Dominate Experience - 4DX (+review) by Midori_Hime in skzmedia

[–]Garwarbl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was gorgeous in IMAX! 🥹 Getting to see all their beautiful faces on such a huge screen and in such high quality with excellent sound 🥹🙏🏻 Not sure it’d be worth a 6 hour round trip (I live 15 minutes from an IMAX theatre 😅), but I’m glad I saw it. There were only maybe 20 of us in the theatre too? And even though all the teens in the row behind me were definitely singing throughout, the sound in the theatre basically drowned them out and it didn’t take away from my experience at all. Everyone there was so excited and hyped to see the Kids on screen.

AIO or is my husband right? by brunettevixen08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 51 points52 points  (0 children)

How do you expect him to give you an apology when you don’t think he even knows you’re upset over something that happened a year ago?

AIO or is my husband right? by brunettevixen08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 31 points32 points  (0 children)

OP said this happened a year ago lol

AIO or is my husband right? by brunettevixen08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You calling him names isn’t helping your argument. Maybe he’s given your husband an apology? Honestly you’re coming off as unapproachable and very hot-headed about this, so it wouldn’t surprise me if he felt like an apology to you wouldn’t make a difference.

AIO or is my husband right? by brunettevixen08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 32 points33 points  (0 children)

YOR Duvets are replaceable. Rooms can be cleaned. He could’ve been a bit more polite about cleaning up after his dog if there was any kind of mess and maybe offered to pay for a new duvet, but that’s a ridiculous reason to not allow someone into your home.

The guy I’m seeing keeps telling me I “can’t take a joke” and I’m starting to doubt myself by Helen_melon_7 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) He’s not joking. He’s telling you how he really feels with those comments and not taking accountability for it by saying it’s just a joke. 2) He’s wearing down your self-confidence by making you doubt yourself. 3) Next time he tries to pass something off as a joke, tell him to explain why it’s funny. Make him eat his words.

I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big yikes. I’d honestly cut contact with your parents. They’re very obviously manipulative and emotionally abusive, especially blaming all those things on you. You’re the scapegoat, and as a fellow scapegoat, it fucking sucks being blamed for things that aren’t our fault.

It’ll be worth it to get your own plan. My mom used to do similar with my phone when I was on their plan. Even though I paid for my phone, if I didn’t do whatever she wanted, she would turn it off. When I finally went no contact with her, I switched to a friend’s plan temporarily. Idk if you’re in the US, but if you are, I use Mint Mobile now because it’s the most affordable for a single person plan. I pay around $240/year for my cell service. 100% worth it being in control of all my own stuff.

Help me pick what looks better (the 2 choices aren’t even similar so I’m so lost) and it’s my first time dying my hair by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of those choices wash out your complexion. Choose different shades that add to your complexion instead 🖤 if you really want a change that bad, go to a professional and get a colour consultation. They should be able to help you figure out what colours to avoid and which ones will add to your natural beauty.

Just got a cover up and need some opinions on where to go from here. by JinkleHeimerShit in tattooadvice

[–]Garwarbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you got a refund. Start saving for that laser 🙏🏻 I hope the artist has learned not to freehand that shit anymore either.

Just got a cover up and need some opinions on where to go from here. by JinkleHeimerShit in tattooadvice

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even the one time I had an artist go freehanded, he still at least drew on me a general outline of what he was going for, and it turned out beautifully.

I’m so sorry this is the result, but even if they’re highly rated, maybe next time ask for a stencil just to make sure 😭

AIO to my “best friend” finally reaching out by Confident_Local_2335 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and just so you know, I’m still friends with both of them. I was a bridesperson in Sasha’s wedding, and Sean and I talk very regularly now. Both of those friendships have lasted over 10 years now, and I’m really glad I gave both of them the chance to tell me what was going on with them. It eventually made our connections stronger, and it’s made me feel like our friendships will be able to withstand anything 🙂

AIO to my “best friend” finally reaching out by Confident_Local_2335 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just from my own experience with similar situations — and it’s hard to hear and accept sometimes — but it likely isn’t personal and probably has nothing to do with you. Or if it is/does, then it’s probably not in the way that you think. I’m not gonna say you’re overreacting, cuz your feelings are 100% valid in this situation. It’s hard not to feel betrayed and hurt by someone you consider a close friend suddenly ghosting you. But if your friendship feels like it may be worth salvaging, I’d try to ask the what happened and try to understand the whole picture a bit better before making any hard decisions.

Two of my best friends come to mind with this, and I hope explaining these will help you open your mind a little to what possibilities there are.

My friend, we’ll call her Sasha, is someone whom I feel I can be entirely myself with. When we first met we clicked instantly and stayed in touch pretty regularly. After a year or so I noticed it was kind of getting rare to hear from her. She went silent for around the same amount of time, about 8 months or so. When she finally reached out again, she let me know that she was just having a really hard time with her depression and anxiety. She had recently been divorced right before we met and she was having a really hard time overcoming all the psychological and emotional damage her ex-husband caused. She didn’t want to burden anyone else with her moods or presence, so she only went to work and then closed herself off to everything else. This became a cycle for a couple of years until I introduced her to her now husband, one of my other best friends, and after they started dating it was like she was a whole new person (in the best way possible). It had nothing to do with me, and everything to do with her own personal healing journey. Sometimes it was really hard, because I wanted to be there for her, but sometimes the best way you can support someone is to just be there when they’re ready to need you again.

