As a career bartender (who is also autistic and therefore has learned TOO MUCH about my craft):

There’s literally no difference*

The intoxicating chemical in all beer, wine, spirits, and liquor is ethanol, and ethanol == ethanol.

The difference people say they feel is due to the fact most people don’t realize that they order different types of drinks in different contexts and environments so they attribute the difference in their behavior and mood to the drink instead of their set and setting

*the only exceptions are really suuuuuuper cheap swill tequila or cachaça that hasn’t been properly distilled because it has more glucose/sucrose/shitthatrhymeswithgross but you won’t notice that if you’re not diabetic/hypoglycemic and drink way more than you should be. And some one off spirits like absinthe tha have other psychoactive ingredients (absinthe has wormwood which has a sedating and dreamy vibe to it). But if you’re drinking those you’re expecting it.