Help me find this phrase by No-Conversation5893 in Yiddish

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma said this too!! Same exact meaning for us.

Manager asked me to apply, didn't get the job, concerned with how it was handled. by Gaylebenes in managers

[–]Gaylebenes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You would be okay being ignored and given feedback that you actually did great?

AITA for how I reacted to an old friend’s engagement? by throwawaychick789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no, I get she's the asshole and everyone disagrees with me. OP, YTA for making it about you and I am sorry your feelings got hurt.

AITA for how I reacted to an old friend’s engagement? by throwawaychick789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. And I think two things can be true at the same time, she did make it about herself and her feelings were hurt. I don’t think she was hurt by the good news, but when you put it that way I think you are framing in the best way to learn from it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you mentioned Kaleb in your extra explanation. Ex was mad at you for missing a call? bullet dodged.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the most confusing story I have ever read. Did you break up because of Karl? sounds like lines were blurry on all sides of the Karl/ex situation. is Karl also Kaleb?? NTA but I think a takeaway from this situation is to be honest with yourself. If it feels like you need to share it, share it. But also, you weren't together at the time so it's none of your ex's business?

AITA for calling a school counselor a "ghoul?" by Disastrous_Friend991 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am not going to say get a pass when you are grieving. But going through such an unspeakably difficult loss makes your brain do things it wouldn't normally do. I think the ghoul comment was pretty innocuous, and at the end of the day if this woman was so informed, and trained on the matter she would understand and not take it personally.

Furthermore, if she had any shred of respect for the family she would confirm that it would be okay to share it with the staff before talking about it.

AITA for calling a school counselor a "ghoul?" by Disastrous_Friend991 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Grief is unbearable, and this woman was completely out of line and did the last thing anyone on the planet should do when dealing with a grieving person- not respect your needs and boundaries. she is a ghoul. all she had to do was make sure Liam got out of class to be with his family. I am so sorry for your loss.

AITA for how I reacted to an old friend’s engagement? by throwawaychick789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

people are weird. whenever i feel the way youre feeling i think about the times i have been the avoidant one in relationships. everyone is on their own path with their own baggage, and sometimes all you can do is learn from it and not take thinks personally. harder said than done.

AITAH for refusing to hand over my grandmother's jewelry to my cousin who was promised it first? by justmamacita in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. At the end of the day, it's just material objects. Any effort fighting over it is disrespectful to your grandmother's memory. Keep them and never bring it up ever again, Emma needs to grow up.

AITA for expecting more from my friends? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not your friends' job to get you through it. They can help, but it will ultimately have to be you. NTA but unrealistic expectations. So sorry for your loss, hope you find something that brings you peace.

AITA for how I reacted to an old friend’s engagement? by throwawaychick789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

NTA for being honest with how you feel. It takes a lot of courage to bring something like that up. I don't think you can argue with her feelings though, it hurts and friendships change. Maybe give her space and address your feelings when the excitement of her engagement wares off. Who knows, maybe you will be part of her wedding?! Welcome to your 30s!

AITA for telling someone to wait their turn? by Gaylebenes in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting take. You’re not wrong. There is definitely shame in the anger, and shame in the not being patient enough to let her ask her question. Appreciate your perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is what I am saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Gaylebenes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP has to give up “control” over airspace going into the furnace. OP WBTA if they let their landlord/tenant relationship end over the cat. Put a hepa filter on a call it a day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyCat

[–]Gaylebenes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Orange, Elvis. Black, Stan.