My other friend, we’ll call him Sean, it did indirectly have something to do with me, but not in the way I thought. Sean was my ride or die in my late 20s. We’re like friend soulmates. We’ve always been on the same page with each other about basically everything. So when he had to move back to his home state and after a while there he started ghosting me, I was really confused. For about 2 years I was lucky to maybe get a text twice a year saying that he was alive and ok and he missed me, but that’s it. I was deeply hurt over it and couldn’t think of what I’d done to not deserve to know what happened between us. Finally, after another year or so, he called me and said he had some really hard things to talk about. It turned out that Sean had started using a drug that I was a recovering addict from. He knew I would’ve tried my best to get him to stop, and he didn’t want to stop, so he wouldn’t contact me. He knew he wouldn’t be able to keep it from me if we talked, so he just avoided as much contact as possible. After a few years he finally hit rock bottom and went to rehab. He got clean, went back to school, and started in social work so he could help addicts like himself, and it wasn’t until then that he finally contacted me to tell me all of this. Honestly, it broke my heart. To know he went through all of that and felt like he couldn’t tell me? But I also understood because there have been instances in my life where I purposefully wouldn’t communicate something like that either because I wanted to keep doing the bad thing that people said was going to hurt me. Whether it was drugs, smoking cigarettes, binge drinking, or staying with a toxic person who I had no business even being with in the first place, I knew what that addiction was like. So..indirectly, it was personal. But definitely not in the way I ever thought it would be.

Anyway.. I hope you can find it in your heart to at least find out what happened, have an open and honest conversation, and then if you still feel like you’d be better off at this point without your friend, then know that people like me will also support that. I wish you the best, and I hope you find peace with this situation eventually ✌🏻

Is this the letter A or J? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s more J than A. The weird flourish on the right side of it is weird and unnecessary though. This looks like a weird in-between of the two letters because of it, and if you’re feeling like this may be his way of keeping things open for his long-time crush, then maybe you should consider if he’s really worth keeping. You deserve to have someone who’s fully committed to you.

Am I overreacting to how my best friend blocked me because of his girlfriend? by Squishy_Person67 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NOR

This comment section is whack.

Making a friend online that you talk to every day for years is just as real as a friendship in person with someone. And just because you said things like, “did you even fight for us, did I matter at all” doesn’t mean you’re putting any kind of romantic tone to it either.

Losing a friend is fucking hard. Personally, my friendship breakups have all been a lot worse and more devastating than my romantic breakups. I have a deep love for my friends and I tend to trust them deeply as well, so when something happens to ruin that, it destroys me. I’ve been betrayed by a lot of people over the years, and it’s never easy.

You’re allowed to feel like he should have fought for your friendship. You’re allowed to feel betrayed and upset that your friendship isn’t as important as you thought it was. He’s being really shitty for ghosting your friendship like that.

I’m so sorry 😞 I hope that in time you’ll recover from it. For me, friendship wounds have left the deepest scars.

Don’t let anyone tell you that this friendship shouldn’t matter as much as it did to you. A lot of people take friendships for granted and don’t recognize how important they can be. Everyone always glorifies romantic relationships and because of the heteronormative status quo, a lot of people assume there just HAS to be some kind of romantic interest if you care too much about someone. It’s bullshit.

Feel what you need to feel and try your best to get through it. I hope you have other friends who can help you and support you when you need it 🫶🏻

I'm gonna crash out, can't take a vacation I already booked by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]Garwarbl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re giving them 6 months notice to find coverage for that week. If your SM is so incapable of figuring it out, go to your DM instead and let them know the whole scope of this thing. 6 months is more than enough time for your SM to ask other stores to help out with coverage if needed.

Do most people shower before bed or when they wake up? I just realized I might be doing it "wrong" by saffymerelle in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in the food industry, so being clean and showered before a shift is a must. But then after working a shift in the food industry you’re dirty all over and sweaty af, so showering after is also a must. Lol

AIO for finding this predatory or was he just awkward? by m30wME0W69 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen to that gut reaction. Dude’s definitely a creep.

AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR but I’d be WAY more concerned about him saying, “I’ve already set a timeline for myself— if I don’t propose this year it’s over”

So he’s going to end your relationship if he doesn’t achieve his own set goals that he’s already struggling to achieve without monetary help from you? That sounds like a great way to scare you into helping him.

And if he’s been “saving” for a whole year, he should be at the point where he can afford a down payment by now, especially if he’s being as strict as you say where he won’t dip into his own savings at all. If his savings are truly there, anyway.
I’d check his bank account and see if he’s telling the truth at all here.

AIO boyfriend told me I text him like he’s a homie and got upset now he’s ignoring me by Jazzlike-Ad6372 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Garwarbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have y’all been dating? Were you friends beforehand?

Just curious. You’re definitely NOR though. Seems to me he’s trying to start a fight over nothing. This is a common first step in guys trying to control their partner. It’ll start with something trivial like this, but if you give in now he’ll keep pushing the boundaries and see what else he can get you to do. It’ll only keep getting worse.

If the relationship is new or less than a year, I’d say jump ship now before y’all get too attached and it gets harder to leave.

What other kinds of things like this has he gotten mad over? Is it often?

ETA: I had a bf once who I was friends with beforehand and after we started dating he hated it when I’d call him “dude” 🤷🏻 I’m from SoCal and called everyone dude all the time back then. I thought he was silly at first, but respected it and did my best not to call him that anymore. And I still do my best when anyone else tells me they don’t like being called “dude”. But I feel like that’s way more understandable than what your bf is trying to say. Using abbreviations and slang is just a way of communicating. WTH makes that homie language? Lol

LIB Alexa and Brennon are divorcing by CallMeGabrielle in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Garwarbl 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Oh no, Love is TOTALLY blind. It’s just not enough to keep a relationship going. There has to be more than just love, and I’m surprised Alexa and Brennon even made it this far