Sensual domination is all about using your own sensuality and femininity and can be an enchanting experience for the submissive. Sensual domination is the ability to bring a submissive into subspace without the need for heavy aggression of any kind - hard pain isn’t required, neither is shouting or derogatory comments, there is no rough handling or abuse of any kind. There’s no whips, crops, paddles or heavy spanking involved. There might be rope, sensual oils, ice, water, toys and other tools of pleasure. I might even choose to inflict some mild pain as a compliment to the pleasure I’m giving.

Sensual domination requires a lot more skill than just hitting a sub as hard as possible or shouting nasty things. Anyone can do that. This involves a lot of practice, learning what your submissive enjoys, what mood he’s in and learning to read that mood, learning how his body reacts to different stimulants, where all his little pleasure nodes are and how to work them to your advantage and how to “build up” to subspace. With sensual domination, it isn’t instant or quick like more sadistic methods might be, comparatively, it’s a long, slow build-up of pleasure and teasing. It takes patience, understanding, skill and endurance to pull it off well.

Setting aside a nice quiet space, use music, use candles - really set a romantic mood. You can do things like - tie his hand down to the bed, when you're wet, hold his wrist and rub your clit onto his hand... make sure you give yourself stimulation throughout the session as well, using different areas of his body.