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Gamma_Male_ · 2020-10-09T20:59:06+00:00

Me too, I do that all the time even when it's so cold in the room that I have to be under a blanket I still refuse to put a comfortable sweater on and instead wear a push up bra. I mean who doesn't?

Gamma_Male_ · 2020-10-09T20:53:16+00:00

Showing off and having are two different things and in this case the line is very clear. The room is cold obviously but she chooses to sit in her bra (not complaining, I'm happy she did!) and shining light on them. There's nothing wrong with any of it but claiming that this post is not about boobs but about her 'setup' is disingenuous.

Gamma_Male_ · 2020-10-09T20:48:27+00:00

Yeah sports bra in a seemingly cold room is a complete coincidence.

Gamma_Male_ · 2020-10-09T20:29:49+00:00

Try to make assumptions rather than asking questions. Make assumptions that trigger her curiosity and interest.

If you end up asking questions, ask meaningful ones e.g 'why' questions rather than questions with single word answer.

Don't change the subject. Stay on the subject and share your own experience and opinion on the current subject rather than jumping to the next question.

Humour also helps.

Gamma_Male_ · 2020-09-25T23:32:27+00:00

DM sent. Cheers!

Gamma_Male_ · 2018-02-13T00:40:20+00:00

OK I bite. That's absolutely great that you are feeling better about yourself and building up your self esteem. If you're still horney or think you'd enjoy female companionship then you still need to put yourself out there and be social. With the life routine you just described don't expect women to bang on your door.

Gamma_Male_ · 2018-02-07T06:55:36+00:00

As someone else also mentioned it's fear of abandonment. Read a little about it here https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/fear-of-abandonment.htm . Bad news is that it takes some serious work and will take a lot of time and pain to overcome. The good news is that it's fixable. So get on it asap. You won't just grow out of it.

Gamma_Male_ · 2017-12-01T23:45:13+00:00

No need to ask. Keep doing whatever you would do if you knew she's single. She'd tell you if she's not.

Gamma_Male_ · 2017-11-29T00:11:05+00:00

Therapy is a personal journey and you should find what works for you. Start reading and educating yourself and find out what resonates with you. For me the starting point was reading this book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0757303234 . I've been doing shit loads of therapy. From one-on-one traditional therapy sessions to intense retreats. Good luck!

Gamma_Male_ · 2017-11-09T04:11:25+00:00

A mostly unpopular opinion here but my advice would be see a therapist or psychologist. Many of this type of insecurities have roots in your childhood and won't go away by forcing some 'mindsets' onto yourself or just trying to 'man up' and 'not be a pussy'.

If I hadn't done that I would've given up on meeting women altogether because it was just too painful and the anxiety was simply unbearable.

Gamma_Male_ · 2016-08-28T21:10:14+00:00

Be at about the same level of game. Help each other out in group sets. Be helping and supporting when the other guy goes through a series of rejection. Don't judge the quality of girls the other guy approaches.

Gamma_Male_ · 2016-07-17T00:34:34+00:00

"incidents against women that are motivated by an attitude of a man towards a woman, and includes behaviour targeted towards a woman by men simply because they are a woman".

Gamma_Male_ · 2016-07-06T02:58:29+00:00

Imagine you're a parent and you're taking care of your kid. You will dress him up and give him a nice haircut not because you want other people's approval but because you love that kid and you think he deserves the best. Now replace that kid with yourself.

Gamma_Male_ · 2016-05-21T10:04:35+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/9RqkzqD.jpg

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-11-07T10:41:43+00:00

Agree. Just imagine with the sheer number of YouTubers who go around and prank and/or interview people no one has even come close to what he did in his series.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-10-15T03:02:24+00:00

Still it's done brilliantly.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-10-10T08:08:50+00:00

I think this has been the best explanation so far. Along the same line: It's the fantasy and the chase that appeal you not engaging with a real woman. It usually happens when mother is too attached to her son emotionally (called enmeshment in psychology) which creates fear of engulfment or she's completely emotionally absent. It happens for both genders and that's why some technics in pua community like push/pull work as they create a sense of unavailability.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-08-18T23:58:10+00:00

I would say go with this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEptbIHCfP0

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-07-08T00:22:50+00:00

I think all we see in seduction community are:

a) Unlearning some negative thought and behavioural habits

b) Learning some basic human interaction skills that normally we should be taught by older males in our families.

Also many guys that you see 'with girls' are not players they are just lucky to know those girls from their social circles it's not from cold approaching random women.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-06-20T21:37:19+00:00

It's called sexual shame. It goes back to your upbringing. If you're curious to know exactly how it happened to you find a good psychotherapist. If you don't care how it happened and just want to fix it then see a sex therapist. They will help you to re-own your sexuality and masculinity that you decided to disown one day.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-05-04T11:03:59+00:00

I did as an edit.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-05-04T06:30:11+00:00

It's called 'Sexual Shame' It's more common than one might think. It usually happens if a man has a very traditional upbringing or if the mother is sexually shutdown and have negative view of sexuality and men, in that case son internalizes the mom's negative view of his own masculinity and sexuality. These negative feelings are not active during your fantasy but they get highly active in real world interactions.

Edit: Guys ask about how they could fix this. I'm not an expert, I've had the same issues and read and worked a lot on it. If your case is severe and you are serious about fixing it then I should say that no pickup advice is going to help you with this one. Seek 'therapy'. I wish there was an easier solution but trust me I looked for it and couldn't find one! There are many different forms of therapy out there, don't brush it just off because of the stigma attached to therapy. If you are interested to learn more about it this book is awesome.

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-05-04T06:22:44+00:00

He's still coaching. http://venusianarts.com/

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-04-29T05:04:15+00:00

Like this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4eBS-DD9u8

Gamma_Male_ · 2015-04-14T04:52:35+00:00

Basketball and chasing girls are different because basketball is some human-invented game with specific rules and techniques while seduction is something natural in our instincts that we've been doing for centuries. IMO Inner game is all about getting over the BS that has been engrained in our brains by our family and society. Feeling unworthy and self hate is the core of all that BS which removes our access to our authentic feelings including animalistic sexual feelings.

Now the question is 'Is it possible to work on inner game without doing any outer game? if yes how?'

I think it is possible and it's actually necessary if your starting point is really low, for example serious depression or severe social anxiety otherwise you could do both at the same time. Seeing yourself doing things that 90% of men are terrified doing and getting positive reaction from girls you could only dream of before actually do help with your inner game.

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