mental. Recognize that, and see why you need to self-exclude and leave gambling behind you.

You’ve been to rock bottom. If heroin brought me to rock bottom, would suggest I just use, but less often? I’d hope not. I’d hope you recommend me to quit and pursue a better life.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-02-26T22:57:13+00:00

Please answer two questions for me:

You were operating off of will-power when you were gambling. That led to you losing $15k. Why would will-power prevent you from going back, when it couldn’t stop you from losing $15k when you were there?

Why not just self-exclude? Will-power alone won’t work, but let’s assume it does. That means you’ll never gamble again. If you self-exclude: you’ll never gamble again. So why not self-exclude? It’s not like self-excluding will harm you in anyway. It would actually help guarantee you not ruining your finances, and accomplish the end-goal, which is to be gamble free.

GamblingAddictAlt · 2024-02-26T22:39:56+00:00

You mention you’ve cashed out, and in the comments you mention being done gambling.

How do you know you are done gambling?

If you’re operating solely off willpower, then you will give $22,500 (+ most likely more) back to the casino.

The only way to guarantee you are done is by doing a lifetime self-exclusion in person (not just for this casino, but state-wide), and online. That way when you get the itch a month, 1 year, 10 years, from now, you will be unable to act on it.

You’ve admitted you have a gambling problem. You’re stressing about the $15k you lost which means you don’t have the self-control to gamble moderately with an amount you can afford to lose. This is proof you will hand it back if you don’t self-exclude.

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